Horribly stressful job. Opinions?

Pauletta - posted on 12/10/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My husband is in the NG and he is being deployed in January. The job I have is horribly stressful. To the point to where I'm actually losing hair and weight. The weight isn't so bad because I never really lost any after having my son 4 years ago. Anyways, I've had this job for 3 years. There's only my manager and myself, as assistant, in this one facility. It's a cash advance business. Over this past year things have changed and gotten practically unbearable. They refuse to hire at least a part time help and I get stuck doing not only my job but the managers job as well. Not a day goes by that I don't come home with a headache. I've been applying for jobs and have some that are promising and A LOT closer to home. I have never quit a job without having another lined up. My husband on the other hand wants me to go ahead and quit, because my manager will not work with me on anything. Even to the point to where the day he leaves to be deployed she won't let me come in just one hour late so I can see him off. He said he didn't care if I had to go work a part time job somewhere in our town it would be less stressful. I do want to quit but I'd rather have another job lined up. I'd appreciate any thought on it, because I love my husband but between him, my job, his deployment and taking care of our kids I'm stressed to the max here! Just to add this in here because the original title made my husband sound really controlling and he's not. My husband just hates seeing me so stressed and with the headaches and etc.

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Pauletta - posted on 12/23/2012

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Yeah she wasn't too happy. But now she keeps telling me she won't find anyone that will be as good as me. I'm taking the time with my family and probably going to get a part time job if I can't find a full time. I haven't went without a job since I was put on bed rest my whole pregnancy with my little boy. I already have quite a few apps in. So fingers crossed. Thank you guys for being so nice and helpful. I honestly thought I was losing my mind. Because of the way jobs are hard to come by anymore.

Tah - posted on 12/23/2012

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If it doesn't go well that is her own fault. People treat you how you let them. She was being mean and abusing you and now she will have 2 weeks to get somewhere in there to do what you did. I think quitting is good for any job that gives you a headache. We all want to lose weight, but that way is not good. Best wishes..

Linda - posted on 12/23/2012

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Having your husband deployed is stress enough. If this job gives you a daily headache and is making you lose weight and hair I would worry that adding the deployment on top of that would put you in the hospital. Then who would be there to take care of the kids, the house, etc? Quit the job, preferably in time to be able to see your husband off.

Sarah - posted on 12/11/2012

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I hope it does go well for you! I think that's the right decision. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 12/11/2012

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Honestly, I would quit. Any job who won't let you see your husband off for deployment is not worth it. If you don't have a job lined up this will give you more free time to find just what you're looking for. Your family comes first and with deployment coming it needs to be the biggest priority.

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Tah - posted on 12/25/2012

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No, I get it. I have been MIA on here because I am in school to switch majors, I have about 5 months left on this Psych degree thank God. I love being a nurse but it is draining, I'm burned out and it's breaking my body down. I had surgery in October on my rotator cuff and can't work as a nurse right now so I am putting in applications for behavioral health etc that go along with my major. The surgeon said I can do them as long as it is just paperwork and no lifting, pushing etc. I have been applying for about 2-3 weeks. I know that isn't too long, but I am sure that I am just spoiled because as a nurse I am used to getting hired between on-the-spot and a week later. So it's taking time, but I have to be mindful that it's a different economy and the holidays to boot. With me I have to be mindful that it's a healthcare, but another spectrum so it won't be as fast...I am doing the same as you, taking this time with my family, and focusing on school and healing...I'm not used to not working, like you, and it's driving me a little crazy, but things happen for a reason. I hope this teaches your ex-boss that she should treat people in a better manner, especially good help..I am sure she is going crazy having to do her own work...LOL...

Pauletta - posted on 12/11/2012

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I appreciate it. I have applications and resumes in at a lot of different places. I was just worried about quitting before actually having another job. But like you said my family does come first. There has just been so much going on I was afraid that maybe I was making a mistake. And I was wanting to get some opinions to make sure I wasn't being irrational. I am putting in my two weeks notice the 17th so wish me luck. I don't think it's going to go very well after I tell her though.

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