after 4 miscarriages should my husband and i try for another child?

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Shelby - posted on 02/23/2010

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First off I would say see a Doctor, There may be a logical medical reason you have had 4 miscarriages. My 1st husband and his new-wife kept having miscarriages and believe it or not she was actually allergic to his sperm (for lack of better terminology) I only know this because she called to ask me to go the doctor's office with them to see why I could conceive from him and she couldn't and thats when she told me.

If your heart is telling you to continue to try, then see a dr. and try on. If your heart tells you that you can't handle the hurt, and disappointment anymore then explore other avenues to expand your family.

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if you can handle it and have faith this time then yes... before everytime i got pregnant and had delivery i had at LEAST 2 miscarriages... i think its just genetic... my mom had them alot and so did i... i had twins this pregnancy and lost one at 8 weeks... god just has a plan for us... and im kinda glad i didnt have twins bc i wouldve been alone with twin newborns and a 16 mths old while hubby deployed... so just have some faith....

Jordan - posted on 02/24/2010

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Tiffany, I really hope that it works out for you this next time around. My prayers will be with all of you.

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First of all, I'm so sorry for your losses. I know how hard it is. I'm sure that you've probably been to the doctor at some point during all of this. Of course, you should speak to your doctor about it. There are several tests that can be run to help determine what is going on with your body. I second what Kaite said. Sometimes doctors will prescribe progesterone to help sustain a pregnancy. I'd recommend asking about an HSG to check to see if your tubes are clear. I just want you to know that there are options out there. I have struggled with infertility for a while now, and after 4 rounds of clomid, 2 IUI's, numerous injections and shots, I finally got my BFP in December, but after an accident, I miscarried in January. My husband and I have decided to begin trying again in March. So, since we know that we CAN get pregnant, what is next is sustaining that pregnancy. Best of luck to you!

Jordan - posted on 02/24/2010

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Let me start off by saying I am NOT a doctor, I am just speaking from family experience. After my mother in law had her first daughter she and her man decided they would like to try for another child. She too had 4 miscarriages and the doctors told her that she would not be able to have any more children. She disregarded what they said and wound up pregnant for the 5th time. When she called to talk to the doctors about it, they told her that there was no way she was pregnant again and that it was psychological. At 12 weeks she made them do an ultrasound and Sure enough, there was my hubby! lol. I just wanted you to know that there is always hope whichever way you decide to go. :) Best of luck to you and yours.

Kaite - posted on 02/23/2010

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Hey, go to your doctor before you start trying again. Ask them about progesterone supplimenatation during the first 12 weeks *is a cream to put on your belly*..My misscarriage turned out to be from rupturing the cyst on an ovary that produces the progeterone that maintains early pregnancy. I was told that many doctors "don't believe in this theory"...However I can tell you it IS why I misscarried...So them not believing in it is simply that it's fairly newly discovered that this can cause repeat misscarriage..

See if your doctor would be willing to try it next time..The progesterone cream couldn't hurt to try..We will be doing it for our next pregnancy to try to prevent repeat misscarriage...

Look into it girlie...and GOOD LUCK! : )

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