Are you having a boy or a girl?

Merry - posted on 11/27/2010 ( 77 moms have responded )

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I'll find out on December 2nd who I'm having!
Super excited to know who this is!

How about you?
Boy? girl?

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Michelle - posted on 12/06/2010

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Wow, I am definately going to share this with my husband, I had heard less people were doing it but have never really researched anything about circumsion, I think that I will look more into it before doing it "just because everyone else does", which isn't true anymore. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me

Merry - posted on 12/06/2010

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Well it started out just fine, my obgyn numbed him up so well he only cried once with the numbing shot, and the circ was quick, and seemed to heal well. But then when he was a year old a different dr told me that his skin had reattached to the head.

It had stuck back on and now a ton of smegma was trapped in the middle and it smelled awful and hurt him a lot.

The dr told me that someone would have to pull the skin off of the head, either me or his pediatrician. I decided I should do it cuz he's already scared of the dr and I wanted to make sure it wasn't too traumatic for him.

So I tried to pull it off and he screamed like I've never heard before. I only got a small bit ripped back and I had to stop, I couldn't do it.

I tried again about every day over a week or so and got a small bit every time, he started knowing what was coming and would cry no no all done. Broke my heart and made me almost throw up to know I did this to him. Now I think it's all done, but he is so scared for me to touch s penis I can't get a close look to really make sure it's all right now.

So now I live with the knowledge that I circumcised him, and now he is scared of his penis, and he didn't remember the pain of the circa, but he remembers the pain of the reattachment.

I worry it's not all fixed and that when he's an adult he won't be able to properly 'use' his penis, and I know it's all my fault.

I have been since looking into circumcision and learned that there's is no health organization who recommends it. Every organization says it's a personal decision and the only reason to do it is for religious or personal convictions.

It's not covered by some insurances now cuz it is categorized as a cosmetic procedure.

And now in California they are moving to make circumcision illegal deeming it genital mutilatinon.

I thought circumcision prevented penile cancer, but I learned that penile caner kills about 200 men in America a year, but 250 baby boys die every year in America FROM circumcision! So it's not rational to think it's preventing cancer.... And when I asked my dr why erics skin reattached, she said it's a COMMON side effect and is considered MINOR complication!

I was disgusted! I mean that was so traumatic for him and me and I can't believe it's common.

So statistically speaking, 68% of boys born in 2009 were left intact with only 32% circumcised!

So my son is in the minority now, if anyone is going to be teased etc it's going to be the circumcised boys in the future.

So for all those reasons, I'd NEVER circumcise another son, and I really want to help other moms avoid the same mistake I made, I feel so guilty every diaper change looking at him, watching him fight me to clean him off, and I can't go back and re do it.

I'm sorry if this makes you upset, but I just can't let anyone go through this if I can help it.

If you have any questions or want me to post some links to web sites about this let me know.

Just think hard about it. And remember it's permanent and once it's done you can't re do it.

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Anna - posted on 02/06/2011

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We are having a GIRL!!! after having four boys in a row we couldnt be happier :) Now we just need one more girl to even it out ;)

Casey-lee - posted on 02/06/2011

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I had a feeling from the start i was going to be having a boy as i was having the total opposite pregnancy to my daughter and i found out on the 28th december that it was a boy

Kendall - posted on 01/14/2011

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Thanks! Yes we do have a name, but we like to keep it a secret til the day he's born. Sorry! lol

Chelsea - posted on 01/14/2011

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Just went for my ultrasound today and I'm having another little Girl, they will be 2 years apart so im excited that they will be able to grow up and play all the girly things together

Merry - posted on 01/13/2011

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Wow so us three now have one of each!
I love having a son, so I'm super excited to have a daughter!
Kendall, boys are super fun, you will love it! Does he have a name yet?

Jennifer - posted on 01/13/2011

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Congrats!!! We're having a little girl this time, but I can tell you from before...having a little boy is AWESOME!!! Mine turned 2 yesterday and he is just amazing :)
Good luck ladies!

Kendall - posted on 01/13/2011

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It's a boy! Now I have one of each! Super stoked to see what he's going to look like!

Ianina - posted on 01/13/2011

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Yes, the girls are going to be Isabella and Sofia. We wanted names that sounded similar in English and Spanish :)

Merry - posted on 01/12/2011

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That's great Amanda! Elaina and Gregory.
Will you call them by any nick names?
How about you ianina? Names for your daughters yet?

AMANDA - posted on 01/12/2011

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our son finally got his name =) he is going to be Gregory Emile. Gregory is after my father and Emile is after my hubbys grandfather who raised him.

so both of our kids finally have their name.. soo happy.. i love being able to talk to each one..

AMANDA - posted on 01/10/2011

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so our daughter finally has a name.. she is going to be Elaina Mae. we are still working on a name for our son though. hopefully soon..

Bonnie - posted on 01/07/2011

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I'm having my sixth boy! I was hoping for a girl this time to even out the sexes as ive got three girls and five boys already, oh well, maybe next time!

Monica - posted on 01/06/2011

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i find out im having twin. i have 1 boy and girl,but i lost the girl few week ago i so upset about it. i ready have boys and i look foward to a girl!

Merry - posted on 01/06/2011

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Amanda that's so great! It's just amazing when we get what we wanted isn't it. I hope you two can agree on their names soon so you can tell us!

Ianina - posted on 01/06/2011

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Congrats Amanda!! Just what you wanted!!
Do you have video of your babies???
I'm super happy for you guys!

AMANDA - posted on 01/05/2011

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we FINALLY found out!!! I was right again... lol.. we are having a Daughter and a Son!!! one of each!!! couldnt be happier.. i have already started my shopping and am going to start making the nursery bedding and get all that going tomorrow.. we are still working on names.. i know the ones i want but my hubby and i cant agree on a set of names together...

Ianina - posted on 01/05/2011

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Awesome!!! I'm having the 4D sonogram in a few weeks to see the babies and confirm the sex.
I already started to buy a few things

AMANDA - posted on 01/04/2011

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i'm so happy for you Ianina.. glad you got the two girls you were hoping for.. we are soo excited for tomorrows appointment.. we will be finding out who our twins are.. soo can't wait.. only about 16 more hours of waiting...... we are still hoping and thinking we are getting one of each or two girls.. tomorrow we will know for sure then its game on for shopping and starting on their nursery =)

Ianina - posted on 01/04/2011

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I'm planning on put both together in the same crib at the beginning. Close to us for starter and after a few months move them to their room

Merry - posted on 01/04/2011

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Well, Eric actually peed thru his clothes about every two hours in the night for a few weeks. But I realized now that he might have needed size 1 diapers straight off, not the newborn size.
But either way, I found the best was to put a sheet on, then a waterproof pad over it. That way each wet thru didn't mean sheet change, just a new pad.
So we had only three sheets for the bassinet. Then when we put him in his crib I actually used twin sized sheets, just put the exess under the mattress cuz I had a bunch of twin sheets and didn't want to buy crib ones.
Will you have the girls in one crib together? I'm putting our girl in the crib with one side off so it's like an extension to our bed. Pushed between the bed and the wall so I can pull her onto my bed to breastfeed and then have the crib space open if I want to push her over. This way I can have diapers, change of clothes etc for her at arms reach so I don't have to get out of bed at all. Unless of course Eric needs me :( or I need to pee :)

Ianina - posted on 01/04/2011

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I am super happy about it!
I wanted 2 girls or a boy/girl. Not 2 boys. We have the sonogram on video this time, wich is awesome



We are very happy with both babies being healthy and growing :)

Mommy question here...how many sets of crib bedding I should buy? 1 full and some extra sheets or 2 full?

Rachel - posted on 01/04/2011

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Im having a girl! we are happy because we already have a 15 month old son :)

Chelsea - posted on 01/03/2011

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I dont go for my ultrasound until Jan 14 its killing me to wait any longer, i want to know weather to find a boy or girl name and i find it so much easier to be able to call the baby a she or he instead of baby or it

Brittany - posted on 01/02/2011

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i have to wait till the 7th, aka friday. im sooo excited! i have no idea what to expect. with my first, i knwew she was a girl but ive had so many mixed signs that i dunno... we shall see :-)

AMANDA - posted on 12/31/2010

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5 more days until we knowreally almost can call it 4 since today is nearly over and i dont count the day we are on.. these last few days seem to be just dragging on and on and on for us.. the suspense is killing me.. i feel like we are gonna be having them in a few days not just finding out who they are.. lol but we are having them for several more months so i know that if im getting this inpatient for genders then the actual birth im gonna lose my mind. hahahaha

Kymberly - posted on 12/31/2010

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we found out yesterday that we are going to be having a 2nd DAUGHTER! :D I was in complete shock because I thought for sure it was a boy but we are still SUPER EXCITED! Good luck everyone!! :D

Merry - posted on 12/22/2010

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Wow this is a girl dominated group so far!
Amanda, I'm so sorry! That sounds just awful. :(
14 days, seems long but it will go fast with the holidays.
I'm betting on two boys for you :)

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Just found out my daughter Amelia who's 11 months will be having a baby sister in may it's a girl !!! :)

Jennifer - posted on 12/21/2010

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UGH!! So sorry to hear that!! I hope you never have to see him again..and after 16 weeks, its not considered too early to tell! Sorry about your appointment! January 5..woohoo!!

AMANDA - posted on 12/21/2010

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soo frustrated after todays appointment.. i had to see a doctor i HATE!!! and it takes a lot for me to hate one.. he wouldnt even attempt to tell the sex said they were too small and it wasnt worth him even trying... WTF... REALLY!!!!! then i had to ask for my pix cause he wasnt even gonna give me one again.. i told the ofice i didnt want to see him after my last preg that ended in a m/c cause he was such an ass about it.. he did the first u/s and didnt see a heartbeat then said 'its no big deal more than 20 % of pregnancies end in m/c" .. screw him.. after 5 years of trying for that baby we were totally devastated.. thats why i hate him.

anywho.. sorry just had to vent a minute.. so my level 2 ultrasound is january 5th and they will be looking at each baby in depth and we will definitely be able to find out who they are at that appointment.. so let the countdown begin.. 14 more days of waiting...

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