Soon to be military spouse, What to expect?

Gabriel - posted on 09/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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First off I want to say I love this site, a bunch of moms who can share similar situations, I currently live in nyc since May, My husband is getting in shape to reenlist back in to the military (prior service Marines) going to the Army. When he was in the Marines we didn't know each other. He doesn't have to do boot camp, but he will be away from us. We have two kids together and I am wondering what to expect once he is in? How do i explain to our kids that daddy is going away to make a better life for us? I will be staying with my mom until he is situated. I am excited and scared, knowing this is a new chapter in our lives. I also want to know some good and bad experience, Living on post vs off post. Best bah state, Best family bases. And any other information would be helpful.





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Hello Gabriel, well first I will share that we have the major point in common.. I too am married to a prior Marine, gone Army! I was married to him thru both branches.So I will be real with you, you can expect to here a lot of complaining about the differences lol. My hubby didnt have to go to basic (boot camp) either. The difference for them is so major, but it'll be fine.My hubby was not able to choose his first duty station. He went straight to Korea, on an unaccompanied tour. Which was for 12 months. Now, if your hubby had to go to lets say Korea, it only depends on where he is stationed in terms of whether you can go or not. That is NOT to say, that he will go straight to Korea! Im just sharing possibilities. I know that Ft. drum (NY) and Ft. Hood (TX) are "rapid deployment" Posts. We went to Ft. Lewis (WA) and that is a really nice Post. And we're at Ft. Lee (Va) now, it is a MEPS and AIT post, so it is not much of a family place. But we're all headed to S. Korea, and we're all excited! They do deploy often as well, but even when my hubby did 15 months (6mnths) after his 12 months in Korea, my girls (3) and I were okay! Don't believe the horror stories about FRG- Family Readiness Groups, they are not all the same, and can offer some support. I will tell you that I know this becoz I was the FRG Leader while we were in Wa. I am not a drama seeking person, so we didn't have any. It helped take my mind off the hubby being gone. That is not to say that FRGs are Not drama filled. It just depends. I would also suggest you try and learn as much as you can about Army life. They have classes called AFTB- Army Family Team Building. You can take classes online. Either google it [AFTB classes or try militaryonesource.com] that site will be one of your best friends. They answer any and all questions from education for kids & you to auto repair. Please tell your hubby to make sure he is getting his clothing allowance also. Sometimes with prior service (and in our case) they forget to give it to you. it's only once a year but if he isn't careful, he'll be in a losing battle with finance. Also,Make sure you birth certs. & S.S cards for yourself & children, and your marriage license, so hubby can enroll you in DEERS and Tricare, so no matter where y'all are, you'll have medical care. It's up to him to enroll you all. I'm only telling you this becoz he was "single" during his last tour of duty. Also look into going to school for free (if you want to) militaryonesource.com can give you the info. Whew.. I know that's alot but, it's not the half of it. Self research is the best. I hope this helped a little.

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Gabriel - posted on 09/14/2012

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Thanks so much and yes it was a lot but i appreciate everything hope you love Korea

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