C. - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 86 moms have responded )
My husband is deployed and for the last couple days we have been having problems. Today he sent me a message on Facebook giving me ultimatums.. saying if we want our marriage to work I have to do these things for him.. He also admitted that he is still watching porn, which I had told him that I considered that cheating b/c he would be thinking about the people on the screen and not of me, his wife. He's still doing it.. I just don't know what to do anymore. I really don't know if our marriage can work out if he's going to watch that crap. He knows how I feel about it, he knows I consider it cheating, yet he's still doing it b/c out there it's "normal". PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!
And these are the ultimatums he gave me. He really has no idea what I do day in and day out. This really pissed me off.
1. STOP BEING LAZY
2. START WORKING
4. GET HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA OR GED
5. GET ON A ROUTINE
6. NO SLEEPING TELL NOON
7. NO SMOKING
8. DO LAUNDRY ON DAILY BASIS
9. GET DRIVER LICENSE
10. CLEAN UP AFTER YOUR SELF
11. BE MORE INDEPENDENT
And let me be clear that last week for a few days I DID sleep till noon (I am normally up by 8, though I do try to get up earlier than that still). The reason being was that the man who rented a room from my mom (his room was right next to mine) was found dead by my mother and myself. He had a heart attack. If any of you had seen what we saw, you would have had a hard time falling asleep too. Even while I was awake that's all I could see.
And I will admit, when I was going through PPD, it was really hard to do everyday tasks like daily cleaning and daily laundry.. Thankfully I came out of that a few months ago for the most part.. Unfortunately he had already left for Iraq.