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Aubry - posted on 01/10/2011

Hi. Im probably goin to sound like a horrible person after youread this but im looking for some support/ guidance. I have an almost 2 year old and just had my week old baby boy my daughter i had w another man and had my son w my current bf. he also has a son who is almost 3 from a previous relationship that we see every other weekend. My problem is i dont connect w his son. He gets on my nerves. I find myself not paying attention to him like i do my own. Showing favorites w my kids. He lives w his mom full time and she has a different way of doing things w her son. he has no disipline she lets him eat whatever junk food and he doesnt like eating what we have. He whines the whole time hes at our house. hes almost 3 and wants us to do everything for him and when i ask him to do somthing he just stares at me when i know he can do it. i just dont even want to b around him. and thats not how i should feel my boyfriend loves his son very much i just wish i could feel the same. its like i dont know how to act w him and it frustrates me. cuz i raise my kids completley different. i feel like the evil step mom.

Kim - posted on 10/23/2009

Wow! That sounds a little like something I've been through before. You know, all women just wanted to feel a since of belonging, at least most of us. It sounds like though that even though your man or "boyfriend" hasn't labeled you guys yet, that he does care about you and is working extra hard to keep things together for you guys, which is more than I can say for the "Marriages" or "Boyfriends" I've had....I'm beginning to think I would rather have someone completely care about me that worry about being labeled as a couple or whatever. I do see where you are coming from and even though I've never been in the same kind of situation where I've not known what something was, as a woman I do understand it. Hang in there....He'll come around. Besides, when he does, he will have had time to be completely ready for whatever you guys decide!

Lori - posted on 08/13/2009

Hi everyone, My name is Lori and live in Tampa. My son Billie has lived with his Dad on the other side of the state since he was 3 and I saw him most weekends and summer vacations. I've been with my now husband 6 years and his son and my son are the same age (see profile). I'm not being predjuicd when I tell you how wonderful my son is and how disappointing my stepson is. They are like day and night. They get along great and I'm thankful for that, I just wish my SS was half the kid my S is. Billie is working as a lifeguard at the YMCA, going into his second semester at Embry Riddle and is going for his bachlor in engineering. His room is spotless and helps around the house, mine too.

Woody on the other hand, well atleast he has a job atleast for now. I got him a job where I work and for his 90 day review he got a "does not meet" in every category except gets along with others. That I belive, he is very friendly and everyone loves him. However he makes me crazy. He is lazy, his room is disqusting, he lies and I have to ask him or remind him to do everything. He was called 5 times in his first 90 days to find out if he was coming to work or not. Mostly because he couldn't get up on time or should I say didn't want to get up. His alarm goes off so many times in the morning that it wakes me up. When he is off, he sits in his room playing video games all day. Like today, he was home, do you think he could have feed the animals or walk the dogs for me, empty the dishwasher, anything to help around the house. No of course not, but he doesn't have any trouble taking an hour shower to go hang at his friends house. Wonder what they'll do all night, how silly me, they'll play video games. Sorry, just a little sarcasim there.

Anyway, he says he doesn't like the job because it's hard work, so he is thinking of joining the air force. HAHA. The kid has no clue. His father and I are actually hoping he does join the military, as that may be just what he needs to wake up to reality. Speaking of his father. I can't say anything to Woody about what he is suppose to do or should do because Dad sticks up for him and of course I'm just being mean and hateful. It really doesn't matter if I do say anything because Woody knows that it doesn't matter, daddy will protect him and pay the bills and fix whatever needs to be fixed because he feels guilty, about so many things regarding his son. Actually, dad can't take anymore of it either but can't tell him to move out or make him join the military, that would just make him feel worse so instead he is looking to take a job in Kuwait. Yeah that's right, war torn middle east. He wants me to go to. Actually I probably would if it wasn't for the dogs and the desert. Being from Florida I like my humidity. Anyway, if he does go, what the hell will I do with my stepson. There is NO way we can continue to live like this, that much I know.

Leaha - posted on 06/03/2009

I did too when I found it. I can't wait to get to know all the other girls on here!

Jaime - posted on 06/03/2009

Thanks for the invite Leaha!

Like this forum already!!!

Leaha - posted on 06/02/2009

Glad to see you hear Jaime! Although, I'm sure we will soon be fallowed... I hope we can get away from that drama though.

Jaime - posted on 06/02/2009

Oh Nicole, I soooo know where you are coming from with the working all the time. My husband missed out on alot of things with our girls. It was a constant in our fights, we almost seperated because of it (that is the only reason, no cheating like someone liked to assume) I point blank told him, sell a shop, downsize and spend more time at home with us. The amount of stress he was bringing home was unbareable. So he sold 1 of our 3 stores in Jan 2009, hired some great managers and is making more time for his family. It really helped when I went back to work part time as well, I felt like I was contributing to our household as well (My hubby hates that I work, and tells me all the time finacially we don't need my income)

We are at the best point ever in our relationship, and I couldn't love and trust him any more. No matter what others think of my husband's abilities as a father I know 100% he is not a dead beat and he loves all his children equally!

Jaime - posted on 06/02/2009

Hi Ladies!

Thanks for the invite, because I sure do know I have drama, along with almost everyone else on Circle of Mom's you have probally heard most of my drama!!

I am 29, turning 30 a month today YIKES!!! I have 3 beautiful daughters (3,4,8) and a SS (that is if I am still allowed to call him that) plus I guess somewhere out there a SD that is a couple months older than my oldest bio daughter.( Don't know her name or anything else about her, either does my husband) My husband and I have been together for 10 years, and married for 6 years. I am a palliative care nurse, and I work part time. My husband has 2 very successful businesses (butcher shops) I help out in the store occasionally, but mostly do all the paperwork.

We have a beautiful house on the lake, and my mom lives in a granny flat attached to our house. We have 2 crazy dogs (english mastiff and a german short hair pointer) plus a crazy cat. We can be a crazy household, but I love it and I am rarely bored. I love the fact that this is the first year my husband has a little more freedom with the shops, and can help me out driving the girls to all there activities. I think that about sums my life up in a nut shell. I will vent my drama alittle later, as I am off to dance rehersal and pictures with my middle daughter.

Leaha - posted on 06/02/2009

Hi all! I'm Leaha, I'm 27 and I am a BM as well as a SM. I have an 8 1/2 year old, and an 11,8 and 2 year old sk's. Not to mention the ex husband and his new bimbo who is a child trying to raise a child, lol. Then of course there are my hubby's two exes. The mother of the 11 year old was never married to my husband, and then the mother of the 8 and 2 year olds is the ex wife, We refer to her as psychobitch, lol There is NEVER a dull moment in my life.

Christina - posted on 05/31/2009

Hi Ladys..I'm Chrissy and am 30 years old...I have 2 children Sasha almost 11 (from a previous abusive relationship...father has nothing to do with her) and Micayah almost 3 (he has a lot of medical problems) I have been married for 3 years June 17th and we have ungodly amounts of problems....My husband has a son from a previous marriage Wesley almost 8 (never get to see him) So we have a lot of drama in our life!

Nikky - posted on 05/07/2009

hi gals my name is Nicole Im 24 and like all women I have drama. I just had MY first baby, a beautiful baby boy named Ryan on March 2,2009. My boyfriend if you want to call him that has 2 boys from his previous marriage that I love and adore. My son wasnt planned but his brothers and daddy adore him as much as I do, my problem is my boyfriend wont tell me if we are together or not. everytime I ask he tell sme to quit being stupid. I just wan tto know if he is my boyfriend, is that too much to ask? I take care of the kids do all the "wifey" chores and feel underappreciated. The boys and I hardly get to see daddy cause he works all the time and when he's not working psssh ya right! his mother and I have told him he needs to slow down but he never takes the advice to heart. I want family time for the boys and I to get to spend time with daddy but when I try to tlak to him about it he says hes too tired to argue with me. Ya my life is a soap if you want to feel better about your drama contact me I got loads of stories! Baby mama drama and all...lol