Sheena - posted on 07/14/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
4
24
I have been having problems with my sons biological father and the way he sas he wants to be arent but does not make much effert when he has no visitation and how he acts if my son gets upset and sas that he dont want to go with him that would cause my son mental issues that i have already seen symptoms of since he starte having visitations with his bilogical father
Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.
Join Circle of Moms
Erin - posted on 07/23/2010
5
10
How old is your son? If visitations are court ordered you may have to continue with them until you can return to court to get a modified order (if you already have one)-- if you do not have an attorney already, I would definitely get one. In most courts, you can represent your self but I definitely recommend an attorney.
If you are noticing changes in your sons behavior (dramatic or subtle) make sure you are documenting behavior. I have recommended to people I work with when noticing a change in behaviors to obtain a counselor for your child (if he is old enough-- some places work with younger children through play therapy). The reason I have told them this is that this counselor could make a recommendation to the court regarding the impact of visitation on your child.
Whereas my child isn't exhibiting any behavioral issues following visitation with his father, I have the same struggles with him stating he wants to be a parent and participate with decisions regarding our son and following through on visits. To cover my own, I always call when making any major medical decisions and let him know what options and recommendations are for the doctors. I consistently leave messages and more recently have started using email so I have documentation of my efforts (that way if he makes waves with custody issues I have the capability of showing what I am doing).
Teresa - posted on 07/16/2010
10,689
29
How old is your son? If he doesn't want to go... talk to your lawyer about going back to court.
Sheena - posted on 07/16/2010
4
24
right now my son pretty much says he dont want to go on his court ordered visits
Alyssa - posted on 07/14/2010
15
16
If he hasn't changed any and still doesn't take responsibility for his son I wouldn't let him be around. It could leave your son wondering why he didnt deserve a father that his friend might have. Or you could let your son decide if he wants his father to be around he may realize his father isn't a good father. Thats what happened with me and my father
|
Top Communities |
Topics |
Top Features |
Learn More |
 |
4 Comments
View replies by