What is the best way to handle increasing attitude with a 10yr old tween?

Michelle - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Our beloved 10yr old is entering Jr. High in a week. Over the last 5-6 months her pre-teen attitude is ever increasing. All the simple responsiblities/tasks that she used to help out with or do are now a battle. Grrr.

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Christina - posted on 08/27/2009

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I'm having the same exact problem with my 11yr old daughter! I've taken things away from her, not washed her clothes if she doesn't get them into the laundry hamper where they belong, etc etc.......it doesnt work!!!! She might get p****d off about it, but she just does not care and just walks around and sulks lol

Michelle - posted on 08/20/2009

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Making her bed has been a responsibility since she started school, but now I'm lucky to get her to do it on the same day. She's even been choosing to either sleep on top or on the floor so she doesn't have to make it, oh dear. Sometimes it feels like baby steps all over again.

Michelle - posted on 08/20/2009

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She is really starting to help more with the laundry (the folding, the putting away, washer to dryer swap). Both my husband and I have been adding more home responsibilities, and when they are not completed or completed with and attitude she has lost privledges. But that only goes so far, whee.

Jade - posted on 08/19/2009

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i agree with some of the things said, just from what my mom did & didn't do i'd say that you should make her grow up a little by stopping doing her laundry, dishes, let her make her bed, help her get the shampoo, make up, and clothes that she wants. And make sure she knows that you're the adult. and not her. try to still do things with her, but things that don't make her feel like a little kid. take her shopping, or get a membership at the Y together. stuff like that.

Melissa - posted on 08/19/2009

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if you find an answer please let me know. I want to kill mine most of the time.

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stop doing the simple responsibilities/tasks you do for her. like, laundry. or making sure she has the kind of shampoo/conditioner she prefers. you know, the little stuff you do to help her out. the sooner she knows that maintaing a household/family is a team effort, the sooner she'll be more likely to help. hopefully. she shouldn't expect something for nothing.

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