Any moms out there wanting another one already?!

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I don't know what it is! I thought I would want to literally "die" if I got pregnant again after this last pregnancy! But I am finding myself overcome with the desire to have another one fast!!! I'm 38 so my clock is really ticking! I have a 4 year old daughter too. Any thoughts??

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Anya - posted on 02/15/2013

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Yes I agree! I have a seven month old girl and she is hitting these milestones so quick! Now I want another one, plus I have always wanted children close in age...I sat down and discussed this with the fiance and he says he isnt opposed...

Alexandria - posted on 05/18/2011

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When my son turned 11 months my husband and i started talking about having another one, we also have a 5 year old. This last time around it took us 2 years to conceive so we have talked about not leaving it as long to start trying so that if it does take us a long time again then there wont be a 4 year age gap as well, dont get me wrong i love having my sons 4 years apart and they are the best of freinds. But i just dont want to have to wait that long again lol. Anyways we were discussing about starting to try again and ..... guess what? i found out i was pregant, so didn't even have to start trying lol. i am worried about only having a 19 month age gap but everything happens for a reason so i am sure i will find out the reason for this sooner or later. Anyways i am 11 weeks now and due in December!!! Very excited that i dont have to wait 2 years :)

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Omg Kasey! We really are in the same boat! I'm so happy and relieved to read your struggle with the ideal and the logical just as I am having the same struggle! So many reasons not to but I still want to! :) thank you! Keep me posted

Kasey - posted on 05/08/2011

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I am in the same boat... I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 12 month old and I want another... even after having 2 horrible pregnancies... I mean there was over a month on both pregnancies that I couldn't even walk... they were both huge girls... LOL i was miserable. I was puking, had restless leg syndrome, diabetes which caused excessive weight gain, Symphysis pubic dysfunction, it was horrible and I was huge...

but for some reason I want another one... I miss being pregnant... I miss having a newborn... I knwo I want my kids close in age that way I can get my tubes tied since birth control is literally like taking poison to my body... and I wold like to have my kids close so that they become school age within a few years of each other so that I can go back to being a professional and draw a paycheck... but then I get thinking logically and think that if we have another one we can kiss the playroom goodbye... and my midsized sedan that isnt big enough for 3 car seats just wont work anymore... I just got rid of all the baby stuff... and to top it off i have 2 girls... having another would be in hopes for a boy, which dont get me wrong I really dont care if i had a boy or girl because its my baby I would love him or her to death... but If i have another girl then i would have to decide who gets their own room and who has to share (3bedroom house) and i dont even want to get into the dreading the teen years... I also know from experience that if i had 3 kids there would be ALOT more fighting... i am the middle child out of 3... and any 2 of us got along but when all 3 of us were together is was ALWAYS 2 against 1... and it still is... maybe my fears are ridiculous... I am just trying to weigh the options and I am torn a little... but i think once I lose a little more weight (trying not to get gestational diabetes again) we might try for a 3rd...

Sonya - posted on 05/03/2011

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Nichole, I can tell you that I agree with the Mom who said that since you are already concerned, you will handle it with the love and grace only a mother can provide. :o) I have an older one, much older. I can tell you that I was also worried that she would feel left out, but she has taken to her baby brother like glue. Its almost like he has a second mother. She loves him so much and he loves her just as much. He lights up with a smile when she comes home the same way as he does for Mommy or Daddy. But my daughter is much older than 4, so I kinda luck out there. But if you keep her included in taking care of and teaching the baby things, I'm sure things will be just fine. This is just an idea, but maybe try to teach her some signs, then ask her to help you teach them to the babies. I've heard stories of parents enlisting the help of older children to teach the babies and the result is a very strong bond between the children. So much so that sometimes they develop their own signs and communicate in a "secret" language. Just food for thought...

Liz - posted on 05/03/2011

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We were planning on trying this fall. I thought a little over 2 years would be a great age gap. I found out last week that I am due in December. They will be 19 months apart. A bit scary but I am really excited for Samantha to have a sibling.
Mary, I totally understand that desire to keep her a baby for as long as you can. I am really going to try hard to not push her to grow up too fast just because she is the older one. She will still be a baby to me.

Mary Renee - posted on 04/30/2011

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You should wait at least a year to a year and a half in between pregnancies for your own health. Your body needs the time to readjust and it's also better for the baby. Also, having pregnancies close together makes it a lot more difficult to lose the baby weight. Anyway, that's just what my ob/gyn said.



I guess I'm kind of the opposite of everybody here though, because as my daughter gets older the idea of getting pregnant again scares the heck out of me because I want her to stay my "baby" for longer and want to be able to shower her with all my attention before trying for another.

Nya - posted on 04/28/2011

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My son is 2.5 and JJ is 11 months. They are 20 months apart, and I love that... it's hard at first, but totally worth it to have them be so close. We would've started trying for next one already except I'm going to school and want to try to time next birth during summer...so it doesn't conflict with school :-)

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Oh Emily I am working on losing wt too! I've been walking routinely with other moms and sometimes alone because I want to be in the best shape I can be before having another one. I joined a group called 60 in April and we try to walk 60 miles in the month of April! We are gonna do it again in May! You can join if you wish! :) good luck!

Emily - posted on 04/28/2011

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ive wanted another one since he was 6 mos old. unfortunately i had issues with my blood preasure, so the dr told me i have to drop 40# before i do that again.. its hard but we're going to try to wait till november ish to start trying

Tania - posted on 04/28/2011

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Nichole, i think the fact you are already wondering how your daughter will cope means if you do decide to have a 3rd you will handle it brilliantly.

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I think having two close together is a good idea because you are still in the baby "mode" and your life is still revolving around diapers and breastfeeding,etc. As far as having another one for the sake of being able to hold another baby in your arms, I think I am worried that I am just craving the baby phase again rather than wanting another actual child in the house. I worry that having another one will take too much away from the 2 I already have. But it is such a miracle to have a baby and such a blessing that I think maybe I do want another soul in the house! I worry my daughter will feel left out because she is from my previous marriage and now the other 2 would be from my current husband. Would that make her feel outnumbered? Would the younger two who are closer in age be closer and make her feel left out? These are all fears I have as a mom. But I can imagine the bonds they all have with each other will replace any feelings of being left out in the long run. :) What do you all think?

Amy - posted on 04/28/2011

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I became pregnant with my second child when my first was almost 1 year old. They are 20 months apart. As hard as it was the first few months, I am so glad I had them so close together because they are great friends. I really would not change the age difference if I could! As for costs, I don't think it was a big deak. We had two in diapers but I breastfeed and make my own baby food so we did not have any extra expenses there. We had all the clothes because we had two boys and all the gear. Diapers actually ended up costing me only a little more because I was able to get them much cheaper through amazon mom than I had with my first child.

Sonya - posted on 04/28/2011

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ME TOO!! I have an older daughter who will be 19 in June. I figured I couldnt have kids anymore when all of the sudden, "SURPRISE!!!" Needless to say, my significant other and I were shocked, but excited. When in my pregnancy, I thought that I really wasnt going to want anymore. However, right after I had my son (who is the light of all that exists in our world we love him so) I started to feel this overwhelming urge to have another baby. Almost right away. My OBGYN insisted that I wait for at least 9 mos because of the C-section. But after that, she said she thought it would be a great idea too. And so do I. I have decided that I do want another one. My beautiful boy still likes to cuddle thankfully, but he is starting to walk now and I know that soon those days will be over. Soon I will have days filled with noise and dirt and ending with bath time for stinky little boy toes. :o) In a way, I think I am looking forward to all that too. But Nothing in the world feels better than the wonder and love that you feel for a baby. I want to recreate that again. Doc says I can only do it one more time and thats it. I want to get started right away! LOL!!! ( what is that strange ticking noise, can anyone else hear that?)

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It's so much fun to see the older one want to be the little helper all the time and seeing them play together and bond! One day my daughter who was 3 at the time put a pipe cleaner in my 4 month old son's hand and had a sword fight with him! That was the start of their playing and it has only gotten better!! Children are pure angels! xoxo

Sandra - posted on 04/27/2011

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Thanks Nichole!! :) We're super excited, though I don't think it's fully sank in yet. haha, although I've already started to feel a little morning sickness...so that'll make it more real! :)

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Sandra, good for you!!! That's GREAT! Jennifer, when I got remarried and my daughter was 2.5 years old, I felt like I was done having kids because the first part of her life was such an adjustment for me! But now that I have a second one, and this has forced me to adjust my life to being a mommy and staying at home, I am loving this life and want to continue serving my family, taking care of them, cooking and even cleaning! I love this part of my life the most so far so i really feel like having another one! And how precious it is to welcome a new soul into our family!!! So excited for you Sandra!!! xoxo

Jennifer - posted on 04/27/2011

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my son just turned 8 months old over the past weekend, and i have already wanted another one, my DH and i have been contemplating weither or not we should , he doesnt want to right now because he thinks having a second costs just as much as the first, in all actaulity it does in the long run, but for the first 3 years it really does cost less then your first, only because we already have everything and more from our first, but i still think having kids close in age is a good thing, but that is just my opinion, my sister had her second when her first started school, and she said it was hectic at first, but once she got into the rutine of things it got so much easier, so no its not crazy to want another :D

Sandra - posted on 04/27/2011

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Every time my daughter hit a milestone (sitting up, crawling, walking) I would think...she's not a baby anymore...I need another one! haha. I miss that time when she just slept and you could cuddle her and she didn't squirm to get down and go play! But...we're expecting our second in December, so I got my wish!! :)

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