Lisa - posted on 02/16/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
Please HELP! I am in the middle of a legal separation (going on for 13 mos now) - my husband filed last year after we went thru a rough patch. Shocked me - completely unexpected and, to me, unjustified as we could have worked thu things. That aside, visitation has been that my husband has our 2 sons - 8 and 6 - for one full week and 2 additional weekends per month. The 6 y.o. has high-functioning autism and does NOT want to go with Dad. The 8 y.o. adores his father, but at times states that he wishes he didn't have to go with Dad for so many weekends (3 out of 4 per month). Well, now he wants 50/50 - alternating weeks! I was stunned. These boys are too young and very sensitive. I have ALWAYS done everything in the way of taking care of them - dr's appts, parties, school registration/events/etc., holiday shopping/decorating, clothes shopping, everything necessary for my autistic son's special needs, etc. I still do all of this. I think this is a very bad idea at this point in their young lives. I know when they are older, this may be a better idea and what the boys may want.
I desperately need input as to what is appropriate, what has worked for others re: visitation, good literature on custody arrangements for young/special needs children, and any advice or experiences you would like to share. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!