I Need Advice On How Life Will Be Once My Hubby Gets Station.

LaTerra - posted on 11/29/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Can Someone PLEASE gIVE mE iNFORMATION About Being An Army Wife Feb.27 Is The Day I Leave My Family And Become On My Own Iam Kind Of Scared Because Iam Soo Young And Shy I Have Thoughts I Will Hate It And Want To Come Home Because My Family Put Shit In My Head...Please Tell Me The Good And The Bad..

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Charity - posted on 03/02/2011

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Ft Sam Houston: days will be 12 hour shifts, 3-4 days a week. Pretty awesome duty station, honestly, but only medical MOSs get stationed there for the most part. Ft Sam is also a non-deploying unit, so if you get stationed there, you are pretty much gaurenteed a cushy couple of years. San Antonio sucks though. There's a lot to do b/c it's a really big city and there are 4 bases between army and air force there along with several universities and other stuff so the city is HUGE compared to most. While that makes some aspects of life easier, it makes it a LOT harder to make friends, especially because so many people live off post. If he's stationed at the training support company at Camp Bullis, you'll be in for a sucky time. There is no post housing on Camp Bullis, so you'll have to commute from Ft Sam to Bullis (30 miles) every day. Days start at 4am and usually don't end until after 5. The cadre all are inlove with themselves so don't be surprised if he comes home wanting to blow their brains out.

Crystal - posted on 01/12/2010

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nobody can tell u really because every post is different i have learned that we were at ft sill, oklahoma and we just pcs to ft polk, louisiana and it is way different and i have went to ft gordon, georgia different there too do u know were u will be going and some ppl like the frg meetings to me its a waste of my time i can be spending with my daughter then listing them talk it has nothing to do with my family and all im worried abt is my family somebody elses thats my opionin

Kari - posted on 01/09/2010

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FIrst off being an army wife is AWESOME! I was 18 when I got married(I turned 18 on May 27th and got married July 14th.!) My family didnt want me to get married so young and as fast we had that march. But we did and my family came around and we've been married for almost 3 years. I didnt move too far from my family at first but now my family is in TX and im in Colorado! I hate being so far away from them since we're all really close and I especially hate having my daughter so far away from everyone but my husband helps me out when I'm sad and does everything he can so I can visit my family. They shouldn't be putting stuff in your head. There is bad stuff but more good. You have such a more special love than civilians you appreciate each other more. You get to see so many places that you usually wouldnt get to see. As much as I hate being away from my fam, I love Colorado, its beautiful! And try not to be shy but if you cant not be shy join an army wife group, and meet new people post things trying to find people in your area, and ask your husband if any of his friends are married and introduce you to his frineds wives. That's how I became friends with my 2 best friends. And you become stronger than you ever thought was possible, true you have to go through hard times to become that strong but its worth it. The bad, you do have to move from your family and theres the deployments. But you get past that, There's a lot of army functions that go on. And if you want to meet people go to the FRG meetings, my husband hates them but you make him go to the 1st couple of them then you can go by yourself and you'll meet people there. Being an army wife is fun,excting and unpredictable. Stay positive, if you really love him you will get married and tell your family that it what you want and what you think is right for you. Where is he stationed?

Tigger - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hey I was same way I got married at 17 and moved all the way 2 TX w/ hubby from Ga so that's a long ways off and I was nervous but it was pretty nice once u get use 2 it.. I was also shy but now I just talk 2 anyone cause being a military wife u want as much support as u can have which r through your military friends cause they know what your going through so its always good 2 have plenty of them around.. The Army life has been great so far I just hate deployments but what spouse don't.. I been through a lot w/ him gone but I stay busy and having a newborn keeps me busy.. I been Army wife for 3yrs and all I can say is I love it and we still visit family and all that I just hate deployments and sometimes there is 2 much drama but u just try 2 avoid that..

Rachel - posted on 01/08/2010

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Well I'm a Marine wife but I would still like to offer some advice. I'm almost 20 so I can relate on the being pretty young part. Unfortunately the adjustment period can be rather difficult.Just stay committed to your man and overtime it will become more easy to deal w/the late hrs, etc. As the other woman said his work hrs all depends on his MOS and unit. My husband generally works from 0545 to 1630 or 1700. As far as your family putting ideas in your head, my opinion with that is it is your choice or not whether or not to let that influence you. I believe that people who haven't experienced military life (whether being in themselves or being a spouse) for themselves have little right to tell military wives how they should be feeling. No one knows exactly how they will react till they have gone through it themselves. Well I'm going to read other people's posts but if you want to talk more just email me @ rceleste012009@gmail.com

Tamara - posted on 11/30/2009

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www.armyspousesonline.com has a ton of information.



Not sure where you all will be stationed, but every post is very different. We are currently in ks. my huband work day is nice. He works from 9-4. But does have to tdy every now and then. Before we moved here we were in Hawaii and I hardly ever saw my husband. I too am shy. But I started getting involved in the spouses club, playdates, and the FRG. It's really what you make of it. I say be postitve about everything. If you need anything I'm alwasy here.

LaTerra - posted on 11/29/2009

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Thanks for the advice i really appreciate it the only research i have is explaning myself and situation on cirle of moms it helps me alot.My hubby is going to school to learn to speak arabic his schooling is in california and we get leave in feb. so iam try to find out more about that life.

Arlene - posted on 11/29/2009

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Hi LaTerra, I am 23 and my husband was just recently stationed here in Kansas back in July. I'm really new to this, and believe me, I am so shy and reserved and I was terrified to move. I had in mind that this was going to be a completely different world. But it turns out it's not so bad. Depending on his MOS the work days can vary. My husband is infantry and his days are usually 6am-5pm, on a good day, though sometimes I dont see him till sometime between 7pm and 11pm. It's frustrating at first but then you realize what he is training for. . , survival. I definatley think the advantages outweigh the bad of it. Because of me being so reserved it took a while to meet new people. But going to the company FRG meetings will help you to meet people, as well as your husbands' friends' wives'.



It's going to take some getting used to, but it will all become natural real quick. I did LOTS of research b4 we moved which helped and a good book I'd reccommend it MArried to the Military. I ready that and when my husband came home from basic I knew more about military life than he did,lol. If you have any questions or just wanna vent drop me a line, I know what it's like to be in your shoes and how much I wish I had someone to vent to. GL and stay positive, the live you'll have is only as good as you make it!!!!!!

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