Leah - posted on 07/08/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Long story-I got pregnant from a married man while I was also married. Divorced my (ex) husband (father of 2 my boys), was alone during pregnancy, so my ex claimed my baby (daughter) as his (we were still legally married when she was born) even though he & the court knew she was not his. During the divorce, he even agreed to pay child support for her just like the boys and the three kids have grew up the same w/him as their dad. When my daughter was about 4, her bio dad came back into my life, and after he divorced his wife, we started seeing each other again. Over the course of the last 8 yrs, our relationship has grown, we have moved in together, and he is considered a step-dad to all 3 of my kids. The kids are teenagers now, I think the boys have figured out that my (now) fiance is her bio dad, but my daughter, now 13, is clueless. We are very involved w/my fiance's family, and they know he is her dad, but when they talk about him as her dad, my daughter takes it as her "step-dad" and they understand wh she goes with her brothers to be with her "dad" (my ex). She has a decent relationship with my fiance, but has a real daddy-daughter relationship with my ex. Neither are super dad's, but these guys are all she has known all her life.I know it is just a matter of time before she figures out the truth or is confronted with it. I don't know how to tell her, I know I waited to long already, but I don't know how. I know this will break her heart, along with my ex's heart when their relationship will change forever. Please tell me how to do this!!!