Jennifer - posted on 02/03/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )
I have posted this in response to a call for advice - I hope it helps some -
It was the hardest time we have had and married and military for 12 years. Find a support group of some sort, I was in Oregon - no active military component so that alone was wierd for me - I had to learn to speak english :-) I found a MOMs group ( for stay at home moms) they were a great group for friends, check yahoo groups, meet up, and your local paper to find some like minded groups (scrapbooking, book club, whatever).
Also treat this like a deployment, while on recruiting I found a teenager to be a sitter and the first week of each month I would schedule nights for her to sit, then I wrote her a check and that way I KNEW what nights I had to myself. I would go to dinner with friends, or sometimes I just went grocery shopping, read a book at a coffee shop whatever YOU NEED a break.
I never found a way to help my spouse with his stress so I just stayed out of his way - but the stress is VERY real and so many drink too much and now thiose 4 in Texas committed sucide - be aware of your hubby's mental state and try to help him find ways to release the stress that aren't distructive.
I feel for you recruiting duty sucks, my hubby calls USARC the dark overlord.