Husband coming home soon

Chelsey - posted on 10/05/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I havent seen my husband for almost 2 years from this christmas. He is in the army station at Germnay. We couldnt go with him because of medical resons. He came home 2 years ago for christmas for 2 wks. and he was deplyed at that time. He has been back in germany for a year now and i havnet seen him sept on web cam. we have a 3 and half year old little girl. We are talking about going away before he see our daughter when he gets in. I am just worryed that living our child with family i will be worrying about her the whole time we are away. what should i do. What are fun ideas to do for the weekend with your husbands? we are also getting ready to move on top off all this too. we are going to texas.

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Angy - posted on 10/11/2010

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I have been an Army wife for 12 years and we have a 2 year old daughter. Do not feel bad about spending time alone. You need that time to come back together as a couple and reconnect. Showing a loving united parenting relationship to your child is the best possible thing for her. She is still young enough not to understand everything, so she is going to go through a HUGE adjustment period when he comes home. He also needs to understand that he is esentially a stranger coming into her life taking time away from her with mommy and he also needs to be prepared. My husband hasn't been away from his daughter as long as yours, but there was a real rough patch when he got back. The first week or so it was great and then she wanted nothing to do with him. This is normal so tell him so he won't think it is him. If you trust your family go somewhere to relax, reconnect and get to know each other again. It won't happen overnight, but it will be a start. My husband and I always take weekends away and mini trips alone, it is important for your relationship. Not only are you a mom and dad, but you are also husband and wife and that part needs to be nutured as well. It is so easy to get caught up in the parenting that the rest gets left by the wayside. Never feel guilty about taking time for yourself, you come back recharged and refreshed and are a much better parent. Good luck!

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Chelsey - posted on 10/13/2010

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thanks!! he is home for 30 days but in that 30 days we are going to be moving to texas. we talked about him and her going out for father and daughter time. i hope she understands.

Angy - posted on 10/12/2010

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She probably will act out. Just have patience with him and her. He also needs to understand there is going to be a huge adjustment period. She is not used to sharing you and in comes this other person even though it's her dad. There is a difference between webcam and being home. It might be OK at first and then she might push him away. If he has some leave built up that he can take and spend some quality time with her that should help. Just remember however she needs to handle it is OK and normal every child is different. Just let her go at her own pace and don't rush it and it will all work out fine. Good luck!

Chelsey - posted on 10/12/2010

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I am going to have fun. Today at my daughter school her teacher asked her if her daddy was home and she said no. isnt that cute. when he is on webcam i talk to her about it everday and said that daddy will be home on monday and that you get to see him when you get off the bus. I am not sure if she really understand what that means sents she has a learning promblem. Its going to be different with him being home and then traveling. will my daughter act out. that she dosent know her dad or what should i do?

Chelsey - posted on 10/11/2010

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Thanks Angy!! I am so excited for the weekend to spend time as a couple. I dont feel like its selfish, Jennifer. I know that i am going to have a hard time with being away from my daughter but i need this time away from her and get to know my husband again before we move and him being deplyment.

Jennifer - posted on 10/11/2010

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If I were in that situaton, I wouldn't leave my child with family. I know you miss him, but you know what? So does she. I think it's selfish for you to get alone time with him before she even gets to see him. It's not like she'll be up your butt the entire day- she will go to bed and you can spend time together.

Jamie - posted on 10/11/2010

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Personally I think they best thing you could do is just take it easy and not do much of anything! Just being with eachother is going to be the most rewarding!!! My husband is also soon to return home and this is our second deployment. We have an 18month old son and when he gets here we are going to go to a lodge with a water park indoor for a night to all really bond again!!! Im so glad to hear your husband is coming home! Congrats!

Where in TX are yall moving? We are at Ft. Bliss thats why I ask...

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