Ashley - posted on 10/30/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
This is a touchy subject for me but here it goes. My husband is in the Marines, I am 21 and he is 20. I have a daughter from a previous relationship that my husband loves as his own and she doesn't know anyone other than him as daddy. We have talked about having more kids and every time the subject turns sour or I end up crying about it. I realize that I was young when I had my daughter and that my husband and I are still young but I want to have another baby. He tells me that we are too young, not ready and that we can have one after he gets back from being deployed. Well the thing is his deployment date changes frequently. I have been here in CA for almost a year and it has changed at least 4 times. I supposed it's part of being a military wife but I hate the feeling of putting that part of my life on hold for the Military. I don't know when he will deploy, and sadly I don't know if he will return from deployment, and I would hate to have missed that opportunity to expand our family because were waiting on the Military to figure out our lives.
Am I wrong in thinking this way? Is there a way I can show him what this means to me? Perhaps make him understand where I'm coming from? I don;t want to push him away or force a child into our family, our daughter is almost 5 and if he deploys when they say he will she will be 6 1/2 when he returns and if we got pregnant right away she will be 7 when the new one arrives. Am I crazy for wanting this so bad? If anyone can help me that would be great! Thanks