Krystle - posted on 05/18/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
Okay, this is a bit of a long story...I just want to explain my situation and hope that I might get some feedback from you girls on here....What would you do?
I cut my bf's Dad and his dad's wife out of the picture. There are so many reasons why I did this and honestly, I'm really not the type of person to do such a thing b/c I grew up on firm beliefs that family was everything...but I really think that I'm doing the right thing.
Here's the thing, his Dad has never been there for him because he was in prison for a long period of time for something that he claims he is completely innocent, and I believed him until here recently. His crime was serious...he served like 10 or 12 years for it and because of his crime, he's a sex offender. Now, he decided to step back into Alex's (my bf's) life 5 years or so ago, right before he and I got together...ever since then, his Dad has done nothing but expect Alex to call him dad and call his wife mom (he'd never even seen or heard of his wife until the day they met)...he's always expecting alex to "donate" money to him, or give him a ride across town without providing gas money, even when Alex drives him several places to pay bills or whatever...no money, no gas. He'll get upset if Alex asks the same things of him and he's usually too busy to return the favor. He went behind Alex's back and started getting his friends to come hang out at his house (his reasoning is completely unknown)...when we were staying at their house with them a little more than a year ago, his dad blamed me for something I didn't do and proceeded to yell at me and call me a liar in a room full of people. When I got a job at 7-Eleven, they expected me to pay their bills and still pay our bills and save up the money to move back into our house we had (the electricity was turned off) and still take care of my kids. But the thing is that when I would give them money for the water bill or the electric bill, they would leave and say that they went to go pay the bills but a week or so later, they would be complaining about a cut-off notice. When I would say "well what happened to the money I gave you to pay it?" They would say, "I payed it but that was last month's bill and this is this month's". Come on guys, really I'm not stupid, I could see that the bill in their hand was the same exact bill from the week before...and it was obvious that it was for the same amount. I also know that when I was in the hospital and I had just had my c-section for my youngest child, they had cocane at their house and they were trying to pressure Alex into doing it, (he was there to watch our other two boys for a few hours so that they could go to their dart league and then he was coming back up the the hospital to be with me and the baby). And I know for a fact that his Dad was on it when he dropped Alex back up at the hospital and came to say hi to me...I'm not a dumbass and I know what a person on that drug looks like, it's not hard to notice. Not to mention, I know that's not the only drug they do. And it's not like they only do it every so often, it's kinda the opposite, if you know what I mean. I really don't care what you do on your own time, but when it's invilving my kids in the same vicinity or when they are under your care, I expect you to be on your best behavior. All you mommies understand what I mean, right?
Anyway, those are only a small handfull of things that they have done in the past to me and my family...not to mention the farovitism that is shown towards one of my kids from his Dad's wife....but that's a whole other ballgame. I just wanted you guys to get a small feel for what it is I've gone through with them...and it's not like they're totally HORRIBLE people, in the past they've done some really nice and helpful things for us...but that doesn't make up for the bad things they've done. Would you do the same?