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I feel like I'm not doing enough. =(

Brandi - posted on 09/24/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I'm due in November, and I keep hearing people say stuff like "I talked to my baby every day" "I sang every day to them" or "I played with them all the time" and "I put headphones on my belly so they could listen to music." And they say this like they did it EVERY SECOND of EVERY DAY. And I'm thinking to myself "I do that...not ALL the time, but I lay there and I rub my belly and when she kicks I push back...I sing to her..I talk to her when she gets upset. There's music playing nearly all the time.." but I feel like it's not enough. I'm not a talkative person by nature, I don't just sit there and talk. I listen. I don't randomly break out a pair of headphones and blare classical music at my belly and I don't constantly poke at my belly or tap my belly to make her move. And honestly, I kind of hate it when people come up to me and randomly rub my belly then get upset when they don't get kicked. I feel like I haven't done enough to give her "a good start." Like...she won't be "normal" because I didn't sit down with hours set aside to talk to her or play music or rub my belly. =/ Any advice? Or what do you guys think? I feel kind of bad sometimes when I think about it. I'm not hurting her by not talking all the time am I? I mean...I DO! Just not as much as people think I should. I know she knows my voice because when she's upset, I do talk to her, and I do sing to her and she does calm down.....am I just being paranoid?

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Janis - posted on 03/16/2011

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I think as long as you know you love your baby then so will she, inside and out. Every one mommy, daddy and baby are different.
I was an obsessive pregnant woman, I rubbed my belly so frequently, my shirts became worn. I did it without knowing it haha!. God help her I sang to her all the time, in the shower, in the pool on the rocking chair, read aloud, listened to music. Heck I even used a stethescope (SP?)to hear her. But that does not make me good or bad. It just makes me me.
My little girl is now 1 years old, she loves when I sing or read to her, she loves the water and dancing to music. Hip hop her favorite (god help me). My point is your baby will love you for everything you are now and everything you will become once she is here.
Just relax you are doing great : )

Kellyann - posted on 02/18/2011

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dont be paranoid at all i was the same as you.. you dont want to burst out talking all time wen your pregnant sometimes peace and quiet is just wat u and baby need xxx your doing all you need too so dont worry
hope tht helps xxx

User - posted on 02/09/2011

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Just do what your doctor says,vitamins etc and don't let it bother you. Every mommy is different. I was lucky enough that no "stranger" came up to me and rubbed my belly. Probably because I made myself look very pissed off everytime I went out somewhere so they wouldn't or maybe its where I live. I'm not sure. Don't let it bother you too much.

Danielle - posted on 12/08/2010

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Sweetie just take your vitamins, follow your doctors orders and get yourself a T-shirt that says "I don't like to be petted." I had one when I was preggers because I was an anti belly rubber myself. It always amazed me that people thought they had the right to invade your personal space just because you are pregnant. As far as al the music and talking and poking, remember your baby needs rest too. No point in forcing her to move unless she wants to. She hears everything you hear and will be perfectly happy without head phones too.

Carol - posted on 10/04/2010

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Don't worry, you are doing fine!! You do not have to talk to your unborn child every moment or play classical music. Just be yourself and do what you want to do. Your baby will turn out just fine.

Angie - posted on 09/30/2010

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OH hunny i wish i was there to just give you a hug cuz it sounds like u could use one! As hard as it may be do not compare your self to others. You are doing an amziing job and doing what you feel is right by your shild. Other people are bound to give unwanted advice and will make u feel as though everything they do is better than you. These people are not any better than you they are just annoying! This si YOUR child and YOU are doing what is best for her. Take care and remember women have been having babies for many many years long before there were headpho9nes. computers and tv! Do what you know works for your daughter! She knows you love her and comfort hreand that is what a baby really needs!

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