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Bipolar with Husband just diagnosed bipolar too

Kelly - posted on 03/27/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

This week has been terrible for me my husband has been suffering from severe depressions for the last six months, we had gotten him into therapy at least, but getting him into a phychiatrist was hard there is a waiting list for new patient, his family doctor did prescribe him celexa and it seemed to be helping a bit. He also has stage 4 hypertension. In January he was admitted to the hospital for atrial fiblliration, irregular heart beat. He doctor said he need to stop smoking but since of the heart and blood pressure he wasn't prescribed the regualr meds to stop because they are stimulants. They tried welbutrien, immediatly I saw him spiraling out of control, begged him to stop but he insisted if it could make him stop smoking he keep taking it. I'm sure you all know what happens when you get on the wrong meds. Well he did stop but it was to late, he was self medicating by drinking heavily and even when his celaxa was uped it did no good because of his drinking. It finally came to a head this Monday morning, he looked him self in the garage and was going to kill himself. I called 911 but before the officers arrived he fired the gun. My 6 year old son was standing with me and heard it to. By some miracle he didn't shoot himself, but I just pictured him in there bleeding and dieing, and desperated for the police to arrive. They did and he heard them outside and came out, if I had not called them he had also planned to just start the generator and kill him self by carbon monioxide since he couldn't shot himself. Needless to say they took him to the hospital he was admitted to a mental hosptial but was realeased Thursday too soon for my thinknign, while there he was diagnosed bipolar. I am holding up as best I can, and have set up a appointment with my pdoc for Tuesday to most likely adjust my meds. I am also now going to start therapy again. I haven't been sleeping well and have no appetie. But I stay awake and watch over him. I am so scaried and confused and my emotions are going on a rollercoaster, Tuesday can't get here fast enough. So if everbody could just pray for me and my family it would be great.

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Joyce - posted on 07/20/2011

I feel for you you are going through a lot. Are you able to find a good Naturalpath that treats in natural medicine, live blood test & Iridologist etc? I have learnt to treat Bipolar is by natural medicine & every other health problems. I myself have put my trust in Doctor's but ended up with no answers & no help. I know you have to keep the balance between the too. With my own experience by going to a Naturalpath I got answer & getting my health back. And the treatment didn't have any side affects from the medicine. I know what it is like to be imprison in your own body only existing & not living. I'll be praying for you all.

Carmen - posted on 10/24/2010

just a question does he have bipolar 1 or bipolar 2 cos they are completely different, bipolar 2 over here in NZ they place them on litium - it tends to balance them out quite fast and it works really well, bi polar 1 they place them on a smaller dose of lithium but in both cases it works within the first week there are incredible differences in the person and they are back to who they use to be - it takes them off their high state so there brain isn't racing at 100 miles an hour and they seem more settled and content with themselves the thoughts of self harm and stuff seem to go - they can drink on it and smoke but to certain limits - my bestfriend is on litium and over the year from when she first went on it to now is a huge difference and she has had it reduced to suit her type of bi polar, so you need to find out what type of bi polar he has because they 2 types are very different in character to each other! Hugs for you all tho and sending my love!

Margaret - posted on 07/28/2010

God bless you, honey - My husband and I are both diagnosed eith bipolar, so I can really relate - we both have to take our meds VERY seriously and practice 12 Step programs. I hope that your husband has gotten stablized and you've been able to take care of yourself. Thank you for givng me some gratitude today cuz let me tell you I have been there!!!

Kelly - posted on 04/06/2010

Ok update, while he was inpatient for his 3 day stay ( not long enough for me) he was put on Serequel, in addition to the celexa he already takes. He takes 50 of serequel twice a day and 100 at night to really knock him out so he sleeps, ambien doesn't work for him. So far he seems a little better I guess, we really haven't talked that much, but he seems improved to me. I still thing he should have a mood stabilizer added but his doctor will know more than me. I take prozac for depression, geodon for antipsycho, and lamictial to balance. Plus clonapin for when its really bad and ambien to sleep if needed. My doc upped my geodon and it seems to be helping a little, he switched it to all at night but I need that and the ambien to stay asleep, and it helps to throw a clonipin in with it, or else I'm waking up at 3,4,5. I have a therapy appointment on the 27th which can't get here soon enough. But I am doing better, I don't break down and cry like I was. And am leaning on my friends and family for support. I talk to them. My husband doesn't have much support, he hasn't talked to his father in 5 years ( who is also bipolar untreated) and his mom is really neurotic. Also she blaMES ME FOR HIS TRYING TO KILL HIMSELF. mY pdoc said it's not is not my fault, and that gives me great comfort, I did my best by calling 911. His sister is saying she'll be more supportive but she lives in WV and we live in DE. He does have my family which I tell him, we have been together since 1998 and have had more than our share of ups and downs but we are still together for some reason. Deep down he is my best friend. ANd he does have 2 good friends in DE but he feels to macho to confide what he sees as a weakness to them. But he is in therapy, and now seeing a pdoc not a general practioner anymore so hopefully we will see improvement. He had been diagnosed wrong 5 years ago as ADHD, social anxiety but didn't keep up with his appointments. Perhaps if he had he would have diagnosed correctly sooner, but that is the what if and we have the now.
My son seems to be doing ok. He talked with the school therapist and has a basic understanding of what happened, he is only 6, so we decided we won't go into great detail about mental illness. What worries me for him right now is that he is being evaluted next week for possible add/adhd. My biggest worry is that it is neither but is early bipolar. If it is at least I know the signs early on and we can get him the right help and tools he needs. Well that's it for now. Thanks Jennifer for your prayers. I'll keep you posted.

Jennifer - posted on 04/04/2010

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Kelly,

Sending prayers your way. Did they put him on new meds while in hospital. This is serious why didn't they keep him longer.

I cannot imagine being in your situation.

Please seek out the help you need for yourself first. You cannot take care of anyone if you don't take care of yourself. Sounds like you are reaching out and doing that.

Please call the psychiatrist that prescribed the celexa Wellbutrin has a suicide side effect with some, yeah isnt that nice they play russian roulette with us, anyhow. Cal him update him even if your husband isn't interested. Call you local crisis hotline, they are listed in the yellow pages, call on friends and family and come up with a plan for your husband. Sometimes in Bipolar when we aren't caring for ourself in a rational manner family has to assume the duty of doing the right and responsible thing for their best care no matter what they say or do...Please hang in there sweetie, and if anyone can watch your son for a bit so you and your husband can talk and make a plan together to get him back on track try to do so.

Crisis hotlines have a lot of resources available to them that you may not know about and in your situation, I would exhaust every effort.

That is all I can think of right now.

I hope to hear from you soon as I am worried. Their is nothing positive about this situation but try to see light at the end of the tunnel in brief moments during your trying time...I am here, should you need to vent, or want advice I am going to post this to the top to see if anyone else has some suggestions

Take care, b well, and Im praying for you and your family!