Christina - posted on 04/22/2011 ( no moms have responded yet )
My husband was on active duty for 5 years and convinced me that getting out and going to school was best and he would get in the reserves for health benefits. He is now in the reserves and is possibly going to be deployed this fall. Our ultimate goal is for him to finish school and get commissioned, which will be in about 2 years. He is now trying to convince me that it's best if he gets out of reserves to put all his attention on school and to avoid deployment this far in his school (because it would put him a year behind)
I am a stay at home mom/student and he is our only income source, if he gets out we will need to find health insurance and the prices are outrageous! So the only other option is for me to quit school and find work with benefits (easier said then done in this economy) and put our child in daycare so he can go to school. I have no problem finding work, but I don't want to work to pay for daycare. I need help getting him to see the big picture, but I feel he will resent me if he stays in the reserves and gets deployed. I know I am not the enlisted person,(which he reminds me every time we discuss this) and I don't have to deal with AT , drill weekends, and the possibility of deployment, but these are all things we discussed and knew would be possible when he got off active duty. Am I being selfish for wanting him to stay in the reserves?