i am in serious need of sleeping advice..please!??

Nicki - posted on 06/01/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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any parents have issues with their 12 month old sleeping? my son Jake has been an amazing sleeper since he was about 2 months old....not saying he was sleeping all night, all the time, but always in his crib and not fighting it. the last 4 days/nights have been...intense. every time i lay him down to sleep he instantly sits up and starts screaming, like so hard he isn't taking a breath...and it carries on for at least 30 mins but i cave before that most of the time. if and when i get him to sleep it only lasts a couple of hours. anyone else having the same problem? I am wondering if it might be separation anxiety. I am a stay at home mom and haven't noticed him going through that phase. I am not comfortable with the crying it out but I am completely at a loss...

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Ianina - posted on 07/19/2012

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Well, they are going to outgrow this. But what I'm doing AGAIN is putting them in their cribs when it's bed time fully awake, I tell them good night and leave the room. If they cry, I go back in, tell them everything is fine, comfort them and leave again. Eventually they will fall asleep on their own. Good luck

AMANDA - posted on 06/01/2012

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if this has sprung up suddenly try taking him to the pediatrician.. my twins do that when they have ear infections.. they dont show any other signs so i always know what the deal is now..

if the doctor says everythings okay then maybe just keep trying it.. mine fuss for about 10 minutes then play for a little bit before they actually go to sleep..

either way good luck and i hope he starts getting some sleep soon!

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Jenny - posted on 07/19/2012

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I think your guess is right ..its due to separation anxiety! My 14 month old son has started with same problem since one month! even i tried everything to rule out any other reasons behind his disturbed sleep but couldn't find any :( .. So even I am badly searching for a solution since he too was a good sleeper throughout the night from beginning! Does anyone know when and how does separation anxiety reduce??

Ianina - posted on 06/30/2012

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One of my girls started with separation anxiety when she was 7 months and is still going on. The other one never got it (yet)Both are great sleepers IF they are not getting sick or teething.

I rock Isa to sleep most of the time and Sean gets Sofia (we have twins) They sleep from around 9.30 pm to 8 am. I am a SAHM so I'm with them 24/7 and even tho I always let them play "alone", Isa was always more needy in that way.
Good luck

Merry - posted on 06/03/2012

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For both of mine they got over it around 15 months as then they could easily follow me from room to room and not be fussy. Once he can understand bye bye is not perminent and that you will always come back then it should be easier. Practice leaving, say bye, go out the door' then return. Over and over again. Then linger times before returning. And soon he just knows you always come back and he will not freak when you leave.

Nicki - posted on 06/02/2012

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last night and tonight I made sure he was completely asleep before I put him down and last night he slept from 8:30p until 5:00a which is wayyy better than the few nights before. Crossing my fingers for a good night tonight. It definitely is separation anxiety...I went to the store tonight and he sobbed the whole time I was gone. As soon as I got back I picked him up and he just snuggled up...my husband laughs and says that he isn't going to be a mama's boy (yes yes yes he is! i hope!) anyways how long does this stage usually last. I have been home with him since he was born. With my first though I worked from the time he was born until he was about two. He was in daycare at 6 weeks and never really noticed a separation anxiety, just a constant battle to get him dressed and out the door. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE to snuggle, but it was nice to be able to put him down while he was still awake after a few minutes of snuggling. Now I start walking up the stairs and he is already clinging on...like he knows what is coming lol

Merry - posted on 06/01/2012

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Mine is doing separation anxiety right now and the advise I've gotten is to try to respond quickly and she will get over the phase faster.
She used to sleep better but now wants to be touching me all night. So I am trying to just accommodate her and see as she grows out of it. I'd also agree that teeth could be causing this! The molars are incredibly hard to commin, and often leave the gums all shredded up so this can be quite painful.
Make sure he is really 100% asleep before you try to lay him down. Do the limp limb test to be sure his arm or leg is limp before laying him down! Otherwise you have to do it all over again lol

Jennifer - posted on 06/01/2012

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I agree with Amanda and have them check his ears again. My only other idea would be teething. Idk about your son, but some teeth are a LOT harder in them than the others. Especially the canines.
I am also not ok with CIO, but am ok with just fussing. I let my 12 month old fuss for up to fifteen minutes but never let her cry more than 3ish.
If it isnt a pain issue then...When you go in, do you pick him up? Maybe just try patting his back to calm him? If its separation anxiety, the worst thing you can do is CIO.
Idk if any of this has helped, but I would definitely ask your pediatrician!

Nicki - posted on 06/01/2012

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thank you amanda! I was at the doctor with him for his well-baby on Tuesday but his ped didn't say anything about his ears. I have been wondering about an ear infection though for a few weeks...he just has not been himself. He is very laid back usually but has been incredibly fussy lately. Hope we figure it out soon, for his sake too!

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