Any advice on quiting breastfeeding?

Khristina - posted on 12/10/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter is 26 months old. I never intended on breastfeeding my daughter this long and I would like to stop but that does'nt seem to be an option. My daughter has NEVER taken a bottle or binky and now she is to old for those anyway. I am a single mom- I am her only caregiver with the exception of my mother for a short few hours a week. We called them mookies from the start not sure why but thats what she calls them. She is obssessed- and it's not for the nourshment anymore just the comfort. And I love that bonding time with her and am going to have a hard time giving it up. The only way I can get her to sleep at night is by brestfeeding. And she wakes up a lot thoughout the night yet- which i'm not sure if is due to a food allergy but i'm looking into that also. I've tried laying her in her bed after she goes to sleep only for her to wake up 2 hours later and want mookies. If I give them to her she immedatly goes right back to sleep. Since I'm a single mom she sleeps with me in my HUGE bed. She has her side of the bed and I have mine. When were out in public I can usualy distract her when she asks for mookies and get her interests in other things but sometimes I can't and she throws HUGE fits and even sometimes pulls my boobs out. She is really posessive and calls them hers and I correct her and tell her they belong to my body and I share them with her. Sorry this is so long- I would like to stop just cause she doesn't need them anymore and it is getting a little old for me. Do you think I should make her sleep in her own bed- does she wake up in the middle of the night simply because she knows i'm there and it's easy accsess to her mookies?? Just wanted to add that I am very a happy I have kept beastfeeding this long. My daughter talks like she is atleast a 4 year old- her knowledge is also up there around the age of 4-5 and i think that is because of all the colin sorry spelling that she gets in the breastmilk. Also she has only been sick once a very soft stomach flu. I've gotten the swine flu twice now and she didn't even get it. And she wasn't even vaccinated. So i'm happy i've kept it up i'm just getting frustrated and I would love to maybe be able to go out and have a drink sometime..haven't in almost 3 years now.. Has anyone else had any similar issues? What did you do?


Kekua - posted on 12/11/2009




Sorry I don't have a lot of advice but at night how about when she wakes up just lay up real close to her as if you were nursing, but without actually giving her one. When I was weaning my daughter I did that and as long as I was fast enough to get next to her before she really became alert, just having that proximity was enough to make her fall right back to sleep. And little by little I'd respond slower and lay a little less close and she eventually would not wake up or would just go back to sleep on her own.
For the public feeding, luckily I never had that problem but maybe you could start having the body talks about what's appropriate/personal, etc... and when you get the part about what we do/don't show you can give her reminders that it's a part of mommy's body that we don't show other people therefore the shirt stays down when we're not at home. But when she's feeling like she needs it she could instead _____. Again I'm blank on ideas for that b/c I didn't deal with it. Best of luck!

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Khristina - posted on 12/11/2009




Maybe 4 times a day she nurses somedays less when we are really busy with other things and 3-4 times at night. They are all usualy quick little 30 sec feedings sometimes a couple mins. Not very long..Wanted to add that she drinks 2% milk all thoughout the day. And loves it- she does drink from a cup. We have the big girl conversation all the time- i guess she is just not ready. It not the milk she wants from me i think but the drinking from the book that comfort. I guess you just have to be stubborn and say no and stick wth it. But yea since i'm a sinlge mommy i'm always at my wits end with her and give in a lot! if you can stick with it and just say now- keep going to get a bottle I guess.

Deidre - posted on 12/10/2009




First I'd like to congratulate you on nursing for this long! I nursed all 3 of my boys so my advice is coming from first hand knowledge. My eldest did it for a whole year, Darius was for 10 months and Ethan did it for 10 months. But what I do know for a fact is: She can SMELL it if she is in the same bed as you!! I have to lock my bedroom door right now cause they want to sleep in my bed... Not to nurse ,but for comfort. I'm sorry, but enough is enough! I have to put my foot down on this one so My house is completely baby proofed and they will try to throw a fit but eventually I WIN!!!

Question? How often is she nursing? Cause if it's once at night it should really be pretty painless for your body. If it's more than that it takes more work and a lot of pain when you can't release that pressure. The bottom line is YOU are in CHARGE of your life. YOU have made a decision to stop so do the right thing and FOLLOW through with your instincts! You've done a fanominal job thus far. Be Proud of it!

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