Shoshana - posted on 08/21/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
How do I introduce a man, that has been largely absent for nearly seven years, to my son as his father? Is there an ideal setting, time? Are there any great books I can share with my son about this life changing moment.
If what he says is true, my son's father wants to be a part of his life and ultimately as his father. I am skeptical and scared that my son will have his heart broken. My son's father chose not to be a part of his life. I've raised my son with all the love I could provide him with, being very cautious about who is a part of his circle. I never wanted him to feel that he wasn't loved or wanted enough by the people in his life.
My son's father has two older children, ages 12 and 13, and is my nephew's Godfather. Because he is still friends with my brother-in-law, my son has "seen" his father, but doesn't know who he is (other than as his uncle's friend). I limit these "chance encounters", but it was at the most recent sighting that he approached me to ask if he could be a part of Ian's life.
During these past three months, my son has asked about his father, specifically, where is he and why doesn't he live with us. I've limited my answers to "he's a good man", "he doesn't live here because he's taking care of some things in his life" , etc. As difficult as it's been, the comments have always been positive (lol)...
Any guidance or insight is greatly appreciated!