what age of my 1st child be when i think about having a 2nd?

Katherine - posted on 11/07/2009

If you have baby's to close together your 2nd one could be a prime but I think if your first one is close to a 1year its not so bad(im not a DR can you tell lol) But there was a study that most women in the US have children 2-2 1/2 years apart. You just have to ask your self do you wana toddler and an infant, do you want 2 in diapers,do you want one in school and a newborn what do you think you can handle.Then talk to the Hubbs and tell he what you think,get an idea of what he thinks and pick an age to start trying agen. My Hubby and I are waiting till our little munchkin is 1 1/2 till we start trying.oooo for age difference don't forget to factor in the 9 months it takes to cook lol.

Amanda - posted on 10/11/2009

Definitely a personal preference. My girls are almost exactly 5 years apart. The second one was unplanned, but it's working out ok. The oldest can help when needed and since she's in school now, I can devote some personal time to the baby without jealousy problems. If i could do it over again, I'd probably have them a lil closer together-maybe 3 years apart.

Kwala - posted on 10/11/2009

I definitely think that's a personal preference. My kids are almost four years apart, but when school comes around they will only be three grades apart (my oldest's birthday is end of October so he;ll start late). My sister and I were three years apart and I thought that was perfect because we were in the same school for a year and she showed me around, etc. We had some of the same friends and we've always been close; although I'm a firm believer that you could be 20 months apart and not be close, it just depends. Anyways, I think for me, the age difference is great because I only have one in diapers and my oldest is a good little helper. He understands when I need to feed the baby and he goes and gets diapers and wipes for me. He's not jealous and he's old enough that he can play for awhile by himself if I need to do something with the baby. I don;t think it could have worked out better for me personally. But again, it's a personal decision.

Jessica - posted on 10/09/2009

My son is 6mths too and I want another baby just not right now. I'm thinking of waiting until he is 18mths. I want them to be close but not to close. My brothers kids are 22 months apart and they get along really well and the oldest is really helpful. I think it honestly just comes down to when your ready and how your hubby feels about it. Good luck!

Heather - posted on 10/05/2009

I'm going to start trying for my second one after Tyler is one year so that way I know he will be 2 by the time the baby comes. Me and my sister at 2 years apart and we are like best friends and I want that kind of bond between my children. Me and my half brother are almost 7 years apart and we hardly ever talk unless we HAVE to! but we still get along but its not great ha

Sara - posted on 10/05/2009

I have a 3 1/2 year old girl and just gave birth to my second child 6 weeks ago and I think it is really a perfect age to be apart! My oldest is not jealous at all and really loves her new sister so much...Lots of hugs and kisses all the time!

Heather - posted on 10/04/2009

It really is a personal preferance. Just keep in mind all the factors. How well they will get along with each other is important. If their to far apart they will not have anything in common, if they are too close together there will be a lot of Rivalry and jealousy. Also make sure you can handle another infant. My daughter is just barely begining to be independent, but if I have a baby too soon, I will have to take care of a clingy toddler and a helpless infant. Also If twins run in your family, more time is better.

Rebecca - posted on 10/04/2009

my son just turned 1 when i got pregnant with our second. It was a surprise pregnancy but i'm so glad it happened:) they are 22 months apart and he loves her to death!

Maria - posted on 10/02/2009

I think that it should be whenever you and your husband are ready. My kids are 17 months apart and yes they are a handful to take care of but I wouldnt change it. My husband and I were ready for a baby and we talked about in advance. Good Luck :)

Krista - posted on 10/01/2009

My children were born exactly one year apart: My daughter was born on May 17, 2000 and my son on 17.5.2001. I have found it really easy to have my kids have only a year age difference. They are best friends and have always have played well together and they take care of each other giving me time to take care of my own things. They never had the so called terrible twos and learned from the start to share toys, etc.with others.

Natasha - posted on 09/24/2009

Shoot each time I had mine I was thinking about having more before I left the hospital!



My first two are 14 months apart and #2 and #3 are 25 months and 10 days apart. Although we want a large family, none of them have been planned. We are attempting to plan #4, when our newest, Drew, is 3yrs old. That's when we'd like to get pregnant is after he's 3.



I think it's all in what you and your hubby are made of.

Lori - posted on 09/24/2009

My oldest two are 26 months apart and they fight like crazy. They love each other and when they do get along, they are incredibly happy, but they are at odds more often than not. My youngest is 28 months younger than my middle child. My little guy is only 2 1/2 months old, but so far it is my oldest son that is the best with him. My oldest son loves on the baby and does great with him. My middle son can get aggressive with the baby so I have to keep a constant eye on him. Two in diapers isn't a big deal to me because by the time the baby comes the older one isn't needing to be changed frequently like a newborn. I've heard that less than two years is a good space or more than 3. It seems like a lot of moms I talk to who have kids 2 year apart deal with a lot of fighting! Just my experience. I wouldn't change my boys, though, of course! They are wonderful and hopefully as they get a little older they will get along better.

Amanda - posted on 09/23/2009

My son is about to turn one and we are trying for another one now. I have a friend that has daughters 18 months apart and she said that having them close together was great for her. I'm also wanting them to have someone to play with due to frequent moves and transitions. I think 2-3 years is a good age difference. Any more than that and I think they would be too interested in their own activities to be close with one another.

Jennifer - posted on 09/23/2009

well my little girl is almost 2 years old and we are having our second girl in about 4 weeks. so they will be 2 years apart. i think that is depends on when your ready. and when your baby is ready. we planned both babies and I am glad we waited a little between them. my daughter is almost potty trained and is in a toddler bed so I think that will make it easier. i hope that helps!

Meredith - posted on 09/23/2009

I would wait until your first child is out of diapers atleast! I am quite sure once your first child hits the mile stones in needs to it will be of great help to have them help you out with their younger sibling.

Holli - posted on 09/22/2009

My daugther and her soon-to-be-here sister will be 20 months apart. Personally I'd suggest just a little bit longer than that, maybe by the time your first is 2... cause I don't know how I'm going to handle two children under the age of two and my daughter just doesn't understand what's going on and I'm afraid it'll be hard for her.

Andrea - posted on 09/22/2009

We have 3 boys, the first 2 are about 2yrs 7 months apart and the youngest is just over 3 years younger than the middle boy. We think it works out really well, but it really just depends on how you feel and when you are ready. It is such a great thing that when we move they always have each other and can branch out knowing they have their brothers as touchstones.

Lesli - posted on 09/20/2009

My son is now 13months and me and my husband are talking about when to have another baby. We are also a military family and want our kids to be close in age. We are thinking to try again within the next month or 2 that way Lincoln with be 2 years old when the new baby arrives and hopefully potty trained by then which we are already introducing. I am an infant teacher and he sees me taking care of the babies at work and he is very sweet and gentle with them. There are time he seems a little jealous but I just make sure I give him his time with me too. He loves to give them kisses and help hold their bottle with me it is soo darn cute. My advice is to discuss it with your husband and decide what it is you think you can handle. I have one friend who's kids are 3 years apart and wishes she would have had them closer in age and I have another who's kids are only 1yr 3wks apart and wouldn't change it for the world.



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Nakeed - posted on 09/17/2009

Well for one I would say you want the other one out a diapers.So that would at least give you two years. So that way you don't have the stress of all of the attention. But for me I wanted at least four years and I did three though. I feel at that age a child understands that mommy is having another baby and you still love them. And a lot of times it is like a toy to them. They will love the baby, want them sometimes, but won't hurt them because it is special. So think of it in that way. More than anything how much can you handel?

Danielle - posted on 09/17/2009

my kids are 2 years apart and then my 3rd is 7 years apart from my first two. It worked fine with my first two because they had someone to play with. and with my third, my older kids love him because they have someone to rough house with and teach. but it is up to you when you want another one and when you are comfortable.

Katie - posted on 09/16/2009

My kids are 3 1/2 yrs appart and that works great for me. But it's really all in your own preference. My kids are really close I think the military helps with that because they always have a friend when moving to a new place.