1st deployment not many friends and stationed at Fort Bragg NC help

Heather - posted on 07/02/2011

I have a good friend moving there in August! I know how hard it can be to get out and make friends. For some reason, us military wives can be real shut-ins! lol Hang in there and check out CYS and ACS for some local groups and kids activities. Also, check out the free child care for deployed families. It will give you some down time and help you recharge your batteries. Even if it's just for an hour to go get coffee and read a book! You're not alone hunny.

Lynleigh - posted on 07/01/2011

wish we lived close by! this is our first deployment too, but we are back in CA staying with family. it really helps to be with family, but having other friends is so important too. i wish u the best!

Billie - posted on 06/11/2011

I agree with Julia, try talking to the neighbors! My husband is serving his 4th tour and I'm here with a 2yr old and 5 month old. I have 1 friend here who is a stay at home mom with small kids and her husband deployed with mine, but she's in germany visiting her family and the neighbors I was close to just moved to alaska whereas I'm at Fort Riley, KS and I really don't get on well with the rest of my neighbors,lol. But you never know about them until you get to know them! I'm a seclusive person when my husband is gone simply because there's always people who want to start rumors about spouses of deployed soldiers, but it's always nice to have someone who you can speak to and relate to. I'm trying to find a friend too! lol

Grits - posted on 06/11/2011

Have you contacted Family Support (not sure if that's what the army calls it)? They have TONS of resources for spouses. It's a great way to meet people, too. Good luck!

Alisha - posted on 06/10/2011

Julia i do not let my kids go to day care my son got rsv from a day care i do not like day cares, I have a couple friends i just don't hang out with them very often i need more friends so i can get out of this house is what my post was about i do not live on post i live in Fayetteville my neighbors are not that friendly i have gone for walks have not met any other moms around here i know in my culdesac there are no kids that are my kids ages there either babies or a lot older i just need to find more moms so i can have lots of things to do places to go and get out of my house and stop thinking so much but thanks for your post

Julia - posted on 06/10/2011

Are you on base or off? If you are on base walk next door and knock on the door. Introduce yourself. It's always hard making the first introductions but you never know who you will meet just by knocking on the door.

You can start off by trying to join a moms group online. Momslikeme.com or something along those lines. I know your husband is deployed but it will do you no good to sit at home and be depressed. If it means going out and getting a part time job or even taking a class or two at your local college. (NOT ONLINE) It will perk you right up. Putting your kids in daycare for even a couple of hours every week will help out a lot too and not too expensive. I'm sorry you are going through this. I kinda went through the same thing when I first got to this duty station. It has gotten a lot better since I started going to school. I am going full time but you don't need to do that. Just get out. Another thing that could help. Go for a walk with your kids. Gets all of you out of the house with the possiblity of finding moms near you with kids around the same age.

I hope I helped but honey get out of that house!!! That is the first step that you will have to take!