I HAVE THE ARMY WIFE RECRUITING BLUES LOL!!!!!!!!

Tamara - posted on 08/07/2009

I agree with Erica. My husband is now a Navy recruiter and the hours are long and I can't truely count on him to be there for much. But keeping my head in 'deployment mode' (good term by-the-way) really allows me to keep going, and appreciate the time we do have together. It is not easy still, but that helps a lot.

Erica - posted on 08/06/2009

Kianna,

My family and I just survived a recruiting tour in Atlanta, GA. My husband and I have a total of 27 years of military service between the two of us and recruiting duty has been the worst experience I have every had with the military. I wouldn't wish recruiting duty on my worst enemy. The first year was the hardest for me. It was so hard to have him there but not really there...I couldn't really rely on him for any help because he was working all the time. To make matters worse we lived over an hour away from his recruiting station so even if he got off at 7:00 pm we didn't see him until almost 9:00. Most nights it was closer to 10:00 or 11:00. After that first year...I kind of just went into deployment mode...I just lived my life like he wasn't there and that may sound harsh, but it actually helped. I was able to enjoy the time I was able to spend with him more. We made it a point to always try to go somewhere when he was on leave so they couldn't call him back into the office and just tried to live life one moment at a time. Try to find something to fill your time. If you don't have children, you can try volunteer work or maybe take some college classes. My son and I took Tae Kwon Do together and I volunteered with his Boy Scout troup. I wish you the best of luck getting through this difficult time. Just remember...this too shall pass. Take Care!

Erica

Sandy - posted on 08/06/2009

Where is everyone stationed?

Amy - posted on 08/06/2009

Hang in there, we have been on recruiting for a while now, and have a year and a half left. It's different, and crazy. It has gotten better here, they have different hours now, and he is home more. Also more 3 day weekends. It was stressful when he was leaving before I got up and home after I went to bed, tough with a baby, but sitck through the tough times and it gets better. Good luck!

Dani - posted on 08/05/2009

Well I married my husband when he started recruiting and I hate it. The phone never quits ringing. We live like 2 hrs from his station so he is up and out by 7:00 and not home tell 9 or 10. I HATE IT!! I also have a one and half year old and it is hard be a single parent. But we only have 28 more day's Yeah!!! Keep your head held high you can do anything

KIANNA - posted on 08/04/2009

Hello everyone for all your kind words I will take all the words to heart!!!!!!!!!!!

Crystal - posted on 08/04/2009

Hello Kianna. My names Crystal and my husband is doing recruiting in Wisconsin. I know exactly how you feel. It's hard to adjust and there is no active FRG for support. I feel guilty feeling this way also, because at least he's not deployed. Ever need to talk, send me a message.

Sandy - posted on 08/02/2009

Hi, my husband has been on recruiting duty for almost a year now. We are stationed in Irving,TX. This is the first time we are living off-post. The nearest base is about 40 minutes from here. I hate not being able to go to the commisary whenever I need something. I never really thought about how expensive it would be living off-post,paying our own utilities and so on. It's such a big adjustment for me and exspecially our children. Our eldest daughter is in a great school BUT she is having such a hard time connecting with other kids. It's like she has nothing in common with "civilians". Recruiting itself hasen't been that bad. My husband works 6 days a week. When he has recruits going to MEPS he sometimes works on Sundays. My husband works with some really great people and I think that is what makes recruiting for us a little bit easier. I try to make dinner for the office once a week. My kids love it,they get to see their Daddy and have dinner with him. The one thing I hate about recruiting is that the phone is ALWAYS ringing!! I can't stand it! I think if you have a strong relationship with your spouse before you enter recruiting,everything will be ok. My husband is non-deployable for atleast 3 years and thats what I'm sooo thankful for!! Hope you are adjusting well!! Be positive and keep busy!

Christlyn - posted on 08/02/2009

My husband actually graduates this Friday from the Army recruiting school. I haven't had to deal with the whole recruiting life yet but if you have a yahoo account, I joined the army_recruiting_wives group through yahoo and they have been soooo informative and supportive. Even if your husband isn't in the Army, there probably are other branch recruiting wives group. It's a place to share your stories, vent, and ask question. There are quite a few proplr on there with your same concerns.

Brandy - posted on 08/01/2009

Recruiting duty is so different than regular Army. A person really cannot complain about it though. Your spouse is home every night. My hubby did recuriting for 3 yrs. We met some very wonderful people, both military and civilian. They do work late hours but you get used to it. Hang in there! You are not the only person who feels or has felt the way you do.

Dena - posted on 08/01/2009

I'm a Marine wife and my husband is a Marine Recruiter in Texas. I just moved back to California with our daughter since we never saw him and he changed a lot! Hang in there, it's a hard and lonley life =( Try and keep as busy as possible. I honestly think Recruiting Duty is worse than deployment. I believe they should only make single men and women be recruiters because it's extreamly hard on famlies. Hugs to you!!! How much longer do you have?