First Deployment Preparation.. Not much time left!

Jessica - posted on 10/03/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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It is getting really close to the time that my husband leaves for training.. and I'll only get to see him for 6 days for the holidays before he is shipped overseas. I'm having a really hard time dealing with the fact he is going. Does anyone know of anything that will make it so it's not so hard on me? The longest I've ever been away from him while we have been together is 2 weeks for his AT and that was a few years ago.. How do I explain to my son that daddy is going to be leaving? Do I just let it happen and then try to explain why he is gone or tell him before hand that daddy is leaving and won't be back for awhile? If so what do I say? I'm feeling completely lost right now. My husband only has 2 days left of work after tonight and then he is done so it seems just that much more real. Definitely glad that he is gonna have some time off before he leaves tho! I think my daughter is too young to understand that he is leaving but my son is almost 3 and knows that daddy comes home every night after work.. So any advice would be excellent!

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Amanda - posted on 10/05/2009

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Definetly talk with your son about it. He needs to understand why Daddy isn't around. Perhaps making a photo scrapbook of him and daddy that he can look at while daddy is away. (One for Dad might be nice too.) Even at three he can understand that Daddy has to go away or a while. As for coping try and keep yourself busy. voulenteer or pick up a part time job if you don't already have one. Find other spouses in your husbands unit to make plans with. Always have something to look forward to. game night, movie night or something to keep your mind occupied.

Jessica - posted on 10/03/2009

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I decided to talk to him about it a little bit as I laid him down to bed. I said pretty soon daddy has to go fight the bad guys.. Ok? And he looks at me and says 'Yeah.. Daddy a superman.. Daddy fight a bad guys!' So I guess we refer to daddy as our superman while he is gone.. fightin the bad guys. :)

Jennifer - posted on 10/03/2009

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You need to go ahead and tell him that he is going to be leaving for a while. I always make sure I show the kids pics of their daddy and talk about him all the time. It is also important to stay busy. It makes the time seem to pass faster!

Tiffany - posted on 10/03/2009

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You need to tell him before he leaves. Otherwise it will be hard to console him and he won't know what's going on. You should also try to tape your husband reading stories or something to play for your son after he's gone. Children are alot stronger than we give them credit for. As long as you keep it together so will they.

Amber - posted on 10/03/2009

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tell your son ahead of time dont just spring it on him that could be possible the worst thing i could think of!!! Tell him daily that daddy is going to fight the bad guys. It should help a little

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