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Dealing with the anger

Kristy - posted on 03/24/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am really nervous about my follow up appt from my D&C today. I am hoping to find a reason for my miscarriage, but also know that I may never have an explaination other than there were abonormalties with the baby. I think not having a definitive explaination leaves me with a lot of anger issues. I find myself so angry at even the littlest things. I have done really well not to snap at my boys, but it isn't always the case at my work. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Karyn - posted on 05/24/2009

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I agree, get angry. Don't try to hide it, you owe it to yourself to be true to your feelings and know that they are perfectly natural. I am still angry, I am angry my baby died, I am angry at how family and friends reacted to my loss, and I am angry that although we decided to try again I am still not pregnant. Miscarriage is a horrible thing and there is no easy way to "get over it". I am sorry for your loss and hope you are able to start feeling some peace soon.

Shannon - posted on 04/03/2009

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First of all, I am very sorry that you are hurting.  I'm sorry about the loss of your baby.  Secondly, just get angry.  I've found that when I try to suppress things, they get so much worse.  I lost my baby last August, and I still find myself getting angry.  It gets better, but it never goes away.  I found it hard to laugh again.  I felt guilty about it.  When you feel like you're the only one TRULY mourning the loss of this precious person, you feel that you should be bearing the sadness always, or somehow that baby is forgotten.  I had a ton of support, but no one felt it like I did.  I don't think  there are any words of wisdom.  There is only time, and support of others.  Cry when you need to. Laugh when you need to, and be pissed off when you need to.  You owe no one any apologies.  Your child was taken from you, and you're trying like hell to deal with that.  Good luck to you.

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