You Don't Know (Deployment Poem)

Christie - posted on 01/12/2009 ( 47 moms have responded )

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You don't know, but I'm the girl who cries every night, and hopes every morning for his safe return.

I'm the girl who drags herself out of bed every morning so that he will be proud of her when he comes home.

I'm the girl who lies in bed longing for him to be lying next to me.

You don't know, but I'm the girl with a million things to say, but not one will come out without the thought of him.



I'm the girl who stops and stares and wishes for him to return soon each and every time another man in uniform walks by.

What you don't know is that I know love on an entirely different level from most.

I know the love that spans time and space; that love that most people are constantly searching for.

I'm one of the girls who waits months for a single kiss; a kiss that will make the months apart worth every second.

A kiss where everything in the world stops and for what seems like eternity, you can see into that person's soul and know that without them, life is not worth living.



You tell me I don't even understand what love is, I tell you, I know more love in one homecoming, than most know in a life time.

You don't know that every time he leaves, part of me goes with him and part of him stays with me.

You tell me that people change and I tell you, true love will always remain constant and steady.

You tell me you know how I feel and that you understand what I'm going through; you have no idea.

What you don't realize is that I understand the true meaning of not only love, but of longing and anticipation.

You don't see, but I'm one of the few who gets goose bumps as my heart fills with pride every time the National Anthem is played.

I'm one of the girls who will stand tall and stay strong on the outside, but be dying on the inside.



I am one of those girls who will make friends with complete strangers for only they can even begin to understand what I am going through.

You don't understand that I picture his face everywhere I go and that he is with me in everything I do.

You think I don't cry anymore, that I have gotten over it, but what you don't know is that I just hide it better.

You don't know the feeling the first time you hear the word deployment or the feeling of his hands as it slides out of yours for what could be the last time.

You don't know what that last hug or kiss means and how important that goodbye truly is.



I'm the girl you see walking by with a disheartened face staring silently at the ground.

What you don't know is, that I know true love and that no matter what obstacles we have to face, our love will live forever, that only we know.

You tell me that you support the troops; I tell you, I'm in love with one.

I'm one of the silent, but outgoing; weak, but strong; scared, but grateful.

What you don't see is that without me, he is nothing and without him, I am nothing.

I'm one of those girls; the girl who stands tall behind her Sailor, stands proud behind her Hero, stands strong behind her man, watching silently as he serves and defends our country.





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Yvonne - posted on 05/05/2013

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My boyfriend is on a 9-12 month deployment.. first one since he became a Marine.. he's been gone a bit over a month and a half, almost 2 now.
Things were rough for me in the beginning.. it's gotten easier as I've developed closer relationships with a few people I can trust. Not having this ONE person in my day to day life has altered the greater part of my life; I'm so thankful for finding such things as these - having something I can relate to, connect to gives me comfort because I. am. not. alone.

Thank you for posting this.
Though this may not apply to everyone, this video is on point with how I feel.

Maya - posted on 01/08/2013

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Hello Christie, thank you for your heartwarming post. I am a newcomer here, because I just started a friendship, with somebody serving in Afgh. So these times i have an enormous hunger to read about women that are in the same situation as me.
The way you express your feelings as days and weeks go by, while he is not there, it could have been my experience, especially the tears in the night

Alicia - posted on 10/16/2012

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My fiance' left on Sunday for 7 months in Afghanistan. This really hits home and explains everything that I'm feeling.

Jocelyn - posted on 09/14/2012

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Oh my goodness. I'm holding back the tears! Sheesh!



Half way thru another deployment; nailed it, sister.



Wow.

Michelle - posted on 09/02/2012

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Perfect. :) My husband is one month into his 10 month deployment. Every feeling I have had is in this poem.



Thank you

Brandy - posted on 04/13/2012

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Thank you for posting! I was this poem and now I am this poem! My husband is being deployed to Kuwait in 18 days and we just found out this week! This poem really hit home for me. Thanks Again

Debbi - posted on 03/30/2012

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Beautiful, and just as true going into our 5th year long deployment as when we were going though the first one. Thank you for posting :)

Serinitee - posted on 07/05/2011

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Wow, I could have written every word, I can relate to that so much - well if I just substituted soldier for sailor. Beautiful.

Tracey - posted on 07/01/2011

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Thank You for sharing this deployment poem!!! It has touched my heart in a way only so few can imagine..my husband is deploying in 3 days and im already lost without him :(

Sara - posted on 01/24/2011

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My husband has been deployed 3 times to Iraq. We have four kids and my heart sank everytime he left for fear he might not return. This deployment poem is very well written. It touched me.

Christina - posted on 10/28/2010

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Thanks for sharing that deployment poem, it's exactly how I feel. My husband has been deployed since January and I miss him so much!

Kristina - posted on 09/28/2010

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Thank you for sharing this poem with everyone!!! We are preparing for my husband's upcoming deploying in 2 weeks!!! This will be our first deployment as a family since our daughter was born and it doesn't get any easier!!! Stay strong and remember you're NOT alone!!!

Michelle - posted on 08/25/2010

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I couldn't help myself, I had to send it to all the military spouses I know! Beautiful! My husband's first deployment is in 2 weeks. I know he will be safe and come home to me, but I will be praying every minute of every day

Megan - posted on 08/03/2010

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this brought to tears to my eyes but then again the word deployment itself does that....my hubby leaves in 3 weeks to afghanistan for a year. we just had our first son in april. when he comes home he wont even kno who daddy is...thank u for posting this

Crystal - posted on 07/20/2010

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i cry everytime i read this we are getting ready for our first deployment together in oct time is passing to quick

Kaitlyn - posted on 07/11/2010

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I love this.. Thank you for posting it my husband left a week ago.. Do you mind if I post to my FB?

Laci Jade - posted on 03/19/2010

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it brought tears to my eyes, my husband is about to go into the army....i will be needing lots of support

Stormy - posted on 03/10/2010

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OMG, I am still crying as I write this reply. This is such a beautiful poem, and it's exactly how I've been feeling ever since my husband deployed in September. This is our first deployment as a married couple. And I'd have to say I have learned alot from this deployment and how deep a military spouses love can go for their soldier. I miss him each and everyday and I can't wait til he comes home. God bless all you military wives and their brave soldiers !

Sadie - posted on 11/23/2009

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gosh, I thought I was done crying for today. If only people could understand...

User - posted on 10/08/2009

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All I can say is WOW! Someone has finally put all the feelings ive had the last year into words. Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for sharing this. It feels so good to know I am not alone. I am so new to this military life and feel like I'm in it alone w/my two kids. My husband is deployed to Iraq, and has been gone since only weeks after basic and ait graduation. In all 13 months. I miss him more than I ever imagined I could. So thank you once again for putting this up for the rest of us to see.

Joselyn - posted on 10/05/2009

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Wow this made me cry.. exactly what I feel and probably what most military wives feel during deployment. Great poem.. thanks for sharing.

Mandy - posted on 09/26/2009

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I am sitting here crying because it is like the author knows what my soul is saying. This is mine and my husbands 4th deployment and I just want him home. He has been gone for a week and already it seems like forever. I am glad to have found this site because I really have no support network where I am but now I know I can talk to people that are there with me.

Sharon - posted on 05/04/2009

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im so excited to join this group i have a son deployed to iraq and have been anxiously waiting to talk with people in the same position your poem breaks my heart i will pray for your soldier and his safe return hope to talk to you soon

Beth - posted on 04/19/2009

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This truly is everything I am feeling and can't find the words to say. I am going to cherish this poem for a long time and I appreciate you sharing this with everyone. My Sailor and I are facing our first deployment as well as the upcoming birth of our first son. Unfortunatly our son will be at least 6 months old before he ever gets to see his Daddy face to face. This poem really hits home.

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My husband left today for pre deployment training and this has never been so true.. Thanks for posting this, once again i am teary eyed..

Melodie - posted on 04/15/2009

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I really like this poem... very strong and true.. my husband is deployed and he now has a new baby girl that he only got to meet the first 2 weeks of her life.. now he cant see her til shes almost a year..

KeeKee - posted on 03/24/2009

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This poem hits home on so many levels. I am a soldier and my husband just deployed 5 days before the birth of our first son and I have to prepare to do the same in Aug. Yes its hard to be an Army wife but its even harder when you are also a soldier and mom

Lorrie - posted on 03/11/2009

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Wow!  I could not have come up with these words myself, but am so glad that someone with this gift can put into words exaclty how I feel everyday.

Kristin - posted on 03/07/2009

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wow this is beautiful and so true!  I got teary eyed as well. My husband left recently for his first deployment and it is so true that no one truly understands what us army wives go through except other army wives!

Sara - posted on 03/02/2009

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I love this poem. It made me cry when I read it. My husband is currently deployed and will be gone for a year. This is his 2nd deployment since I've known him. You are right. No one knows how we (military wives) feel unless they are going through it, too. I would love to be able to print this out and share with the other wives in my FRG. Stay strong.

Erin - posted on 02/24/2009

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This is EXACTLY how I'm feeling. My husband just deployed yesterday and I've been sick to my stomach since before he even left. I have two kids, we're in Japan away from family. This is our first deployment as a married couple, but he's been on many, many TDY's. Well written.

Kara - posted on 02/11/2009

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WOW! I got goosebumps just reading that! Whoever this author is, it seems as though they have crawled into my mind and wrote my own thoughts down on paper... this is our first deployment and I cannot wait for my soldier to come home!

Ashley - posted on 02/07/2009

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My husband is coming home in two weeks! While he was deployed he missed the birth of our first child! :( But we are so excited for them to meet!!! This poem definately hit home

Jane - posted on 02/07/2009

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WHAT A BEAUTIFUL POEM, SUCH MEANING. I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. MY 21 YEAR OLD SON IS IN THE ARMY. KEEP YOUR CHIN AND SPIRITS UP X

Cassi - posted on 02/03/2009

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brings me to tears.....exactly how i am feeling. thank you so much for this, it is beautiful.

Tracey - posted on 07/01/2011

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Thank You for sharing this deployment poem!!! It has touched my heart in a way only so few can imagine..my husband is deploying in 3 days and im already lost without him :(

Sara - posted on 01/24/2011

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My husband has been deployed 3 times to Iraq. We have four kids and my heart sank everytime he left for fear he might not return. This deployment poem is very well written. It touched me.

Christina - posted on 10/28/2010

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Thanks for sharing that deployment poem, it's exactly how I feel. My husband has been deployed since January and I miss him so much!

Kristina - posted on 09/28/2010

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Thank you for sharing this poem with everyone!!! We are preparing for my husband's upcoming deploying in 2 weeks!!! This will be our first deployment as a family since our daughter was born and it doesn't get any easier!!! Stay strong and remember you're NOT alone!!!

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