My daughter always cries for her daddy any advise one wat to do

K. - posted on 04/14/2011

The Daddy Dolls scared my youngest daughter, I really don't know why, but we did go with the idea Misty suggested. He took them to Build-A-Bear and then had them each make one, then recorded a message for each of them that went in the bears paw. Those bears have gone through many deployments now and are still working and of course the kids absolutely love them! It may be a good idea for you for future deployments. Good luck!

Jade - posted on 08/18/2009

there's a book called "Separated by Duty, United by Love". it tells you how to deal with those things. and has suggestions on what to do. i hope you figure it out. my son isn't born yet, i have a month and 3 weeks to go, but i'm nervous about this same problem.

Jessica - posted on 08/17/2009

I did the build-a-bear for both of my children ages 2 and 3 and a half and they sleep with it every night. Every night the press it and daddy talks to them. I also have pictures of daddy right next to there beds so they "kiss" daddy goodnight before they go to sleep. I am going through the same thing with my daughter right now and i just try to explain it to her that daddy is away with work and will be home soon. Also that he is helping make a better life for other little girls and boys in iraq. Hope it helps!

Pamela - posted on 08/17/2009

My daughter is a daddy's girl. She is now 10 but when she was 4 he was in Iraq for a year. I would let her sleep in one of her daddy's t-shirts as pj's and snuggle with his pillow in her bed. This helped her go to sleep. It was like she was hugging daddy in her sleep. She would also have a picture of him she would put next to her so she would see it when she would wake up. We still do this when he has to be gone for a week or more for Army conferences and classes he has to go to. In fact we are doing it now since he's in Hawaii for 2 weeks. Hope this helps!

Vanessa - posted on 06/06/2009

you can get a photo album designed for children that you can record voices too for each individual photo can't not remember what it is called but I am getting one.

Jessica - posted on 06/05/2009

When my hubby is gone we put up a cork board in her room. At any time she can pick a picture to carry with her. At night I let her pick two to sleep with. If you do this make extra copies because they get a little crumpled and torn up. We would pray for daddy every night and then we would both kiss his picture goodnight and I give my daughter a hug from daddy and she gives me a hug from daddy. Other than that it was just a lot of hugs and telling her he would be home as soon as he could get to her. Hope this helps. It is always hard but it gets better as they get older. Best of luck and god bless you all.

Angela - posted on 06/02/2009

My girls are daddy's girls also, and after 2 deployments it got to be so stressful for me being active duty also and him being overseas that i got Daddy Dolls. They are little stuffed pillow style dolls with the daddy's picture screened into them that the child can hug and sleep with. It really helped my girls to have them while he was gone and now they take them everywhere when they are sick or we travel. the website is www.daddydolls.com and ou can go to the site upload a picture and order dolls, pillows, and other things for yourself and kids.

Angela

Stephanie - posted on 05/12/2009

Before I posted I meant to say I hope you find something that works. If anything just comfort her and let her know that daddy does lover her and he's out being a hero. Just give her tons of hugs!

Ohhh, I just thought of something else. This last deployment we did a lot of little crafts. He did finger painting and colored and stuff like that and had me send them to daddy. That may help! Have her draw daddy pictures or paint pictures. Kids love to draw and if you tell her it's for daddy she may get real excited. Also, I've heard of people making calenders with little pockets in it and stick one piece of candy in each pocket on each day and at the end of the day let your daughter go to the calender and get the one piece of candy to eat. It gives your daughter some little count down thing to when daddy is coming home and it also gets her excited for having candy. lol

I hope something does help her. I hate when little kids are sad because they miss their daddy or mommy.

Stephanie - posted on 05/12/2009

The pictures work wonders! When my husband was deployed I made sure to take a few pictures of my son with my husband and 1 or two of my husband by himself. I hung the pictures all over. 1 of my son and him over my son's bed.. than some in the hallway and some in the living room. My son would walk around too all of the pictures and kiss them good night and same in the mornings. He would also just randomly walk up to a picture and start talking to "daddy". It helped him a lot.

Also, Like a few others said.. Daddy dolls are supposed to help. I never got one for my son because the pictures worked good for him... but, I did look at them and they are super cute and I could see how they'd help. The problem with the daddy dolls is you have to have a picture of your husband standing straight up with his arms to his side. If you don't have a picture like that I don't think you can do the daddy doll.

Jessica - posted on 05/11/2009

get a daddy doll for her... if you need a website feel free to email me I can give one to you. Just hold her and tell her daddy is being brave and helping some ppl that needed him and he'll be home soon. I also have a sesame street video that I could link you for her to watch. I was an army brat all my life so I feel her pain. I have 3 kids going through this right now too. he's been gone for 2 weeks.

Angela - posted on 04/28/2009

Since he's alrady gone...and if he hasn't come back for his mid-tour yet...have him read a story and video record it. Then play it at night before she goes to bed. Photos do wonders. Also, have him take some pictures of him on deployment so he can share them with her. I told my daughter that daddy was doing Army work by the camels and helping other kids (because it's nice to help). It sort of helped her.

Kate - posted on 04/27/2009

Try getting a watch or something of the sort of your husbands for her to wear, i know that when I was away my daughter wore a necklace of mine, the photo idear has already been mentioned but that worked for my son, also see if he can record himself on camera or on a dicta phone reading a story or talking to her and play it for her hearing his voice and how much he loves her can help

Amy - posted on 04/27/2009

I posted a photo of my husband & son on the wall next to their bed. Each child had a picture of them with their father. Every night when they went to bed they kissed it & said good night Daddy & said good morning when they got up. It did help some. Hope all goes well.

Christine - posted on 04/25/2009

They make a daddy doll. www.hugahero.com . I also found that if I am down and very sad, my girls pick up on my emotions and play it up. OR my eldest will say she misses her daddy to get me to feel bad for her and then I end up giving her what she asked for. Ha! I am a sucker sometimes.

Misty - posted on 04/24/2009

I've heard of parents buying their little one a build-a-bear dressed in uniform, then putting the Dad's voice on the recorder. So then the child can hear their Dad anytime it wants. I also second the pictures, just remember to put them in plastic. I bought a cheap little photo album and put pics of Dad in it. Especially pics of the Dad and child together.

Joan - posted on 04/24/2009

When my daughter was that age my husband deployed & we had the same situation. I was able to bring a picture of him to the family support center & they silk screened a picture of him onto a pillow case for her & she slept with that every night till he got home. You could even have one put on a small pillow she could carry with around with her. It's worth a try. Check with your family support center & see what they have to offer sometimes they have some interesting ideas.

Kara - posted on 04/23/2009

I have been having the same problem with my 4 yr old son. He and Daddy were best buddies before Dad left. Today we got a USO book and video (United Through Reading) from Dad which seemed to help. He was talking to the tv just like Dad was here with us and he just fell asleep without a fight! See if Dad can make one.

Lynn - posted on 04/23/2009

I found it useful to give my soon a picture of his daddy in uniform that he kept with him, and explained he could talk to his daddy in the photo and he would here him, then tell daddy that this is happening and each time they get the chance to talk on the phone he can either make simple things up she has said or if you question her unknownly about what she says he then can use that. Hope this is helpful.