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Hilary - posted on 02/11/2011

@ Candi,

its not as easy as putting it away unfortunately, some other friends suggested spilling coffee in it but he would just build a new computer, which adversely affects the family cos the money has to come from somewhere.

I don't really want to sound ungrateful for the suggestion you made but if it was as easy as that then it wouldn't have gone on so long. Its like taking a drink away from an alcoholic or telling a gambler to not go to those places. I feel your comment was dismissive of the problem not helpful in the least

Samantha - posted on 02/10/2011

I met my Husband in High School. I was a Sophomore and he was a Freshman. We were good friends all the way through, dating our respective people throughout.
Our families moved away. When he visited his family from out of state, I would drive the three and a half hours to come and visit him. He joined the Army and we realized we were in love. We never had the chance to date, he was in TX and I was in FL. He proposed over the phone. A month later, I flew out and we were married 2 days later. 5 months later pregnant and had our daughter on the 4th of July. About to have our 4th Anniversary in June :o)
This is also our 2nd Deployment. What drives me up the wall, He shuts down at the first sign of confrontation. Not just with everyone else, but also with me.
Confrontation to him is any kind of disagreement.
We eventually cool down enough to work it out though! :o)

Candi - posted on 02/10/2011

while he is at work unplug the game system and put it away. If he is going to act like a child, treat him like one. Or tell him he can get on it after the kids go to bed b/c they need a father. This is the reason my kids are not alllowed to play video/computer games on school night..they would sit on it all day and get nothing done

Hilary - posted on 02/10/2011

I met my Hubby while we both lived in Germany, he was posted there, I just happened to get a job there.

We knew very quickly that we were going to be together, but over the last 10 years his pc gaming addiction on top of a stressful air force career (now over 50 hours of pc time a week....and thats a conservative estimate) is wrecking what should be a happy family. We have 4 really great kids who hardly see him, and when they do they are fighting for his attention against a computer game, and the game takes priority 99% of the time.

Came to the point this week when I told him he was going to wake up and find his wife and kids gone because I refuse to raise them in a house where they are taking second place to a computer screen. Not a happy situation, but after all that would you believe that I love this man with all my heart and sincerely wish I could do something, I'm just all out of ideas now.

Sharon - posted on 02/10/2011

My hubby is big PS3 player, but he really tries to limit it so that I don't feel ignored. I actually like to watch him play - I've never been good at gaming - I'm one of those people who tries to move the character with my arms.... LOL It's really sad.

Sharon - posted on 02/10/2011

I also met my husband online - it was a website for people who have lived overseas. We both randomly ended up on that site - I guess it was so that we would meet! LOL Anyway, I really put him through the ringer, to make sure he wasn't one of those "girls in every port" guys. He survived that, and meeting my family and everyone in my life over one weekend (because everyone else had to make sure he was legit), and that's how I knew he was a keeper. He doesn't drive me crazy - in fact I don't know how I ever lived without him. We have been married 2-1/2 years just had our first child in December. He is currently on shore duty doing substance abuse counseling, and is trying to make Chief!

Amanda - posted on 01/31/2011

LoL...No, I can't get the hang of the XBOX too well. We just got the new Kinect though and have these sports games....they are pretty fun. We do play World of Warcraft on our PC's together though. I don't mind his game playing .....it's just when he starts yelling at the XBOX like it's really going to respond to him....LOL.

Courtney - posted on 01/31/2011

Amanda-
Have you ever tried playing the XboX with him? I play Call of Duty all the time with my hubby ( I actually play more than he does now ) and it is a lot of fun.

Rebecca - posted on 01/31/2011

I met my husband a few months before my first marriage divorce was final. We met at a night club. Love at first sight. Within the week we said those 3 little words. We didn't see each other much over the next 6 months, but knew it was supposed to be. We got married 6 months after having met. We have been married for almost 6 years. I love him to pieces. But after having gone through a bad first marriage, its hard to trust. He tells me that I have nothing to worry about. But then tells me all the horror stories. I think the main thing that irritates me is that he doesn't understand why I feel the way I do.
He is a wonderful husband and father. He adopted my 2 children from my first marriage. He loves all 4 of our children equally. He really is wonderful. I am the pyscho! LOL

Marlina - posted on 01/30/2011

Hi,
I met my husband at our college orientation. We dated for two years and then he joined the Marines. We married after his first deployment. We are in the middle of our third deployment and he is in the Army now. We have a beautiful little girl who is 15 months old. We will be celebrating 8 years together when he comes home! This is our first deployment with our daughter and it has been the toughest one yet. He is appreciative of every package we send. The thing that annoys me the most is that he will not get all of his clothes into the laundry hamper!!

Candi - posted on 01/30/2011

I got lucky with mine. He doesn't play video games, doesn't go to bars, doesn't watch sports on TV. None of that. He is a wonderful person. I guess after 17 years together, I have done a good job at molding him. lol

Tah - posted on 01/30/2011

you can peruse the threads here and see wives saying that the husbands ignore them and the kids for a good game..so yeah..i know plenty of women who would sign up to throw the game out the door and some who have..lol...so yes thats probably why they ask you that....lol..

Rosa - posted on 01/30/2011

My gosh, that is crazy. No, i have never dated any guy like that, but then again my husband loves sleep more than games. So he harderly playing the week cause of work and he sleeps then plays on saturday, then play and get uniform ready for Monday. Ok, hearing your story, he doesnt play that much at all, that is why women always ask why I let him play so much...LOL now i understand.

Tah - posted on 01/30/2011

well good thing you guys have that rule, i have plenty of friends who cant get their guys off unless they are yelling fire and he would probably unplugg and grab his system before her..lol.i kidd you not, my ex-fiancee was like that, i would get home from work around 430 and he would be playing and i would wake up at 4am and he would still be downstairs playing...so when i met my husband and all had was a nintendo 64 with dust on it...i knew i hit the jackpot..lol..but i was traumatized from the ex and playing games, i feel if it's a healthy amount and noone is being neglected...have fun....lol

Rosa - posted on 01/30/2011

Well, we are both home body people,and we love each other but enjoy having our own personal space and time. so its doesnt bother us. He works, comes home play game, but we have this rule in the house. ASK FOR WHAT U WANT OR NEED. Which im so happy we started that, if i want attention, i tell him n i get it the same day. people same im spoiled for that reason. Hey, if u get freedom to play game, u have to give to get. lol.

Tah - posted on 01/30/2011

i think i would lose my mind if my husband played games like that..i need attention...lmbo...

Rosa - posted on 01/30/2011

Girl, i say the same thing about my hubby. I will make sure he has all the update game. Women say, y u make him play so much game. HE IS ALWAYS HOME!!!!

Sadie - posted on 01/28/2011

I met my husband in High School. We had been dating for 3years and finally decided to get married. Our one year wedding anniversary was december 12, 2010. We both lived in Louisiana all of our lives and he graduated 2years b4 me. He decided to go into the Air force when I told him that I was pregnant so that we could have a better life as a family. I had my baby at the age of 17, got married at 18. Finished highschool and came meet my husband in Delaware where he is station on the AFB. It's a big change from home. I moved here in may of 2010 and I only have one friend. Its kind of sad. I would really like to meet more people in my situation and have more friends.

Amanda - posted on 01/28/2011

My husband and I met online. We had a date (he took me to a really bad movie....LoL) and just knew from that date we had something real. We were married 54 days later in a courthouse ceramony (I don't believe in spending big money for weddings, just my personal thing). We are on our 6th year together. He is my best friend, a great daddy to our son, and a dang good BBQ'er......LoL. He does have an annoying habit of spending way too much time yelling at his XBOX, but I tend to overlook that as he is at home with me and not running up a bar tab somewhere.... ;)

Debbi - posted on 01/27/2011

I met my husband in a bar right after our freshman year in college. He totally won me over with his fake English accent (much better when you are drunk ;) ) . We started dating, got pregnant and married 3 1/2 years later. He joined the Army right after graduation and here we are 15 years later going strong with a 15 yr old boy and an 11yr old girl, living in Texas with him in Afghanistan for his 4th deployment.
I can't really think of anything he does that drives me nuts, with him being gone, anything he could do would be awesome, as long as he is here :)

Kerri - posted on 01/27/2011

I met my husband in a bar in Austin, TX, 15 years ago. He was a cute, young AF Lieutenant who was in town visiting a friend of his. He likes to tell everyone that I picked him up, but I'm pretty sure it was the other way around. Needless to say, there was a mutual attraction there, and here we are today, about to celebrate our 13th wedding anniversary in 4 days from now. :)
He's been in the AF for 17.5 years now, and we've been through A LOT of deployments. We recently had our 3rd child (surprise!) and just finished up a year long deployment last month. For this reason, I can't think of a single thing that he does that makes me crazy, because I'm just so glad he's home. Right now I welcome the sight of his shoes & socks laying around the house, his piles of laundry, and his mess around the bathroom sink.

Shelly - posted on 01/27/2011

Well let me think my husband and I met when we were both young we grew up in the same church. When I was 13 he became my first boyfriend. We were together for a while and then he joined the Army. He PCS to Germany and I didn't hear from him while he was gone. When he returned I was dating someone else and he ended up doing the same. You see he was shot in the head during his time away and he didn't remember me as his girlfriend just as the little sister of one of his old friends. So we both ended up getting married to someone else. Years later we both ended up divorced, I was at a friends house checking on her dog that was about ready to have puppies. I didn't know my now husband was friends with my then girlfriends husband he was there watching a nascar race he heard me talking asked her husband who that was cause he said that voice sounds familiar. Her husband said thats our neighbor and she will be delivering the dogs puppies. We saw each other and fell in love all over again it had been over 20 years since I had even spoke to him. We dated for sometime before we finally realized after both saying we would never get married again that we wanted to get married and we did. We have been married now 4 years. Today he is 46 and I am 40 we have 4 children between the 2 of us, the kids are 21, 19, 11, and 8. Three of which are boys. We feel very lucky that we found each other again and we are still together, he is still in the Army and will retire with 30 years in 2013. We still love each other more than ever but the thing that he does that gets to me is his unwillingness to pick up after himself and the fact that if he is watching a race on tv nothing else matters. He is my best friend and I love him more every day. Thank You to my husband and all our service men and women for their sacriface and keeping us safe.

Esther - posted on 01/27/2011

Let's see where do I start I met my husband while stationed in Germany. I was in the Army and so was he (he still is soon to be 11 years for him). Well I meet him through his best friend in which I was dating at the time. He was married and I was dating, therefore I was only friends with him. So fast forward to about two years when I was going through my divorce. He popped back into my life to help me through it along with the fact that my 3 month old daughter at the time melted his heart. We ended up heling each other through both our divorces. When we frist meet is was April 2002 so by December 2004 our lives had totally changed. We got married in November 2005 and have been happily married for a little over 5 years now. The truth is he is my best friend and my daughter is now 6 and that is her daddy because her Bio doesn't want to have anything to do with her. My husband and I have a son together and both kids are our lives. There is a whole list of things that he does that drives me crazy to the point that I will not list them all besides a few of you have mentioned them in your posts. I will say this I wouldn't change him for nothing.

Carla - posted on 01/27/2011

I met my husband in New Orleans where I am from while he was in the Marine Corps through another Marine that was seeing a very good friend of mine. I wasn't really trying to date anyone at the time. He was a very sweet and caring person. He and his friend would come over just about every evening after we got off from work and cook dinner for us. We had fun hanging out with each other. He made me feel comfortable with talking to him and so I decided to date him. We've been together for 10 years now and married for 7 of those years. We have had our ups and downs but we are still very much in love with one another. My husband did years in the Marines and is now in the Navy reserve to finish his 20 years in the military. He left this past Sunday for deployment. As long as we've been together he has never been deployed so this is my 1st deployment. This all new to me and very scary. What drives me crazy about my husband is how he acts like nothing ever bothers him when he knows it does. But I still love him, for the person he is.

Shayla - posted on 01/27/2011

I met my husband thru a mutural friend we had in Jacksonville, Fl. He is in the Navy. He drives me up the wall when he is on leave and takes over the house and does everything that I wouldn't do.

Julie - posted on 01/27/2011

My hubby found me on a dating site and i so wasnt ready for a relationship (just got out of a 5 year marriage) we decided 2 be friends and after a year of becoming best friends i finally broke down and we started dating in 2007 :) married in 2008 and still going strong...celebrating our 3rd wedding anniversary in March :) he drives me insane when he plays his video games and screams at the TV like he's talking to someone...its hilarious just irritating cuz i think he's yelling at me LOL

Aundraya - posted on 01/26/2011

When I was fifteen I lived down the road from this punk looking sixteen year old boy. Our moms tried to set us up, but the one time we actually "met" he said "hey" then went to his room to jam on his guitar. The only times we saw him after that was if we were passing in the car on the way to the bus stop. If it was rainy or cold we'd let him ride with us bc he was always walking. I never knew anything about him other than he was cute and smeled good, but so not my type. A year later I got my first job at a resturaunt, and there was that punk kid. Only now he looked more clean cut, and hot as could be. He apparently had just joined ROTC and had to cute his shaggy do. As we worked together we became friends; I'd usually be his ride home and some nights we'd talk until 2:00 am. Now, five years later we have an almost two year old, and have been married two and a half years or so. He joined the Navy about a year after we were married. He does many things that annoy me, but I think that's just because he's been away for so long that we're both learning how to live together again.

Sarah - posted on 01/26/2011

I met my husband online. I was about to get off of eharmony and when he messaged me. He was a PC in the navy and I was working as a postal clerk in the civilian world. so we struck up a friendship around that. A couple months later we met up in London (he was stationed in Sicily) and he proposed. 3 years later and loving every minute of it. He is my best friend and makes me a better me.
I can't think of something that drives me crazy. He has been gone for 11 months on deployment so i would give anything to have him home "driving me crazy".

Jackie - posted on 01/25/2011

I met my husband when my daughter was about 7 months old. We met at karaoke. My daughter's bio father is in the navy as well. He did me wrong a lot, which is why we weren't together. When my husband now told me he was int he Navy I tried to run...but he kept chasing me until eventually I gave in. He is a great husband and wonderful father to my little girl. The only thing he does that drives me crazy is beer cans or cigarette boxes...empty ones. He leaves them on the counter which is not even 2 feet away from the trash! Why not throw them in there??? Other than that he is wonderful... He does laundry and vacuums and makes sure to take the trash out (once I get it all in there). It will be 2 years in March we've been married, but it feels like so much longer!

Rosa - posted on 01/25/2011

Well I met my hubby at Winn-Dixie we both were working there. I didnt like him at 1st cuz he was a yr younger than I was, but my friend convince me to go out with him. Since I havent dated since high school. Anti social...lol. After going out, 6mth later he told me he just sign up for the army active duty. Yeah, told me after he was about to leave in a week, yet that is how its still is. Im always the last to know. Then 1yr after meeting him he ask me to marry him, i said yes. I visit him at his 1st duty station we got married n he went back to work. Now 4yrs later, each year i just look at my marriage and him saying thank you Lord for send us together. He gets on my nerves with telling me everything when its either over or i found out; however, he hates when I do it. But I wouldnt change him at all.

Catherine - posted on 01/24/2011

Well, my DH and I met in the Army. I was in myself but he had reclassed as an MP. I got out because I didn't have anyone to take my daughter once I was up for deployment. He has been in for about 10-11 years. I was in for 1 year. His whole leaving soda cans around and cigarette butts in his pockets or in the car crumbled up and all I smell is that nasty butt, or later on find it puffed up in the dryer all over my work clothes. I could slap him for that but I don't lol... he says it is because he doesn't like to toss the butts out on post. lol!

Ty - posted on 01/24/2011

I met my hubby through a friend. She was dating his friend. When we met i had a 1 yr old. After a few weeks of knowing him he moved in. Three months later i was pregnant. Thats was 10 yrs ago and we r still going strong. We r so in love. Our love never gets old. There is nothing he does that gets on my nerves. I've learned to love him and accept him with all his flaws. :)

Tah - posted on 01/24/2011

My husband always cleans the house...that's on the hi five list to me..I only have to tidy and I call the kids...if you want these toys...this shoe..better act like it..lol..when it's full cleaning time he puts us out or sends us somewhere rather.lol..take the kids to a movie..lol..when I come home the house smells like it's been kissed by fairies...I'm spoiled in that regard...lol

Candi - posted on 01/24/2011

My husband and I met in High School (junior yr). We became friends and started dating at the end of our Senior yr. He joined the Coast Guard and I went to college, then before being stationed in Alaska, he called and said "hey, if we want to get married we need to go ahead and do it." (Romantic huh?) So we got married, moved to Alaska...Now he is in the Army. We have been married 14 years and have 3 wonderful children aged 12, 10, and 5.

Hia annoying habits: nail-biting and he is a neat freak..always cleaning the house!!!!

Tah - posted on 01/24/2011

im glad hes not an axe murderer, my husband hasnt turned out to be one either....im pretty sure...lol

Courtney - posted on 01/23/2011

My husband's name is Andy. He is in the Marines, and plans to make it a career, he wants to do at least 20 years, may go for 30, depends on what he wants to do once he hits his 20 years =). How we met is a very funny story. We actually met playing a game called Left 4 Dead on the computer. Some of you may have heard of it from your hubby's who play on xbox. =). I was living in Illinois and he was out here in California. We became friends on there and played and talked for a couple months. Then one day we were talking and realized our feelings for each other were much deeper than friends. So we decided that one day we would meet in person and that he wanted me to move out to cali with him. So I went back home to my mother's house and told her I was moving to Cali (might I add she had no idea about Andy at the time) , so it was quite hilarious. She met him online on webcam, and fell in love with him instantly, the rest of my family of course were against the idea and thought he would turn out to be some axe murderer who was just trying to draw me out there and slaughter me or something. While I was at my mother's, we were talking and he said he would have to go to 29 palms for a few weeks in about a month, so if he came to Illinois it would be after that, so he wanted me to come there first, so he bought me a plane ticket to leave a few days later. I went out there and when I got off the plane to meet him it was love at first sight =). I stayed with him for a week and a half and then went back home. While he was at palms he was talking to me on the phone and asked me to marry him =D (yes, we had only been "dating" for a couple weeks by this time, and talking for about 3 months), but we knew it was meant to be. Once he got back from Palms he flew out to Illinois and officially asked me to marry him with the engagement ring he bought me and a week later we got married! Then he stayed for another week, went back to Cali, then 2 weeks later my daughter and I moved to Cali to be with him. We have now been married for 2 years and our love for each other has only gotten stronger. I don't regret it a day of my life doing this. It is actually funny because I always said that I would never be with someone in the military, and then I found out he was a marine, which I was a bit cautious at first because I didn't know if I wanted to commit myself to something like that, but when your soul mate, I don't think that should get in the way. I have actually turned out to love the military community, everyone he works with is great and we are all one big family. It is such an amazing thing.
There are several things that drives me crazy sometimes, but some of the things that drive me crazy are the same things that I love.

I would also like to add that he is not a crazy axe murderer and that my family all turned out to love him just as much as I do. And his family feels the same about me (which I was worried about at first because he's asian, and I didn't know at first if his parents were traditional) So everything has been great and I hope continues that way =)

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2011

I met my husband in high school. I was a freshman taking advanced coures and he was a sophmore, we ended up having a history class together. I was in love the moment I saw him but I was the shy girl and didn't really talk to him. Then one day he wrote me a note telling me he saw my thong and as embarrassing as it was, we started talking every class. Then one day I asked him for his IM address so we could talk online about a class project that I was "having trouble with." The next day he asked me out. That was March 8, 2005 and we married on May 10, 2008.

He is US Army Retired at the ripe age of 22 :) He was wounded in June 2007 while training for deployment at the negligence of another soldier. We are currently fighting the VA for proper medical care, something he did not receive while on active duty.

What he does to drive me crazy? Well, he has a TBI so he does things slowly and sometimes it just gets on my last nerve that it takes him 30 minutes to get out the door. I try to hold my tongue but sometimes I rush him and I feel really bad afterwards. He said he doesn't mind because he doesn't realize how long he takes. Lol. Oh and when he drives and leaves my sit all the way against the steering wheel. I feel like Raspusha (the big girl from Norbit) when I get in sometimes and my boobies honk the horn because he has it so far up. Lol.

LauraBeth - posted on 01/20/2011

LOL so very very true!!!! ;o) Thank you! this site has really helped me thru this deployment! thank you all

Tah - posted on 01/20/2011

home tommorrow..everybody wave goodbye to laurabeth..she will be temporarily unavailable..lol..have fun...

LauraBeth - posted on 01/20/2011

I meet my husband in a bar he is in the army, from the moment he said hello I knew he was the man for me!! a couple of months later we were married, now 3 years later and we have a 20 mo old son and a 4 mo old little girl! I cant think of anything that he does that drives me up the wall, but we haven't seen each other in 8 months, nd I am ready for him to come home and meet his little girl!!! (he will be here tomorrow for is R&R)

Alycia - posted on 01/20/2011

I met my husband online during his first deployment. He was looking on MySpace for females in the area of his hometown and I came up... we talked really easily and 2 months after meeting online we met in person. 3 days after meeting in person we were married :) 13 months later we had our first beautiful child and now we've been married 4.5 years :)



He's active duty army on his 3rd deployment.



He does lots of things that drive me nuts... the number one thing is that we have a special needs 3 year old... some days he handles it better than others... some day he just want to push her SO hard to be "typical" and it drives me nut... it feels like I'm a moderator

Adriana - posted on 01/20/2011

I met my husband at my job. He liked me and I was so not interested, LOL. Decided to give him a chance and 3 years later we got married. He is in the Army Reserves and has been for about 9 years. He left this past Sunday for our 1st deployment. He is my best friend and my rock but he drives me crazy when he plays his video games all the time.

Dominic - posted on 01/20/2011

i met my husband when i was in AIT. he was a prior service soldier. Our Ait was in Gulfport, Miss. he is still in the Army. has been for 10 years. there are so many little things that he does that drive me up the wall. but at the end of the day i can laugh at some of them and realize thats why i fell in love with him! :-)

Erin - posted on 01/20/2011

I met my husband my first weekend at college. We hung out with the same group for a while before admitting that we were in love with each other. Just before 9/11, he told me that college wasn't for him and he wanted to join the Marines. I was scared he'd forget about me and I'd never know for sure, but I became a "boot camp" girlfriend. He proposed over the phone a few months after boot camp was over. We just celebrated 7 years of marriage. What drives me crazy is when he forgets to communicate. I don't mean that he doesn't call when overseas. I mean he forgets to communicate that he has out of town training until the day before (if not the day of). I love him dearly even when he gets "scatterbrained."

Jessica - posted on 01/20/2011

I met my husband online When i was 15 and he was 18. I of course lied about my age being a dumb kid but needless to say. We dated for a month then broke up and didnt see each other for a while and one day i get a phone call from him asking if i replaced him. It was so cute i couldnt resist seeing him again lol. About 6 months into our relationship i got pregnant with my now 8 year old son. and he Joined the airforce when our son was 3 months old. He is a great guy but gets on my nerves like crazy because odly enough he sleeps way to much. i swear i can get 4 hours of sleep and function but if he doesnt get at least 12 he is crabby. But weve been married for 7 years and going strong and still in love as ever. :)