Any wives of submariners?

Kim - posted on 01/29/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I'm new to the Navy, my husband is just finishing training at New London Subase and I wanted to talk to someone about life as a submariners wife...

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Heather - posted on 02/16/2009

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Quoting Kimberly:

My husband really would like to get stationed in Bangor, Wa. He loves the mountains and that is his ideal place to go. The last place he'd want is Hawaii...he burns easily. LOL. I have enjoyed this so far I just feel like I don't know anything. That does sound nice to have 2 1/2 weeks off completely.



Hi!



Being a submariner wife isn't all that bad. But don't get me wrong, there are times when all I want is to hear his voice, but get a small email instead. You do get used to it and even start to almost enjoy the time when he is gone, as bad as that may sound.



We're stationed up on Bangor and love it. This is the only base I've seen, but have been told it's one of the nicer ones.



Welcome to the Navy Life!

Kim - posted on 02/16/2009

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Amanda,



There isn't much to do actually in Groton, but there is a lot to do close by. There are children's museums, an aquarium and there is a park called Ocean Beach Park. It is right on Long Island Sound. We have driven through it is apparently a great place to go in the summer. It has mini golf and water slides right on the boardwalk. There is a mall about 15 minutes away and there is a huge mall in Providence, RI. We went to the mall in RI and it is 5 storie high. There is a Dave and Busters in it too. Also Foxwoods Casino and Mohegan Sun is about a 20 minute drive if that. For Valentines Day Steve actually got me a gift certificate to go to Foxwoods Spa. I guess it just depends on what you want to do...as far as a night life in Groton, we are lucky if we go to dinner by ourself because of the 3 kids.

If you want to live off base just remember that with most rentals you have to pay all the utilities. If you live in housing they just keep his BAH but you don't have to pay for anything except telephone, internet and digital cable. They give you basic cable for free but it's only 13 channels. Steve actually was told not to live in military housing because he was told it was horrible, but when we looked around we couldn't find anything that was below his BAH. He's an E-3 so I think they get about the same.



Steve is hoping that we get stationed at Bangor, Wa next. Although, we both agreed that if he gets stationed here we wouldn't mind. My son really loves the schools and the neighborhoods. There are soo many kids here for him to play and he just loves it because there is the playgrounds and in the summer the pool. Well I got to go too. My 2 yr old is screaming up a storm. Talk to ya later.



Kim

Amanda - posted on 02/16/2009

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Kim,



That's pretty wild that our husbands were in the same duty section. What are the chances of that? My husband had duty here yesterday, so I have had a chance to ask him if he remembers your husband. I've heard it's nice in Groton.... although not too much to do. And since I'm used to Pgh weather, I'm sure I can handle the weather there. Although it's been so nice here in VA. I'm not really sure what we are going to do about housing when we go to Groton. My husband says it's better to live off base because we'd get more money. I don't know though. We still have some time to figure all that out. Well, my son just laid down for his morning nap and I'm going to try to get a little more sleep before my husband gets home. Talk to you later.



 



Amanda

Kim - posted on 02/15/2009

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Amanda,

If you do return to Groton, Ct and want base housing see if you can get into Nautilaus Park. They have remodeled almost all of the homes and the townhouses are new. It is very nice. My husband didn't have to wait long at all. He put our name on the waiting list and about 2 weeks later we had our townhouse. My husband actually just told me that he knows your husband. He said that they were in the same duty section. If you do have to come to Groton it's very nice...the weather is a bit chilly in the winter, but it's really not that much worse than Pgh.



Kim

Amanda - posted on 02/15/2009

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Kim,



I grew up in Shaler, near the North Hills. So, the completely opposite side of town from where you guys lived. We do not live in base housing because we are in Newport News, not Norfolk. The sub my husband is on is pre-commissioned (still being built). I'm not sure how long we are going to be here, but eventually the sub is going up to Groton, Ct. I'm not sure if we are going to get base housing there or not. But typically it's at least a 6 month wait.... but it depends on your husbands rank. My husband is only E1. I totally understand what you mean about your husband being on duty. I guess I only like it because then I don't have to worry about waiting on him hand and foot and him not helping me with the baby. But anyway, hope that I can help you out. If you need anything, just ask. Take care and I'll talk to you later.



Amanda

Kim - posted on 02/15/2009

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Quoting Amanda:



Hi Kim,






 






I am a new Submariners wife also. My husband just finished his schooling in Groton right before Christmas. We just moved to Newport News, Va the beginning of the year. He is on the PCU New Mexico. Everything is an adjustment. But in time I think you will adjust (as will I). We just got married last May and had our first child in Sept. So, we are adjusting to a lot. And it's been a rough transition, but things are working out. My husband hasn't had a patrol yet, so I don't know what that is like. But he stands duty every 4 days. And it's actually nice to have the place to myself and relax. But I hope that all goes well with you and if you need anything I'll try to help you as best as I can. We can be new at this together!!!!!






 






Amanda






Hi Amanda,



I'm glad to hear that you like it so far.  I'm sure his first patrol will be difficult, but I'm sure you'll do fine.  I see that your from Pittsburgh, Pa so are we.  What part of town are you from?  My husband grew up in Port Vue...near McKeesport and I grew up in Peters Township by South Hills Village. Just wondering where your from because my hold volleyball coach's  last name was Jobes. Your baby is adorable too...my husband would particularly love the Steelers gear. I actually don't like when he stands duty because he enjoys it way too much.  He only has it every 6 days but I think he likes the peace and quiet of base.  It's a full 24 hours of no children running about. :)  I guess I'm jealous I wish sometimes I could go in his place.  Are you in base housing?  If so how long did you have to wait for a place and is it nice?  I'm a little worried about moving after living here...the townhouse is brand new and my oldest loves it here.  



 



Kim

Amanda - posted on 02/15/2009

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Hi Kim,



 



I am a new Submariners wife also. My husband just finished his schooling in Groton right before Christmas. We just moved to Newport News, Va the beginning of the year. He is on the PCU New Mexico. Everything is an adjustment. But in time I think you will adjust (as will I). We just got married last May and had our first child in Sept. So, we are adjusting to a lot. And it's been a rough transition, but things are working out. My husband hasn't had a patrol yet, so I don't know what that is like. But he stands duty every 4 days. And it's actually nice to have the place to myself and relax. But I hope that all goes well with you and if you need anything I'll try to help you as best as I can. We can be new at this together!!!!!



 



Amanda

Kim - posted on 02/11/2009

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Hi Amber,

My husband is still in school too. He is supposed to graduate in June. He is hoping for an ssgn because they follow the schedule of a ssbn but go into ports while they are out. We live in Groton, Ct and I love it so far. We've been here since November...1 week after my baby girl was born. The schools are nice and there is a lot to do with the kids. My husband is hoping that after he graduates we'll be stationed in Bangor or Bremington Wa because we hear its great.

Becky - posted on 02/11/2009

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It's not that long, and don't worry, you'll be a pro by the end of your first patrol! We just left Kings Bay, GA and I didn't really care for it, but I love it here in Norfolk. It just reminds me a lot of my hometown, St. Louis. KB reminded me of the town I went to high school which is in the middle of Missouri, and nobody has ever heard of it.

Amber - posted on 02/11/2009

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Oh I am so happy to read all of these responses. My husband is still in Nuke Power School for MM here in Charelston, SC. He volunteered for subs and it is sounding as if that will be the route we will be taking after Prototype. He still has welding school to go through but hopefully in a year he will be assigned to a sub. After all of that, I wanted to ask what the your favorite stations are? We are thinking of dreamsheeting Bangor or Bremington, WA or Groton (New London), CT. I believe he wants to be on a fast attack. Sorry this is so long.

Kim - posted on 02/01/2009

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My husband really would like to get stationed in Bangor, Wa. He loves the mountains and that is his ideal place to go. The last place he'd want is Hawaii...he burns easily. LOL. I have enjoyed this so far I just feel like I don't know anything. That does sound nice to have 2 1/2 weeks off completely.

Mercedes - posted on 02/01/2009

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Fast attacks do have a crazy schedule. Those are the boats that have one crew, and can leave for up to 6 months, BUT, they only do one 6 month deployment every year and a half, the rest of the time they'll be in for a couple months, then out for maybe a few weeks, then back for a month, then gone one week...and so on. Their schedules are usually always sporadic.



Boomer's are the HUGE subs that have more of a set schedule. Each Boomer has two crews, the Blue crew, and the Gold crew, and they share the boat. One crew usually leaves for around 60-90 days at a time (they're called patrols), then they come home, give the boat to the other crew, and they're home for 4-6 months (they're in training during the days, but they're usually home each night by 5-6pm). Now, while that sounds much more appealing, it can be a little more work for your hubby. Because each crew only has the boat for such a short time, they tend to work a little harder/longer to get it ready for their particular patrol. BUT, when they get home, they get a stand-down period which gives them 2-21/2 weeks off...COMPLETELY! They are home day and night for 2 weeks straight, it's wonderful! It makes planning vacations, holidays, and whatever else a lot easier :)



Does your husband have a particular base that he'd like to get stationed at? Oh, and there is no such thing as the 'Lowly Enlisted Wife'...lol! We're all in this together, and we all have a very important part in making things run as smoothly as possibly, don't ever think you're beneath anyone!!

Kim - posted on 02/01/2009

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Hi, thanks for joining. It's nice to hear more positive feedback about subs especially because I've heard so much negative stuff about. I have heard fast attacks are not on any set schedule and that they go out for longer times. My husband is just beginning this adventure in our life...he was a late starter, which is a long story within itself.

Annette - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hey, I just joined here... and I too am a sub wife... well, I guess.  To explain, my DH is currently on "shore duty" attached to a destroyer group and will be deploying with a carrier... but before this, he was a sub. nuke.  (currently he's the sub ops. officer)  Anyway... I love it :-)  I was lucky though and DH's boat was in overhaul during our last tour (so he only went out for three months, the rest was just crappy shift work)  But my husband was on a fast attack... so boomer life sounds like a piece of cake to me!!!  But the great thing about subs is that it is a really small community... so you've always got alot of close contacts and really nice wives :-)  (ok, not all will be your best friends, but there are great ones out there!) 



Sub life is pretty good... just find a good friend or two and you'll be great :-)

Becky - posted on 01/31/2009

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OMG, I just wrote you a big long post, and it erased it because I wasn't part of the group. ANYWAY, being a sub wife is the best. I usually get 4-6 letters per patrol, plus they have email (although, it's not always guaranteed). The patrol will probably always be less than 3 months because they won't let the guys go over 90 days out (or they get some special award). We just left Kings Bay a little over 2 months ago. It wasn't really my cup of tea, but it's a good place to live and raise kids. Their football team were the state champs this year. Bremerton, WA (I think that's the right name) is also really nice. It's so beautiful out there, and there is lots and lots of stuff to do with your kids. Plus, the coffee is awesome! I love Norfolk because it reminds me a lot of St. Louis, where I was born and raised. Don't let other people freak you out. Some wives just handle it better than others. It is an adjustment period, but they have dvd's to help your kids understand where Daddy went, just ask your Ombudsman. I was really involved in our FRG (or FSG on some boats. It stands for Family Readiness/Support Group). It's basically a little club for the wives, and it will be what you make of it. Most wives will tell you horror stories; I enjoyed ours. I wish you the best of luck and feel free to ask any questions! Let me know if your coming to the USS Tennessee!

Maurika - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi Kinmberly,
Yes, welcome to the wives club. I am kinda of new at this as well. I have only been a sub officers wife for 2 years, in April. It has been such a great experience. The communication I thought would be a bummer but it actually is not that bad. You get to email each other. You will probably feel like he is not doing it as much as you but while gone they have little time to sit. Also because it's a bit slower than if he were on land to get the reply emails back. Don't feel bad when this happens....it happens to us all.
It's tough at times but take liberty in the officers wives clubs. They are good for support for the new wives. They can give you the 411 on what's to come and you will be that much more at ease when the time comes for him to deploy.
Good luck and welcome.

Cyndi - posted on 01/30/2009

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Were are you in New London I am a old time Submariners wife, my husband is currently stationed in Groton and we live in Montville if you need any advice let me know

Mercedes - posted on 01/30/2009

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Oh, and just to let you know, my husband is currently out, and I have been emailing back and fourth with him for awhile now. There will be periods of time (usually 2-3 weeks)where they can't email you because they're on station, but they can always receive your emails. I put in the date in the subject line followed by what number the email is that I'm sending, that way, just in case he should miss one, he'll know it. So yes, communication is absolutely possible while they're gone! :)

Mercedes - posted on 01/30/2009

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Hi Kimberly! I have been surrounded by submariners my ENTIRE life. I spent pretty much my whole life in Groton, CT as my dad was on subs, and I married a into the navy (surprise, surprise!) 7 years ago. My husband is currently the Engineering Officer on the USS Wyoming down here in Kings Bay, Georgia. Submarine life can be tough (for BOTH of you), but it definitely has it's up side. Is there anything in particular you were curious about?

LeAnne - posted on 01/30/2009

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As a vetern navy wife, I feel like we should be supportive to new wives and not post such negitive remarks. This life takes time to get used to and it takes a special woman to be a submariners wife. Good luck.

Kim - posted on 01/30/2009

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I know I've been told that he will not be able to communicate with us while he's gone. He's hoping to be stationed on a sub that goes out for 3 month intervals that way we have a set schedule of when he'll be gone. Thanks for info though.

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my best friend's hubby used to be a nuke on subs and she hated it. when he was gone she was never got to talk to him. barely even got emails because everything has to be so secretive. now he's on carriers and she cant believe the difference of all the phone calls emails and they even got video teleconference. so get ready for pretty much no communication.

LeAnne - posted on 01/30/2009

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Quoting Kimberly:

Any wives of submariners?

I'm new to the Navy, my husband is just finishing training at New London Subase and I wanted to talk to someone about life as a submariners wife...



Hello.  Welcomes to the great life of being a submariners wife.  I have been one for almost 14 years now and really love it.  My husband is stationed at Kings Bay, Georgia, on the USS Georgia.  He is a junior officer.  I can't think of any life that would  be better.  We have been stationed in 6 places since we have been married. 

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