Did you dislike your pregnant body?

Cat - posted on 05/10/2013

I know I hate my body, I feel like it all happened at once. One day I was literally saying I can't believe I don't look pregnant and the next day I popped out and saw all the strech marks. And then I couldn't fit in all the clothes I had already bought for my pregnancy. Plus I'm only 18 weeks and had another trimester and a half to keep growing, as my self image shrank. I be on almost tears catching my husband look at girls in bikinis with perfect figures as I'm growing and loosing mine. Plus the fact I couldnt get my husband to touch me. I had a sex drive like never before and enjoying sex a lot more and he wouldnt touch me or tell me how hot I was. It's terrible.

Heather - posted on 12/06/2010

Man oh man I hated my pregnancy body. I was a stick with boobs before I was pregnant so I got stretch marks pretty bad. Really depressing since I was out of my pre-pregnancy job of modeling. I went up a cup size which was nice, I had that opportunity to be a DD and I ended up hating it...LOL. Other than that it wasn't too bad. Emotionally it's difficult for some people to see themselves gain weight super fast if they aren't used to it. For me I just had to tell myself that it was a baby not me getting fat. There is actually a condition know as Pregorexia. Seriously! It's when a pregnant woman sees her baby as fat so she starves herself to be thin. Just remember that it's worth it in the end and if you start doing walks now it'll help burn calories post partum. Vitamin D helps shed weight too but ask a doctor if that's something you should look into. Breastfeed too if that's an option. Baby consumes the milk which means less calories for you to generate around your body. Milk is a liquid weight so pump when you get the chance, trust me it's worth it. I told myself I'd do it natural but my son liked to chomp on my nipple and not eat. After about a month of that I literally told my husband he's taking me to Walmart for a breast pump and I wouldn't let him say no. =]

Brandi - posted on 11/04/2010

I got huge FAST with both of my kids and my husband wanted pics. I got pregnant on leave from AIT then he went staright to deploymnet training then Afghanistan for 12months. I was 3 months along when he left country, he wanted pictures and like you I wasn't so happy with getting that big, but I loved the reason that I was. I had been a big girl before lost the weight then got pregnant back to back and still haven's lost it. But I am ok with it because it gave me two beautiful healthy babies, and I can't think of any better reason to be this big, and I am big. :) I sent him two or three discs and lots more print outs of my changing body, he absolutley loved them and showed them to everyone, I wasn't thrilled with that but they too knew what it was like to be away from their spouces and children, so when we were on the phone they would actually say I was a beautiful pregnant woman. I thought they were full of it, but it made me feel better anyway. I ask my husband if my body bothers him and he says " No I made it that way" lol so I wouldn't be afraid of your hsuband not liking it and after having the baby honestly you shouldn't realy worry much either. Just enjoy it. God made us this way for a reason. Plus your child will Love it cause it makes us more comfy ;)

Heather - posted on 11/03/2010

Oh and as far as pictures go, I took one in each pregnancy, I wanted to be able to compare how big I got for each baby.

Heather - posted on 11/03/2010

No, I did not like my Pregnant body, and unlike most husbands, mine did not like it either. Yes it caused stress, but it was mostly sexual tension as we were both confident I wouldn't stay that big. For my first child it seemed to work out well, I lost most of the weight in the first 2 months, and at 6 months I was only 10lbs above my starting weight and felt like I had "my body" back. I am now 3 months post second baby and I still weigh as much as I did when I left the hospital. My current weight doesn't bother my husband too much, but it is bothersome to me.

Kyrie - posted on 11/01/2010

When I was pregnant with my daughter I stayed pretty small. No one wanted to believe I was as far along as I was and were guessing 2 months earlier even though I knew when I was due exactly. My doc could tell I was right too. I loved how I looked. My docs were amazed when she came out 8lbs 1oz because of how small I'd been.

Now my body with my son on the other hand... I got pregnant with him when my daughter was 10 mos so I never lost the 25 lbs from her and then I felt a bit fat and he always picked the weirdest positions so I looked a bit akward but I still took pictures and had fun, now how I felt about how I looked afterward is a whole other story... lol.

Jodee - posted on 10/29/2010

You are not alone I did not like being pregnant. I liked knowing he was growing, and I could fill him move, and was growing healthy inside. I thought I would be one of those moms that liked being pregnant, but I was not. I am pregnant with our seconded its a girl, and we are done after this. I would of been down if I ended up with 2 boys, but I am lucky.

C. - posted on 10/29/2010

I did! Like you, Heidi, I loved my baby-to-be, but hated the pregnant body.



My husband, then boyfriend/fiance, was going through Basic and AIT during my pregnancy, so he was there a total of 4 or 5 weeks out of the entire pregnancy. He couldn't even be there for the birth. I gained 100 pounds in 9 months!!! I totally understand about the pictures, b/c I hated taking pictures after the weight started piling on (mostly around the 5th month and onward). I loved the pregnancy itself, though.. All the little kicks and things.. I miss it :/



My body hasn't bounced back quite yet. I lost 60 pounds, but recently gained some back b/c of health reasons and not being able to exercise b/c of it.



It didn't cause too much stress in my relationship with my husband. He has always made sure to tell me that I'm beautiful no matter what size I am.



I don't feel 'frumpy', I just don't feel the way I used to about my body. You can be a bigger mom and still look fabulous.

Krystal - posted on 10/29/2010

i felt completely beautiful! i was obsessed with my belly! The bigger it got the more anxious I got bc i knew i would be holding my gorgeous baby soon! I loved being pregnant. I miss it! I cant wait to have another! My daughter turned 3 in june but with hubbys work and deployments its made it hard to plan for another but hopefully soon! I kept all my maternity clothes so i wont need much. I also loved shopping for maternity clothes! Its a special experience us mothers only get to have with our babies, why not enjoy it to the fullest!!!! I did!!!

Darcey - posted on 10/29/2010

Yes, I did feel this way as well. I wouldn't let anyone take pictures of me during the whole pregnancy, although I found a couple a few years later. I weighed 105 lbs before pregnancy and during I gained 50 lbs all over... my boobs, butt and face. I felt so unglowy and unhappy. But I am a happy mom now! =)

Jacqueline - posted on 10/28/2010

I haven't minded any of my pregnancies. It is just natural to gain a little weight and for your body to change a little. I am on my third pregnancy, and due pretty much any day now. I guess the only part I dislike about being pregnant is the aches and pains that go along with the last few weeks, and the nausea that comes with the first few. I have gained a few pounds with each pregnancy that don't really go away, but I don't mind because I was always a little underweight before getting pregnant for the first time and I lose the pregnancy weight within a few months post-pregnancy. You don't have to go to the gym to lose the weight either, but just taking a daily walk with your kids and eating healthy seems to work for me. I can't say I am going to be posing on any magazine covers, but it keeps me healthy.

Sunshine - posted on 10/21/2010

I am not a type of person who hates my body.. Cause there is a reason it looks the way it does.. :) I was really skinny before I got pregnant but I didn't gain much but 20 pounds maybe. I didn't think I was big at all but everyone told me how big I have gotten, LOL :)
I didn't believe em I could still kinda see my toes at least til the last 2 weeks, ha! After words I never really cared what my body looked like.. I haven't tried losing weight yet although I DID without doing anything lose all my baby weight :) I just need to tighten places up..
I look at it this way you could look worse then you do.. I know some people wanna feel beautiful but you already are you don't have to look like an anorexic super model to look beautiful & feel good about yourself :)

Mackenzie - posted on 10/21/2010

First pregnancy I didn't enjoy being pregnant, but was comfortable with the weight gain...now I'm 20 weeks into pregnancy number 2 and am feeling much worse about the gaining weight! I think i just got into such good shape after the first one it is hard to see it going away! I acutally weight less right now (with my daughter!) then I did with my son at this stage but for some reason feel much bigger. I love my pregnant belly, but not my pregnant thighs!!! Hopefully I can bounce back again after this one, but for now just accepting the fact that nothing fits...but for good reason! (I'm also glad to see other moms who will admit that pregnancy was not the best time of thier lives and not that enjoyable!)

Sandy - posted on 10/21/2010

Hugs. I disliked my body when I was pregnant. I hated being pregnant. I'm not so happy with the post pregnant body either. I had no interest in sex for months during and after the pregnancy. I'm not a photogenic person to begin with and loathed all pictures taken of me while pregnant and even now, since I'm not back down to my pre-pregnancy weight yet. My husband, bless his heart, was very doting and all that good stuff, which really only made it worse. The only reason I glowed was because I was pregnant during the summer on a tropical island. It sucked for me, and I'm never doing it again.

Kendra - posted on 10/18/2010

@ heidi- yea i am working full time and going to school, i also feel like i have more of a sweet tooth with this baby so i know i am not eating healthy. my weight gain has been about the same as well but the things im eating are just not healthy. (the other day i had ice cream from breakfast! eek!)

Morgan - posted on 10/18/2010

i can't really say i love my pregnancy body, but i didnt hate it either...i had preeclampsia so EVERYTHING was swollen and my stomach was way huge for my daughter who was born 5lbs 5oz...it was almost aggrivating how big i got...and even still, i havent gotten rid of all the fluid even though i do alot of walking and chasing my daughter through my apartment, i barely use salt anymore, and i drink water and tea like crazy!!! and i still have the ugly stretch marks everywhere... :(

Krystal - posted on 10/16/2010

I loved my pregnant body, but I also lost weight and only looked pregnant in my belly.

Rachelle - posted on 10/16/2010

HI.....I can completely relate to being pregnant all over....seriously, nowhere on my body was there any doubt if I was pregnant....full face to swollen feet. Yep...fat and pregnant. BUT, I think it helped that I was 35 when I had my first. I think it made it easier for me to accept and embrace the changes and what it represented. I REALLY miss being pregnant. I have 3 boys, 8, 6, and 4 and I'm done now. Plus, my husband realy didn't care too much about what was happening to me body. He was gone for most of my pregnancies....only went to doc appointments when I pressured him too. So try to enjoy the fact that your husband is trying to enjoy your pregnancy with you. Good luck!

Candi - posted on 10/15/2010

I loved my pregnant body with all 3 kids! Only my belly grew with my girls. With my son(my 1st) I gained all over. 40 pounds total. I am normally under 100 lbs, so to gain that was weird, but I swear 30 lbs of it was boobs! I lost weight quickly after he was born. got down to 92lbs. We wanted our kids close together so we got preg again and gained 41lbs. Lost the weight but kept most of my boobs and was happy! Well 5 yrs later I had my 3rd, gained 42 lbs and my DD bra was way too small, so when my weight went away, so did the boobs! :( Anyway, I loved being pregnant and even though my body will never look like it did before kids, I have learned to appreciate it. My husband loved my prego body and the non-prego body. Everytime I start to feel unattractive or hate my saggy boobs and flabby belly, I just think of the blessing of my 3 kids and I feel better

Ilana - posted on 10/15/2010

I disliked my body the first time around, but I think that also had to do with how ill I was the first time around. I had many medical issues. With my second, I loved the way I looked, and felt aside of the normal pregnancy aches and pains. Now after all is said and done, now I dont like the way I look. I cant seem to drop these extra 15 pounds and none of my pre-prego clothes fit, and the way my hips are sitting, I dont think even if I lost the 15 pounds they would fit. booo!! Oh well, maybe I can use that as an excuse to go shopping... haha

Tabby - posted on 10/15/2010

I didn't like my pregnant body either... I felt huge all the time. It caused lots of problems in my marriage because my husband liked how I looked. Now 9 months after I had my daughter my body looks just like it did before I had her but I still feel frumpy. My husband tells me all the time that I look just like I did pre-baby but after so many months of feeling huge I just can't seem to feel the same way I did about myself as I did then.

Heidi - posted on 10/15/2010

I know what you mean, Kendra. I had an easier time coping with the changes in my first pregnancy and the second one was harder. I wanted to be better at eating right and exercising but it was actually much more stressful because I was working full time at a tough job, husband deployed, and taking care of a 2 year old. I kept the weight gain about the same but didn't stay in as good shape the second time. That said, I have bounced back fitness wise faster this time.

Kendra - posted on 10/15/2010

When i was pregnant with my first child i loved it, i thought i looked great! sometimes i would get the occasional "dont eat too much your gonna be huge" from ppl n i would think what are you talking about? i look great haha. but AFTER i had my daughter and lost all the weight, i went back and looked at pictures and was shocked! i was HUGE i had the fattest face! my boobs looked like watermelons! i couldnt believe i thought i looked so good haha!

now that im pregnant again im more aware and a little more self concious. i love seeing my belly but i know my face is getting chubby and thats what is bothering me the most. just remembering those pictures from the first time are making me think "ugh i dont wanna look like that again"

Heidi - posted on 10/15/2010

I haven't tried any of the Jillian Michaels workouts...I will have to get one and see if I like it. One of my friends swears by the Turbo Jam DVDs (I can't think of the woman's name right now, but she is easy to follow and the workouts are fun). I love to run with the jogging stroller too. Still, getting back to my same weight doesn't necessarily bring that sexy feeling back! Maybe it is a result of the sleep deprivation and breastfeeding.

Patrinah - posted on 10/14/2010

I loved being pregnant and the way that I looked. I had always been really thin so for me to pick up any kind of weight was great. I did not gain as much weight as would have liked, but the funny thing is that after I had my daughter in March I lost a few pounds and now I have picked up more weight. I have started to feel like a frumpy mom, so i decided to start working out on the treadmill using the Jillian Michael's works out just so that I have have the energy to keep up with a 7 month old and I actually feel better and like the way my body looks. More curves in the right places.

Kelly - posted on 10/14/2010

I just had my little girl about 8 weeks ago, and I HATED being pregnant. I'm naturally a thin person and it really bothered me to gain weight. I always had people telling me that my belly looked so big, or that I looked like I was carrying twins (not the smartest thing to say to a pregnant woman!!) But come to find out, lots of women don't like being pregnant.. so I don't feel so bad. Looking back on it, I kinda wish I had taken more pictures of my belly. And now that I have had my little girl, I am trying so hard to get back to my normal size, but it's hard when you are at home by yourself. I just bought the Jillian Michael's "Shred it in 30 Days" DVD.. I highly recommend it bc it's only a 20 minute work out everyday... so usually I can find a time to fit it in.

Amy - posted on 10/14/2010

It's funny, you always think you're the only one who feels this way, but obviously knowing full well you're not...this is EXACTLY how I feel! I'm about 6 1/2 months pregnant now with my second, and again just feel ugly and disgusting. I love my son more than anything in the world, and am really excited to have a little girl in Jan, but I HATE being pregnant! I never feel good, am a naturally thin person and enjoy having a flat stomach, shallow or not. I know that the reason my belly is growing is so worth it and I couldnt imagine my life w/o the blessings of my children, but I just hate seeing my body stretch and change during pregnancy. My hubby is deployed right now, he left when I was 18 weeks, not really showing at all, and he'll be back for R&R the day before my c-section. He wants pics and to skype and see my belly, and I hate showing him because I don't feel like I look sexy or pretty for him anymore with my expanding front end! I also have a really hard time when people come over or I see family or friends that I haven't in a while and they comment on how big my belly is getting, or how I'm really starting to pop out...like I don't need the constant reminder! I know I'm getting fat and getting a belly, not a news-flash to me! It hasn't caused any stress between me and my hubby, I really miss having him around like I did with my son because he loves how I look pregnant and would always tell me how beautiful and sexy I looked, and I needed that! It's hard not having that this time. After having my son I was always super careful about what I ate and was even thinner than pre-pregnancy, probably even more worried about my body and how thin or good I thought I looked than before baby. Hope this helps and know that you were DEF not alone in this feeling!! :)