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worry about money and having an x-mas for my family

Jessica - posted on 12/10/2008 ( 2 moms have responded )

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hey guys its 6am where i'm at and i've been awake for over and hr and half. i've been thinking about this upcomming holiday and of course bills and money. i've been trying to calculate how i'm going to come up with extra cash to pay everything in full. with me not working and my partner's job on the the slow side i don't know how to pay everything. i want to ask my family for help but i just know the answer is no from one parent and the other i don't want to ask because i've cause to many problems in the past. i want to ask my partner's dad and i don't know how. his mom i know for a fact can't help (she told us a head of time) so i'm in the dark trying to figure this all alone and trying to find money that i don't have to pay back asap. this is so hard on me. and fustrating because i feel like i don't want to pay anything this month but i have to or i'll regret it. i know my son is young and all and wont remember this. but then i have to think around the corner for the new arrive. i have alot on my plate and i don't know what to do. I have $300 to pay towards bills but i need also be prepared for the new arrive. then i fig i need an additional $450 to pay everything in full maybe more. This holiday is going to suck big time and i feel like i'm such a huge disappointment to this family. I'm just so tired of making everything so hard on my family. can anyone give me some ideas what i can do to make it alittle easier on my family what with little money i have if everything else fails?

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Jessica - posted on 12/11/2008

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thx for ur honesty. i've been talking to people about it. it just so hard with tom(partner) being laid off. bills are piling and i can only do so much. i would like to do some craft work for presents but it comes down to it u still need money to do so. its just a daily struggle in my life right now. and i have to think about the new baby and all..

Nikki - posted on 12/11/2008

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Try not to worry about buying gifts your son wont know better and I know if you go to places like Walmart (cheaper toy isle) and the dollar stores you can pick up quite a bit for little money as I have been there and had to do the same. As for adults I wouldnt worry about gifts, with no money and all and they are all aware of this they need to understand that xmas is about the kids only and spending time with one another. I made items in previous years when I had no money and I did a small kinda scrapbook for my parents and my spouses on memories of when I was a child with some pictures and I wrote some poems (can find online if your stuck) and then stuff with my kids where I put there handprint on a piece of paper and you know they all said it was the best gift because it came from the heart and you couldnt put a price on memories. As for your bills can you call whoever you need to pay (eg utilities) and ask if you can just make a payment until you have some extra and will pay the remainder? I know as long as you call and let them know your struggling they can work something out just dont ignore them...I hope some of this helps a bit and it can ease your worries a bit....money sucks for a lot of people right now with our economy so terrible but we have to realize xmas is not about money and gifts and such but spending time with loved ones and enjoying what you do have...a roof over your head, a healthy child, food, those are important!!! Also please dont blame yourself or look at yourself as a failure your doing the best you can with what you have....try to not be so hard on yourself!!!

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