Single but not Single

Jennifer - posted on 05/17/2009

Why can't you join your married friends out for dinner or a movie? I spent a year with a group of friends this way sometimes the wives had girls night out and other times all couples and me, it was all good. And these were civilian friends who didn't always understand the Army. I would caution going out with single friend and DO NOT become friends with single men - there are too many chances where one late lonely night there is too much alcohol and things go where you never ment. I know too many people who made mistakes they never intended. As a waiting wife I plan to only hang with wives and couples.



An FRG really is a life saver they are in the same boat on the same scary ride so they understand where you are.

Tiffany - posted on 05/12/2009

FRGs can be life savers. they are in the same boat as you and will understand about being single but not being single. And many of the women have children so they understand you cant have an all nighter at a club.

Katie - posted on 04/19/2009

Do you have family near by? I found that spending time with my sister, my mom and other family members really helped me. I was able to talk to them about everything I was feeling during my pregnancy while my husband was away and they continue to help me out now that my son is born and my husband is still in Iraq. Also, try asking your married girlfriends to plan more "girls only" things, they can do their couple things too, but there is nothing wrong with letting the men have their own time so that all the ladies can go out to dinner or whatever.

It can be a hard thing, being a wife with all the same responsibilities as a single mother. Hang in there! You will get through it!

Autumn - posted on 04/08/2009

Other "single but not single" friends have been life savers for me.

Teyaka - posted on 04/05/2009

You can still meet and hang out with single friends. There's nothing wrong with that. BUT you do have to kinda be up front about not trying to live the single life, just happens that those are the people that can do things with you at the time.

But stay strong. Try doing playdates, but more of a mom-date. Get the kids together around naptime and have tea or coffee with a friend while the kids nap. That way you are still fulfilling the mommie and wife role AND also having an adult conversation. Sometimes that all we need. Another adult to talk to or listen to.

Push come to shove, get a babysitter for the night. Go to a hotel and relax, even if you just go to the hotel on base. Or you can take a drive with you child until you are damn near lost and find your way back. That way you can find some new and interesting places.