Marisa - posted on 05/26/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
My husband is currently on Recruiting Duty with the Marines, and the discussion of us living apart when he goes back to the fleet keeps coming up (we will be done with this duty December of 2013). Our child will be of school age and because my husband never had a stable environment when he was a kid (mom moved them all over their city and he was in 4 schools by 1st grade) he wants differently for our son. He says that he will hardly ever see us even when he is home, and doesn't want for our son to always be the new kid, never being able to keep the same friends due to moving around. He wants him to eventually enter the Naval Academy and wants him to be in all kids of sports, do well in school, all these things he never had. I see his point, but it still makes me sad to be away from him. I guess the thought that runs through my mind is that, what if something happened while he was deployed? That time we could have had won't be there, because he chose to have us home with his family and not with him. I need to know that if this happens I won't be alone in this. That there are other women who are going through the same thing I will be. How do you handle it? What challenges does it impose on your family? I want to go with him on this, but I guess right now, I am only seeing one side of it. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.