National Guard Mommies?? Wives??

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Julie - posted on 10/11/2013

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Hello.. I just came across this site... I am glad it is here... I hate my husband being in the National Guard. It seems to cause a lot of issues. If anyone has any advice - please give it... Thank you.

Beatrice - posted on 07/31/2013

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Please pray for our sons, daughter, brothers, sister, dads and moms who are fighting this fire. Pray for safety

Diane - posted on 05/27/2013

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My daughter is currently at basic training in Fr. Leonard Wood, MO. She left on May 14th. We have hardly heard from her. She has called twice. Once said she was there and she loved us and had to hang up. The second time she called our house phones kept dying and when i finally got to talk to her she had 2 minutes of a 10 min call left. I could tell she was struggling and then i didn't even had time to encourage her. We don't have her address yet to send her letters. I am feeling so upset over this.

Ashley - posted on 04/21/2013

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My names Ashley and I am married to an amazing man who will be leaving May 21st for basic training/schooling. We have 3 children (one being his step-son). I know its going to be very hard when he leaves, if anyone has any ideas on how to deal with this please feel free. Thanks :)

Rose - posted on 10/10/2012

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Just texted my son (20) goodbye as he is boarding the plane for basic at Fort Benning....I am a mess!

Bj - posted on 04/04/2009

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My husband is in the MONG. We are gearing up for our second deployment in August. We did one deployment to Iraq for 14 months in 2003-04. He is now scheduled to head to Afghanistan in August. We have a 10 year old and a 2 1/2 year old set of twins. It was rough the first time but I think it will be much harder this time with 2 children. I am not sure which was more difficult---leaving immediately of having to wait this 6 months out before he goes! Kinda stinks but it is so important to have that support from family and friends.

Dia - posted on 03/29/2009

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I am with you about the emotion this is my first deployment I have three boys and my husband is leaving in 2 weeks I am nice one minute angry the next same with my kids. My heart goes out to your daughter her daddy missing her birthday and not the first time. Have him buy something and you give it to her on her birthday and tell her it was bought by daddy her her you can even mail it to your house to her I dont ust some sugestion. I am glad to that i am not alone in tis either

Just feeling a little nuts latley

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Well ladies, I am soooo glad you have all responded!!  I don't feel so alone now ;)  So one week ago we got "the call" & now my husband is deploying to Afghanistan.  I don't know if you remember me saying that my brother is going there as well...but they are going in the SAME unit.  My husband was "picked up" bc they needed a com guy.  I am not really sure how I feel about this...I can barely sleep--having anxiety attacks.  I get them when I am really stressed so this is not something out of ordinary...just having them more often.  So not only are they both going...but they are going at the same time to the same place to do "search and rescue/recover".  Oh and did I mention I am the Co-Chair of our FRG?  I don't know what I am doing w/ it either...lol.  First time for this and first deployment.  My daughter is so angry bc my husband will miss her 5th bday (the 3rd one he has missed in a row).  Her mood swings are unbareable as are mine I am sure.  We are a house of crazy emotions at the moment!  *sighs*  Woe is me...lol jk! =P

Barbie - posted on 03/28/2009

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I'm an IN Army National Guard wife. My husband is currently active & I'm @ home taking care of our son & going to school.

Sara - posted on 03/23/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

National Guard Mommies?? Wives??

Anyone a spouse/mom of a National Guard service member?



I'm a spouse and mother of a National Guard service member. He is currently on his second deployment. We have two kids. Our daughter is 13 and our son is 3. It doesn't get any easier with each deployment that I can promise you. But God gives me strength everyday and I thank Him for that. Our unit has a strong FRG and I'm actually the secretary and treasurer. It keeps me busy along with a full-time job and raising two kids. It's very important to have some support and being able to talk to other soldier's wives, because they know how you feel. You have your family, friends, church family, but no one knows how I feel except a family member of a soldier.

Jen - posted on 03/23/2009

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Yes i am a wife of a national guard of ohio, he just got back from Kuwait in dec, he was gone for a year we have two childern 10 and 6. It was hard but i was very lucky to my friends and family for support. Anyone out there with husbands deploying for the first time, dont hesiate to email me or reply for questions. It can be scary and sometimes very overwhelming. So hopefully i can i help with any questions or concerns!

Tracy - posted on 03/23/2009

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My husband is with PA Army National Guard currently on his first deployment to Iraq. His unit left beginning of February, just 4 weeks after our second child was born. Daughter is 4 years old and son is now 11 weeks. I have taken extra time off work to be with our children, which keeps me busy during the day. Its the nights that are the worst for me. None of my close friends have any loved ones in the military, so they don't really understand. I live very close to my parents, so that is very helpful and they have been my support system. The unit is trying to get Family Support Group up and running, kind of faded out for this unit previously, so looking forward to having the interaction with other wives going thru the same thing. We are planning meetings and activities for the kids, so that is something to look forward to. I think the hardest part is for the children. We are coping so far and just taking it one day at a time, and definately counting down the days until our soldier returns home!

Chelli - posted on 03/23/2009

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Hi ladies, my husand is UT NG but we are currently living in alabama for a 2 yr active duty school (which i was able to come with him)... He has already been thru 2 deployments the first one was simple and only 6-7 months long stateside, the second was 18 months long overseas and his third overseas tour coming up next year after we return to utah....

Casta - posted on 03/22/2009

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My husband is in the Oklahoma National Guard and was deployed to Iraq from Feb 2004 to Feb 2005.  Not long after he got home is when I got pregnant with our daughter Reagan.

Charlene - posted on 03/19/2009

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My husband is in Iraq right now and it is really hard. We have one daughter who is 11. He wont be comming home for good till Aug. Do you have a husband or son in the military? Hope as is well for you. Take care.

Mary - posted on 03/19/2009

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I didnt know spouses could get help with school either,, im in college.. taking my RN degree. Would love more info on this....

Mary - posted on 03/19/2009

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The best thing you can do is find things to get involved in, community things. Many communities off free membership to military families of active duty spouses. The Military has arranged with the communities to pay for these activities. So, go check out what you can get involved in,, Mom's groups, swimming, YMCA. I kept myself busy and my kids while my husband was away this last time, and it really helped pass the time.. Take up gardening with a friend,,, go to movies with friends etc.. :)

Mary - posted on 03/19/2009

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My husband has been in the SD National Guard for the last 20 years and just reup'd for another 6 years. I also volunteer my time for the FRG of his unit 740th Transportation. My husband has been deployed two times for the Iraq war first in 1990  for 8 months then in 2001 for 18 months. The last deployement his unit was one that kept getting held back when they said they'd be coming home. Got held back 3 times. So, i have experience with deployment. Actually leaving tomorrow for FRG training.



 

Robin - posted on 03/18/2009

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I agree that the FRG is an invaluable source of support and information, not only for deployment, but also while the guys/gals are home.  I volunteered for the VP position in our FRG when hubby and I were engaged (we were only married 3 wks prior to his deployment), but during the course of their training I ended up in the President position.  This was mildly terrifying considering I knew so little about the military and how the FRG functioned during a deployment...lol.  The good news is, even when you are heading the support group, you can still seek support! 



I, too, would highly encourage everyone to familiarize themselves with their company's FRG.  Guard families face a challenge that base families don't (for the most part).  We are spread out all over the map, don't see one another day to day at the same parks, stores, etc...making it more challenging to get to know one another very quickly.  Your spouse's company commander should be able to point you in the right direction.



Also, MilitaryOneSource.com is a GREAT resource for all military families.  They have great info for all sorts of situations, whether it's NG specific, if you're looking to further your education or looking for childcare in your new hometown.  They put out a monthly newsletter as well...highly recommend it!

Alyssa - posted on 03/17/2009

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Hey ladies, I just want to encourage you all to get involved in your FRG if their unit has one. My husband was NG and is now active duty army. He was deployed for 1 month shy of 2 years while he was NG. I would not have made it through it if it wasnt for the friends I made through the FRG. Even if you dont always go, It will help you meet someone in the same situation that knows what you are going through. You can spend the special holidays with them, Like Valentine's to help make things easier. Plus you can call on each other day or night to have a shoulder to cry on. So go to a meeting and meet some of the other wives who are going through it also that are there with you. It was a huge life saver for me.

Robin - posted on 03/17/2009

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My husband is in the KS-ARNG.  He's been on 2 deployments to Iraq and is gearing up to head to Afghanistan this fall.  I have 2 older children from a previous marriage, and we got pg with my son 3 months after his return from Iraq (he's now 2 yrs old). 

Kirsten - posted on 03/12/2009

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I just turned a Wa National Guard wife... and now im turning into a mommy in sept. My husband left for Iraq in dec and will be back in aug... so Im having a tough time trying to find stuff to keep me busy and with no job and no school I have turned into a homebody that i hate... but I have the wonderful support system of my family and friends who help me out so much... We both cannot wait till he returns and then meet the newest member of our small family... which of now is just the two of us... lol...

Dia - posted on 03/08/2009

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Frazzeled I am with you my bro n law has been staying with us and now is at BCT and my husband leaves in april for iraq. he is going to miss my sons 2 birthday and it feels so wierried with every one gone my husband is away on a drill right now so its me and my 3 boys. Just stay strong there is always some one out there frazzled just the same its nice to know we are now the only ones. Make sure you do something with your 4 yr on b-day frazzeld with you

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Ok...so I just found out that my hubby will most likely be leaving in July.  So this means....brother leaves in May and hubby leaves 1 month later.  GAHHHH!!! I am starting to lose it!!  My brother lives w/ us and once they are both gone it will only be my 4 yr old and myself.  :(  Plus...this will be the 3rd (out of only 5) bday my husband misses due to NG training, AIT, etc...  My daughter is going to be very very upset.  Although we are going to celebrate early so he can be there...it just won't be the same on the actual day.  Ladies...remind me to stay strong!  ---yours truly....frazzled @__@

Autum - posted on 03/03/2009

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This is the first time my husband has had to go over seas. None of my friends know how i feel. And i still have 6 months until he comes home.

Jenelle - posted on 03/03/2009

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Yup! My husband is getting ready for his second deployment in April. He is going to be gone for 12 months. I hate having to go through this again!

Jamie - posted on 03/02/2009

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Quoting Dee:



I dont know whose taking advantage of the spouse education benefits, but its about to increase in August, I am soooo happy, they offf 1000$ in books and I think x amoiunt while your going to school!






This helps in addittion to the discount on my outrageous tuition..





Who do I need to talk to about this. I didnt know there was such a thing. Any advice would be wonderful.

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Well thank goodness he is coming home very soon!!!  What was it like while he was deployed??  Did you have an FRG or a way to stay informed/connected to his unit?  Also what is his MOS?

Melinda - posted on 02/17/2009

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My husband is in the Missouri National Guard and is currently active duty in Kosovo (only 15 more days).  This is his second deployment (the first was in 04 for Homeland Security).  This one was much more difficult because we had our first child 6 months before he left.

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Oh wow...that's a long time.  Stay strong and keep us posted!!  My brother leaves May 4th for Indianapolis for 4 months then ships to Afghanistan.  He says he won't return til June...it's even harder for me that my baby brother is leaving.  I have always tried to protect him and now I feel like there is nothing I can do.  I am getting involved w/ his FRG so that I can stay informed.  I just worry....but I am very proud of both my soldiers. 

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Quoting Sarah:



WOW thanks to all of you for replying...I haven't checked this in awhile and BAM all of you responded!!! YAY!! lol Anyway I am also an IN NG wife....waiting on info about deployment.  Also I happen to be a sister to IN NG soldier too.  He deploys in May....the army life...gotta love it. xD





My husband goes to Fort Knox for the month of May home for a few days then the send off at Camp Atterbury and off to Camp Shelby for the month of June. He deploys to Afghanistan sometime while he's at Shelby. He is out of the Frankfort, IN unit. Right now, he will be deployed for a total of about fourteen months.

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WOW thanks to all of you for replying...I haven't checked this in awhile and BAM all of you responded!!! YAY!! lol Anyway I am also an IN NG wife....waiting on info about deployment.  Also I happen to be a sister to IN NG soldier too.  He deploys in May....the army life...gotta love it. xD

Dia - posted on 02/15/2009

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My husband is in the Nv National Guard He Joined in May of 09 left for boot camp in August and came home in December and is leaving for Iraq in April. I have three boys 11, 6, and 21 months. I am greatful for all the messages people have left for every one thanks all the comments help more people than you know.

Michelle - posted on 02/15/2009

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My fiance is in the mo air national guard and he deployes in June this will be his third  time but first time away from his family

Anna - posted on 02/15/2009

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Yes. My husband is in the WV NG and will be deploying in May for is second tour. This is going to be a challenge b/c the first time we were just married and no kids. Now we have 2 little girls who are very attached to their daddy.

Rebecca - posted on 02/15/2009

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Hi Kristen,



I know how you feel I had my second child on a Tuesday, came home Friday, my husband was called up on Wednesday and left Saturday. I had had an emergency c section, had a 2 1/2 year old and had post partum. It was HELL but... I survived... and so will you. One thing I will tell mommys is watch the PPD. It will sneak up on you and you wont notice because you are so busy with everything.  Make some time for yourself and find some great firends.

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My husband joined the IN National Guard in September. He is former active duty Marine Corps. He really misses the Marine Corps and has for the last 14 1/2 years...since he was honorably discharged. He also needed the GI bill to finish up his schooling and the extra money helps out. Now, he will be deploying to Afghanistan in July for 12 months. We have a son that will be 13 in April and a daughter that is 11 and has autism. I know it will be a challenge, but I support him fully and I'm proud to be the wife of a soldier serving our country!

Kristin - posted on 02/14/2009

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My husband is in the Army National Guard and just left on Feb 12th for  a one year deployment to Iraq.  We have a 14 month old daughter and a 9 week old son.  It is very hard right now.

Rebecca - posted on 02/14/2009

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OH THANK YOU!!! I forgot about Military once source!I am having the same with my 7 year old son. He is my sensitive one and we are having lots of behavior issues. (cutting hair, clothes etc) partly becasue he does not read well and is very frustrated at school. Partly because my DH is gone.Tricare is only paying for 7 sessions. I will check out Military one source. They are great with a lot of things!

Dee - posted on 02/14/2009

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Quoting Katie:

Yep, my husband is in the IN National Guard. Thanks for posting that website Dee, I'm working on going back to school in May.



No, prob, I utilize everything I can, theres ton of programs just lots do not use, or know about...anyone interstd in teacher  programs I know in tx they offer free teacher cert program but think all education ptrogram is national...look into form childcare  asst to discounts to counseling for all, (we used counseling for my son when my hubby left he was asking wierd things and acting not the same at school..



SO my advise use it it all!!



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Katie - posted on 02/13/2009

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Yep, my husband is in the IN National Guard. Thanks for posting that website Dee, I'm working on going back to school in May.

Nikki - posted on 02/13/2009

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Thanks. Yep I am lucky i have my whole family and his whole family. Im just going to stay buisy while hes gone, im going to be a sophmore in college im going to st. kates for nursing, so thats a challenge in its self. and working part time and taking care of her so i'll be buisy which will make the time go by fast hopefully. This is his first deployment... I just hope they give him his leave, its harder on him then me. This is his daughter and he probly won;t be here to see her born. It kills him. Im glad i found this group!

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