would love advice!

Marie - posted on 10/15/2009

I was an army soldier, and now I'm an army wife. The army has so much to offer. Granted it's not for everybody. Depending on his job, you'll be able to go places and do things you only dreamed of. I was stationed in Germany, Ft. Hood, Ft. Campbell all before meeting my husband. Your health care is taken care of, you have FRG's (family Readiness groups) they for when your spouse deploys. Mine so far have been very dependable. I hope this helps a little.

Justine - posted on 10/15/2009

thank you soo much this has really helped

Debra - posted on 10/15/2009

I have been a military wife for 12 years, and I agree, its not easy. But there are lots of benefits too, like insurance and that. If you are not afraid to be at home by yourself and take care of things, your son, finances and basically everything, it is a good life, we are in germany now, and my kids are getting to see Europe, so that is good. My kids are both very well rounded, and I think it is from moving all around, they do fine with it, they are used to it. I think military kids have a different way of thinking. You will be on your own alot, but just be proud of him, he is doing something he believes in for you and your child. And the army moves you, they even pack all of your stuff, I have never had any problems with that.

Erin - posted on 10/14/2009

I'm a Marine wife and like the other wives said: it's not easy. However, there are things that will make it bearable. Which branch he joins and what job he gets will determine how long before he actually gets stationed with a command and you get to join him. It also determines how long deployments will be. Marines deploy for 6-7 months and then are back home. Navy also have shorter deployments (especially if they are corpmen for a Marine unit). As far as moving, you'll make new friends as you go. Since you have a child, as soon as you get settled, find a playgroup. You'll meet lots of new moms there. In the long run, it will really help get your feet under you. Free health care, housing provided with very few bills (phone/internet/cable), and a steady paycheck about every 2 weeks. I wasn't sure when my husband joined either, but now I would not trade it for anything. It's been a big blessing for us.

Danielle - posted on 10/14/2009

I am a army wife and an army soldier as well. It isn't easy with everything with the move, finding new friends, job, daycare, etc. but in the long run it is great because you get to see the world and go to new places and meet great friends. Plus, the benefits that you get like medical care for free, and able to stay on post in housing that you don't have to pay gas or water or electric. It is not that bad.

Robyn - posted on 10/14/2009

I have been an Army wife for 14 years, and I won't lie it isn't easy, but there are a lot of great things about it too. I have 2 sons, and I know they have health insurance which for me is a big thing. It is also job security in that I know my husband won't be laid off. Also depending on what job you sign for some of them have a bonus attached to them which you get after completing basic. As far as the moving..some people move more often than others. I have friends at Ft Carson that have been there for going on 10 years now which is not the norm, but it does happen. It just depends on what you do. I try to look on it as an adventure and I have been a lot of places I wouldn't have gone otherwise.