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I just wanted to know how other women handle these things in the military. How do you handle affairs during deployment? Do you write it off as stress due to the deployment and are you more forgiving than if he did it at home? Or what? I've heard it is normal for deployed men to get heavy into porn and adultery. Mine is into the porn, that I am morally against, and cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend as far as talking to her, skyping her, and going to see her on R&R all behind my back. He says they were just friends, but I don't believe him. And I think he is into phone sex or something like that. Those are big no-nos to me that I don't want to put up with, but I can see why he would do it because he is in a stressful situation and that's how he handles his stress.
I don't want to be a doormat so we are getting a divorce, but I feel like a jerk myself for getting a divorce while he is deployed.