Any Marine Wives, Im new to the whole Military Life?

Christian - posted on 02/28/2011

I'm an Air Force wife in Cheyenne. I know sometimes it seems best to stick with the branch your hubby is in, but I learned while he was stationed in Korea last year and I was all alone at Fort Rucker, that's not always the best thing. I made one of the greatest friends ever....her hubby is an Army officer and mine is enlisted AF. I've heard there is a mom's club on base...I'm actually planning on asking my neighbor...she's found quite a few stay at home moms on base.

Rachelle - posted on 10/16/2010

HI.....I'm a Marine's wife...but I'm also a mom, sister, daughter, friend, teacher, school psychologist....woman! Roar! LOL! I only say that b/c sometimes i think we invest ourselves in being somebody's wife a little too much. By the way, I met my husband in '93 when he was a Staff Sargeant and now after over 17 years, I still can't always tell someone's rank, and I don't think I should feel an inch tall for that. I'm not a Marine.....I'm just married to one. I try, but he doesn't know my career and all it's workings, so why should I be expected to know all about his? What is it that some people say about who wears the rank??? That being said, I feel you! Being married to a Marine can be very lonely. I could tell many stories about that. I'm also not too far from you. I'm in Herndon, VA right next to Dulles Airport ....where in MD are you? I have 3 boys 8, 6, and 4 and my husband is on the opposite end of the Marine Corp...about to retire. So I could probably be your mom....although I'd rather be your sister :) My husband didn't do recruiting, he did the drill field thing....actually, long before I met him. But in either case, Marines are gone....that's just the way it is, so you have to find a way to cope with that reality but it gets better as they gain seniority. Just when you get it all figured out on your own, they come home....and stay home! I'm happy to connect with you...share any insights I might have etc....If nothing else, I'm proof that you'll survive. Life is good! The Ball is coming up...are you going???

Julie - posted on 10/14/2010

I'm not so new to the Marine wife thing we've been together since before he went into the Corps, but we have only been married a year this November. We are stationed in Quantico, VA. This is our first duty station.

I swear as wives we need to know almost just as much as them lol. I made the mistake of thinking a corporals schevruants (sp) were a sargent. UGH I felt an inch tall. I've only been here since March though so maybe it will come with time. I'm not so far from you, but I am here to talk.. it's tough making friends and my biggest problem is them moving away, but we get used to that too I suppose.

Stephanie - posted on 10/04/2010

Hi, Im a Marine Wife also with a 2yr old son...Stationed in Jacksonville,NC - Camp Lejeune..Its my first time being away from my home town (Detroit,Mi), just now adjusting to this new life but have yet to meet/make new friends...Im new to this life also only time will tell how things work....So keep God first and things will work out just fine..

Jodi - posted on 09/30/2010

I am a Marine Spouse. I have a 4yr old daughter and 8month old son. We are stationed at MCAS Yuma, AZ. (My first duty station) It will be 2 years in Dec. since we have been here and can not wait to get back to the East coast ...

Carolyn - posted on 09/15/2010

Hannah- I love it. I think it depends on if you're an NCO or SNCO. SNCO's take their families on the program and NCO's cannot. They actually have to be single. I think it's a great program, my husband is the Detachment Commander and his hours are basically 8-5. They have SAI's (semi-annual inspections) and CV's (command visits) and during those times he will work later than usual. The best part is that he is home every night.

He also goes to conferences every 6 months, and spouses can go with them. I went to Germany with him once. I haven't been able to go on many because of my work. But in Feb were supposed to go somewhere in South America!! Then I can mark that off my list.

Now of course it's not as glamorous because not everyone gets Europe or the nice Asian countries......I've had friends in Ghana, Guinea and they LOVED it. In most African posts you tend to be a close knit family whereas like in Paris, or London and the like you are kind of on your own as there is so much to do. I would recommend it to anyone if you ask me!! If you have anymore questions let me know! We're almost done, we're heading back to our home in 29 in May and we can't wait!!

Kyle - posted on 09/14/2010

My husband is a marine stationed in 29 palms... we just had our first child in July... he was deployed this year on a M.E.U. and will deploy again in April for Afghanistan...

Erin - posted on 09/14/2010

Hi Samantha. I'm a Marine Wife with a husband currently on recruiting duty. We're in Rapid City, SD. We are living on an Air Force base. I have 2 boys: 3 years and 16 months. We have 1 year and 5 months (or so) left. Not that I'm counting. lol We love this area but the hours are tough. I've gotten active in our church and found a playgroup to take my boys to. Through the playgroup, I found a bookclub that has really helped me too. There's not many people in my husband's office (just one other recruiter and the SNCO). I'm on Facebook if you want to look me up. Some advice is to look at this duty as a deployment where he gets to come home at night and also to remember that this does keep him from deploying overseas for 3 years. Even if he only catches snapshots of your daughter's growing up, they'll be closer together than if he was gone overseas for months at a time. And remember to talk whenever you can. Talking about everything and anything will keep the trust in the relationship.

Samantha - posted on 09/14/2010

Hannah, the only friends I have around here, are the two Marine Wives ive met from his work, and I made friends with a Army Wife... which I didnt think would be a good idea, because my hubby doesnt like the Army, but we clicked, and so did her hubby and mine.... the only way I can say that Ive done so far, is if you have a public library, go and c if they have any classes or reading time you can do with you little one, that way you baby can meet other babys and hopefully you can meet other moms.... I know its hard, and im still having a hard time meeting ppl, and its lonely, but always know you got a friend on here who knows what ur going through!

Hannah - posted on 09/14/2010

Carolyn, my husband seems to think that security is not a good duty.. what are his hours like?

Samantha, were only 8 months in.. another 2 years and 4 months to go.. not that im counting! : P It does take a strong woman.. how did you go about making friends? Ive got a 4 month old and its been hard to get out to meet people.. and im dying for some girlfriends.. any ideas would help!

Samantha - posted on 09/14/2010

Recruiter Duty is the hardest job in the Military, the divorce rate is very high while ur Man is on Recruiter Duty... its all about trusting the person your with. Ive seen some relationships fail, and some get stronger... You have to be a really strong wife to go through this... Thank god I have my daughter, because I dont know what I would do... only 1 and half yrs left, and I cannont wait!

Carolyn - posted on 09/14/2010

Hannah, that's horrible. I have heard not so good things about recruiting duty. We almost went on recruiting duty, and I'm so glad we didn't. We're on the Marine Security Guard program and I love it. I would recommend this route to anyone out there who wants to travel and see the world good and bad!!

Ashlee - posted on 09/14/2010

I'm a marine wife. I'm stationed in Cherry Point, NC. I have a 2 year old daughter. I just recently moved to NC so I haven't made any friends. Can't really help you too much since I'm not down the street from you but I am available for a chat.

Hannah - posted on 09/14/2010

HI! My husband is a Marine Recruiter as well! We are living in Cheyenne WY. How long have yall been on recruiting duty? I'm glad to meet another woman going through the same thing! :) We have 4 recruiters in my husbands office and I'm the only wife left!

Carolyn - posted on 09/14/2010

Hi there!!! I'm a marine wife as well.......for 8 years now!! I see you're going recruiting...we almost went that direction, but didn't. We have a 4 month old baby girl.........I'm here to talk if you need to. I'm guessing you're not too new to the MC, huh???

Alix - posted on 09/13/2010

Hi! I am a Marine wife, statioined in Okinawa, and I have a 7 month old daughter. I dont know how much I can help you since I'm on the other side of th world, but if you have any questions I could try to answer them!