can you get your tubes tide after one child?

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Audrey - posted on 06/07/2013

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Of course you can tie your tubes after one child, no children, 15 children (by then a bit late ha ha). It is YOUR life, you would be raising the child so ONLY YOU and your spouse's opinion is what matters. If you are not 1000% sure, freeze some. NO ONE ELSE'S OPINION counts here. Please please do what you want for yourself not what your family, friends and society tells you is "acceptable". You are blessed with one child and for millions that is perfect for THEM. Even though I do not know you i support YOUR decision for you. But again you can freeze some eggs so you have all your bases covered! Hope that helped and have a great weekend.

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Audrey - posted on 06/07/2013

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I am 54 years old with two sons now 22 and 25. I have been through Breast Cancer at 35, almost losing both my sons, and so much more it blows the mind. Yet I stil know I am the luckiest person on the planet. As someone else stated ALWAYS ALWAYS plan for the worst BUT hope for the best. This strategy has not only saved myself, my children, my husband, my friends and helped me build a very successful business. As others very intelligently stated, at 23 I am sorry my sweetie you have no idea yet how life throws amazing situations at you. I also normally would never advice ANYONE on what to do reproductively but you are so young and I have just been around too long and seen it too many times that you might regret this if you make it permanent. May I seriously, from someone who this attitude literally made my life go from horrible to great, plan this on both ends as you have so much ahead. Either use Birth control that will NOT impede your ability to have children IF you should ever decide, or freeze eggs but please do NOT make it permanate sterilization. One of my best friends married a man who did not want children so she did not have due to her love for him. Out of the blue, truly with ZERO NADA warning he asked for a divorce when she was 38 yrs old. To shorten this she met an amazing man and had her first at 40 and second at 42 and I have never seen her happier. No one, I mean no one not even me who sees everything before others could have seen her life flip like that so fast so unexpectantly. Did you know medically and legally you are not considered an adult till 25 years of age? This is because our brains are NOT fully formed to truly see and understand all ramifications till then. It is not an insult it is just how human brains grow. That is why car rentals do not allow you to rent cars till 25 years old, when our brains are truly completed. Honestly I see such a HUGE difference in every aspect of maturity from my 22 year old to my 25 yr old and they both are great responsible grown young men. But it is so obvious the difference in seeing full thought process between them. After helping raise over 18 children, all grown now trust me, you have no idea what women you will be at 25, 28, 35 and on. I am at 54 thinking in matters in such ways I never ever thought I would!! So my love, give yourself time to get to know yourself. So sorry about your husband. God Bless both of you.

Audrey - posted on 06/07/2013

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No ONE and I meand NO one can tell you when you can have your reproductive organs "fixed". If you have a doctor that enforces THEIR opinion onto you, please either interview another or firmly advise that doctor it is YOUR life, thank you for your advice but you do not make any of my decisions.
If I listened to others not only would I have died from Breast Cancer at 35 years old and have left two sons without a mother, but my sons also would both be dead if I listened to the "professionals".
I have learned a long time ago that only I know my body and my life best and only I can decide what is best for me. Advice is great and I use it tremendously from those I trust and admire but please know many many professionals, doctors and even friends have "hidden" agenda's and don't always (not maliciously) give advice that is best for you but what is from their beliefs and needs and life and what they are comfortable with. So use it but your thoughts are #1. NO DOCTOR can or should EVER EVER tell you what to do. Their job is to give us all our OPTIONS so we can make the best educated decision for ourselves. Having children OMG is so not their business. Remember YOU are the pilot of your plane. They can get off at anytime but you will do "down" with your choices not them!! Much love and HUGGS

Audrey - posted on 02/26/2010

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Sure. Just suggest freeze some eggs JUST in case something later happens that makes you change your mind. Life has a very funny way of throwing things at us that we would never expect. My moto is: Plan for the worst BUT always hope for the best! This has so helped me as I am almost always prepared when bad/negative/frustrating situations happen but always keep a positive attitude. Freeze some eggs then you have covered your bases!!

Suzette - posted on 02/24/2010

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I know everyone's body is different and adapts to it differently. :) I hope it works for you!!

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yea i know i've had a lot of friends who have been on it and most of them it hasnt worked but hopefully my uterus will...we'll see how it goes

Suzette - posted on 02/24/2010

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Whitney, make sure you know all the side effects of Mirena first. I have a friend who is on it and she's had some problems with it. I know that it all depends on the person as well, but they say it can be pretty dangerous from what I hear.

Suzette - posted on 02/24/2010

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Really? They let you do it after one now? I thought they made you have at least two before they let you do it. That's interesting and helpful to know... I'm glad someone started this thread!!

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i am in the process right now....i am 23 and my husband has a late stage MS. they would only do it for that reason of his illness otherwise im too young. instead though im going ahead w/the Mirena which is a 5 year iud ( im sure u've seen the commercials) and then after that i will get them tied. you can go in to ur PCM for a consult though so u know all ur options

C. - posted on 02/24/2010

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You can, but honestly I wouldn't do it if I were you. You look VERY young and you may not want anymore kids now, but you never know what the future will bring. Now, if you do get a tubal ligation and decide you want kids again, you can get a reversal, but reversals of tubal ligations are less effective than the reversal of a vasectomy (meaning you may get pregnant after a long time of trying or you may not get pregnant at all). I would just REALLY sit down and think about it and try to come up with situations in your head about the future and then carefully make your decision. Some questions you may want to ask yourself are: What if something happens to your husband/partner/whoever, you get into another relationship wanting another child but the reverse tubal ligation does not work? How do you think that would make you feel? Or what if, God forbid, something happens to your existing child(ren) and then you want another baby? What would you do if the reversal didn't work? Being so young, I would just stick to a long term contraceptive. They have Implanon, Mirena, Copper IUD (Mirena is the plastic version), birth control patches and shots.. The list is endless. Although you could even do something like natural family planning (where you avoid having sex while you're ovulating) or condoms that have spermicide in them (that's what my husband and I use. Pills made me a b****). I would definitely make sure that you are 110% sure that you wouldn't want it any other way before actually doing it.

Jennifer - posted on 02/24/2010

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It all depends on where you live and the hospitals policies. Some want you to wait until your 25 or have had at least 2 kids. Even if you dont want anymore. Samething with if your husband was wanting to get a vasectomy. I would just talk to your doctor and see what they have to say.

Kim - posted on 02/23/2010

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Yes, you can have your tubes tied after having just one child however depending on your insurance they may not pay for it until you have reached a certain age. Most insurances won't allow it til you have reached a minimum of 25. Although I do know that some require you to be 30.

Paige - posted on 02/23/2010

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you look fairly young...there are excellent forms of long term birth control out there you should consider before you sterilize yourself. I have a friend who got her tubes tied and her baby got a horrid brain tumor and passed away. Its awful, but what if... there are so many optiions, please, please, it is a personal choice, but talk to your doctor first.

Mindy - posted on 02/22/2010

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Yes, We have three kids his hers (adopted) and ours the last one being my only pregnancy. I waited 10 years to decide I was brave enough to have one and didnt want any more

Felicia - posted on 02/22/2010

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You can get them done whenever you want. But, in California they make you watch a video first and then they counsel you to make sure it's what you really want to do.

Sonia - posted on 02/22/2010

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Yes, you can ,however the military doctors offer counseling prior to doing this. The counseling is offered and recommended for you and your spouse.

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