Alexandria - posted on 07/29/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )
My husband has been in the military 10 year now and this month he was promoted to E6. At every opportunity my husband takes online college courses and always does well, with a little help from me. We have always been study buddies, even before we got married when I was a full time student. We make a great team, always helping each other acheive. But honestly, academic achievement seems to come more easily to my husband than it does to me. My husband is good at juggling all his responsibilites and still getting those As.
We have a 2.5 yr old now. She is getting ready to start day care twice a week and I have been planning for a long time to get back into college when she starts day care. But I know that when it comes down to it, my childs needs will always come before my school work and with my husband being the bread winner while I stay home with our child, I have to put my goals and desires as second priority for the greater good of our hold family.
I thought that I was finally going to get my chance to work on my personal goal of getting my engineering degree so that I can eventually work in a field that interests me and contribute to our household income. But I dont want to start something I cant finish. I spoke with a brilliant guy about a week ago, much smarter than I am, who was a engineering major in his day and his advice was to be realistic about how much attention would be needed in order for me to obtain that kind of degree. He felt that it would be extremely difficult for me to get the kind of grades I'd like and really learn that material while maintaning my house hold, supporting my husbands ability to focus on his career and raising my child with the high standards I have for her young life. Then, out of the blue, my husband expressed his desire to get back into online courses as well. I just wonder if he and I both being back in school would really get us anywhere. I think one of us needs to go back, not both at the same time, unless we can get a live in nanny which we may be able to afford but we are penny pinchers by nature and it would urk me to pay someone else to raise my child.
Oye, sounds so complicated. Please, military spouses, what should I do? Should I let my husband focus on school and career right now since he's doing so well and getting us head in life while I continue to focus on keeping the household running and raising our wonderful child an then get back into school some other time or should I ask my husband to help me keep things running with the house and help me with our child while I go back to school part time, which will take me who knows how long?