End of deployment & Ive lost my mind!!!!!

Charity - posted on 06/22/2010

first of all GET UP GET MOVING those boys deserve a mom not a zombie!!!!!!!!!!!! Take the boys to a park or something different every day that will help bring bedtime sooner. Once you get up life will be better more than likely you are nervouse and don't realize it. Is he the same, will he like what we have done while he was gone, does he still love me & the boys, these are all normal but the main thing is is GET UP AND OUT

Shelly - posted on 06/21/2010

Thank you all so much for the encouraging words!!! After having a breakdown of tears in my bathroom today and then sorta talking to my husband really helped!! I took the kids to the splash park today and actually got out of the house!!

Brandie - posted on 06/21/2010

I agree with Alice....The last month can be the hardest, because you know that homecoming day is so close! I wouldn't do stuff with the kids, because it was a suprise! I would clean the house over and over, because I wanted everything to be perfect. I would even try some new recipes so that I could make him a wonderful homecoming meal or maybe just go with his favorite (we know they don't have the greatest food when they are gone). I even started working out, because I wanted to look my best for him.
Hang in there! It really will be over before you know it. I have done it twice and now I live without him just waiting for him to get his paperwork out. We have been apart for 2-1/2 years. You can do it girl!

Mell - posted on 06/21/2010

Shelly Im new to the whole Army life & I havent experienced a deployment but my hubby has been gone for 7months boot camp & training I get to talk to him alot but its still hard since this life style is so brand new. He comes home next Thursday & my heart aches cause its right around the corner. I havent been myself lately but what helps me is keepin busy everyday dont give yourself too much down time to think. Alice Palmer had a good idea about chocolate how can u go wrong with that. Everyday u can get chocolate wasted till he gets home lol.

Alice - posted on 06/21/2010

I know what you're going through, Shelly. The last month or so is the hardest. It's really hard to make those last weeks fly by when all you really want is to have your guy home and in your arms again. That being said, here's some things that I did to help myself pass the time and make it a little more positive in the end.
I got a jar and counted out enough of my favorite Hershey kisses so that there was enough for me to have a special "kiss" from my hubby every day until he came home. (Make sure to keep a few extra close by though, just in case his homecoming date gets pushed back a few days.)
I also started counting down the days on my cell phone, facebook, and calendar at home, not to mention to everyone I talked to throughout the day. I swear everyone I knew could have told you exactly how many days were left until my hubby was due to come home...hehe.
I also tried to do fun things with my little one to get things ready for daddy's homecoming. Help your kids paint a bunch of pictures and signs to put in your yard on homecoming day. You can also help them make picture frames out of popsickle sticks, and then take them to their favorite park or fun place to take pics of them to put in the frame for daddy.
Also, start talking to your kids about all the fun things they want to do with their daddy when he gets home. Ask them if they want to make dad a welcome home cake or treat. Start talking about your hubby everyday so the kids can start getting excited too. If you are anything like me, you're children's excitement is contagious!!
If you start looking forward to the day he comes home, what you'll wear, how you want your hair to look, etc, then you'll find yourself starting to get more energetic and excited about homecoming day instead of being depressed about the fact that he's still gone.
Just keep reminding yourself, Shelly, the longest portion of it is behind you and now you're in the home stretch! Hang in there, cuz I promise it's gonna get better with each passing day, and before you know it, you're hubby will be home and holding you in his arms again, just like you remember.
Best of luck to you and your family. God Bless, and thanks to your husband for his service to our country!

Krys - posted on 06/21/2010

I think i know how you feel but its a lill less my fiance is looking at his first deployment in the army he had a deployment in the navy, but that was b4 the army and i didnt know him then but they are doing the few weeks here away and then he was sent to schooling for something and i guess the closer we got the crazier i got..idk ..he has been away 3 mths b4 and i was okay this time three weeks and i have cried so much, we are getting close to our wedding day and then soon hios deployment ,,i dont know wht was wrong with me but i had to make myself get up start wrkn out again EATING , and walking alot.. going swimming and such....mayb when hes deployed you could give me some advice;) i wish you the best but know it wont be long he wioll be home and things will be sweeter:D