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Husband joining military to escape family life?

Lol - posted on 07/08/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My husband is joining the Marines in two weeks. I fully support his decision and look forward to contributing to the protection of our country, however, I can't help feeling that my husband is doing this to sneak out of his fatherly responsibilities. Our pregnancy was unplanned and my husband was unsupportive and some what mentally negligent during the first 5 months of the pregnancy. I was hoping he would be more excited about being a father when his son was born, but he hasn't changed much at all. If I never give him the option to help around the house or take care of our son he always chooses to do chores instead. He's awkward and uncomfortable around our son and I'm worried that our son will grow up not knowing his dad. Will being in the military help, or will it be detrimental to his already lacking family attitude?

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Sonya - posted on 07/08/2009

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Hey girly! You're more than welcome to call me or whatever if you need to. You know I've been dealing with this stupid stuff for years lol.

I think he's not really running from his responsibilities, but running TOWARDS them. He knows with the military, he'll have a constant incoming paycheck, and constant insurance. With this economy, I've noticed a lot of people are joining the military to ensure their family has the things they need and will not have ot go without.
Also, a lot of guys are iffy about themselves around little babies. They tend to push them selves away because their scared or unsure. They tend to warm up when the kids walk steadily and talk and are more independent. They don't have the "mothering nature" women have. It doesn't come natural for most men. Just be patient hun. Things will warm up eventually. :) I'm here for ya if ya ever need

Laura - posted on 07/08/2009

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I can not speak personally for your husband but. My husband is a marine recruiter and I have seen so many lives change for the good. He will come home a totally different person. I do not know your financial or home life but maybe in a way he is doing this for your family. Maybe he wants to provide you stability and a guarantee of housing and healthcare. I know that is what has kept us in the corp for many years. My kids will never no matter what be homeless and they always have good healthcare. Please do not worry about your son not knowing his dad. The time away my husband spends makes him more special to my kids. The think of him as a hero, and they love him more than me on most days. I wish you the best of luck. If you need anything or need to talk please feel free to friend request me. I would suggest that as soon as you get to a base look into the LINKS program. It is wonderful and you will get alot of great information. Where do you live now? I know some recruiting areas offer the program.

Good luck and welcome to a special group of wives.

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