a day like today

Lauren - posted on 01/21/2011

I sympathize, woman, believe me. My son's father is gone (thankfully) but my young man is at the fantastic age of 3. He is so wonderful, but the days are long when the whining, the neediness, the meltdowns and the difficulty of this age all have to be handled by one person: me. The main thought that keeps my head in the game is that one day very soon I'm no longer going to be the center of his universe as he grows up and makes friends. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't shed (or want to shed) a few tears of utter frustration and exhaustion when I hear yet another ten minute "MAMA!" yelled to me from the other room as I desperately try to get some work done. Hang in there lady, it's a tough road for us, but we're only one human taking on a job intended for two. *hug*

Susan - posted on 01/20/2011

Now that the kids are asleep, it's time to do something for yourself. Take a bath, read a book, exercise, whatever if it that helps you de-stress. If you don't take that time for yourself, it'll just get harder. Forget about him. It's just going to add to the stress.

Joelle - posted on 01/13/2011

I understand your tears as I shed them a lot myself a long time ago...his Dad just wasn't "ready to be a dad" and went about his merry way, dating, partying, and enjoying life without a care in the world. My son is now 11 and his Dad has decided to be a dad...we have a custody agreement (never married) but he still doesn't see his son as often as some dad's see their kids. The way I look at it is, he missed out on so much, his first smile, crawling, walking, first word which was "mommy" He misses out on a lot of things but I am blessed to be with my son, to raise him, to hear others say what a wonderful son I have and that I am doing a great job as a single mother. It's those compliments that get me through when I'm feeling down, My son is my heart and soul and I could never imagine a life without him. I will never understand Dads walking out on their own flesh and blood. We are strong women and we always rise above, no matter how stressful, we come out with a smile on our faces because we know we have done and are still doing the absolute best for our kids. The greatest gift my ex ever gave me was my son!

Dawn - posted on 01/13/2011

Two peas in a pod are we... lol I see what you mean. same thoughts, same days... same love and joys. Its a bittersweet life that we lead huh?

You know, i called my ex up a while back... He answered the phone... and this is how the conversation went..

He... Hello?
Me... Hi. I called to tell you something important...
He... Ok?
Me... I called to tell you ... That i Hate you. That i think you are a Jerk.. ( insert other word here... lol )
He... Ok... You seriously called to tell me that??
Me.... well... Yes. That, and... Thank you.
He... HUH?
Me... just wanted to say i hate you for walking away, because the road got bumpy... but wanted to be better than you, and say thank you... for giving me the greatest blessing in the entire world... then leaving him with me, so that he can grow up into a real man.
Thank you... for giving me my heart, outside of my body.

Then, i hung up.... LOL

I dont know that this is the right way to handle things... but i know that on bad days, it still makes me smile... hope it did the same for you. xo
we are not alone. we are strong. we are incredible... and we are blessed beyond measure.
xo

JuLeah - posted on 01/13/2011

yup