can he sign away his rights?

MeeShell - posted on 02/23/2010 ( 68 moms have responded )

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im expecting and my babys father says soon as he can..hes signing off his rights "to dissown it". ive heard he CANT unless i agree. but even he does..would he still pay child support?

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Charlene - posted on 02/28/2010

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my ex partner gave up his right to our 2 year old son and he write a letter 2 the socile servises saying he wants nothing to do with the child as we had them on our case and i put in for child support and still waiting to see if i can get it

Tamara - posted on 02/27/2010

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As far as I have learned a father can requested to terminate his parental rights. However depending on what state you live in will determine if child support has to be paid or not. The best thing you can do now is apply for child support prior to the child being born, if there is an open case for child support (again depends on state) then even if he does terminate rights he may still have to pay support. In Ct they do not have to pay, however since a support order was say in NY and it is an open case then he would have to pay for example. Wish you the best of luck in a difficult time.

Alicia - posted on 02/27/2010

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I went through the same thing 11 years ago with my son. By law, he can't sign away his rights unless you are married and your husband plans to adopt your child. Of course, that was 11 years ago.

Christie - posted on 02/26/2010

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It depends on the state. HOWEVER, I know that in CA, AZ, TX, GA, SC, and FL just becasue a man signs his parental rights away does not mean he is not financially responsible for his child. Most states have an office of child support services, I woudl call them and ask. They usually can answer these kinds of questions.

Sharon - posted on 02/26/2010

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Each state is different, to my knowledge. First, take a step back and be realistic about everything. I myself am a single mom, and have been since 4 months pregnant. He is not on the birth certificate, and my son has my last name. The father has rights still until court documents say otherwise. For me, it is overall better since I do not have to worry about his habits (drugs/alcohol/gambling/job loss) and no arguements over visitation and other usual topics. If he does sign off his rights, there is no child support and he can not come around 15 years later and be the "Dad of the Year". Talk to your friends, family members, obgyn, and church leaders to really understand who the baby's father is and the qualities he has for parenting and be good to you both. No one has to get married or live together when a child is conceived, but you need to be healthy positive influences on the child to give the child a good upbringing. Good luck.

Brook - posted on 02/25/2010

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Most states allow the father to sign their rights over BEFORE the baby is born, but in doing so, I don't believe you will be able to collect any child support from him. The up side to that is that ALL decisions about your baby are all yours and the father can never dispute any decision you make concerning the child. He has no claim. It also makes it easier, should you move on and get married, for your new husband to adopt your child. My suggestion is to search for a family law lawyer who offers a free consultation and talk to them. Most states offer legal assistance for single parents as well. Just do some research, sweety! And good luck!!

Danielle - posted on 02/24/2010

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He cannot sign over his rights... They can be revoked if it is found that he is unfit but even in those cases he is still responsible for child support and medical until u decide to marry someone and that man adopts your child... so don't let him try to make u upset with his idle threats... if it were possible, don't u think more men would do it??

Lisa - posted on 02/24/2010

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No he can't give up his rights just because he dont' want to be responsible. It just don't work that way. Depending on what state you live in he don't have any rights unless he takes you to court and request that the judge give him rights (such as visitation rights). In some states if you take him to court for child support that also gives him visitation rights. In Ohio wher I live child support and visitation rights are two different things so my sons sperm donor is required to pay child support but has no rights to my son. He don't want anything to do with my son she he hasnt tried to get any rights to my son either.

Lisa - posted on 02/24/2010

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I live in Ohio and my sons sperm donor wanted to sign his rights away too. I contacted a lawyer because I was more than willing to allow him to do it simply becuase it's best for my son. However I was informed that if you arent married to the father he HAS no rights but is required to pay childsupport and spilt medical cost. The only way he can sign his rights away is if You are married and your husband wants to do a stepparent adoption, you agree all agree to that and the judge agrees to it. In the end it's the judges final decsion but he wont allow him to sign his rights away unless your married and that man is stepping up to be the adoptive father of the child.

Barbora Milena - posted on 02/24/2010

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dont let your anger take over you...I know how you feel, my bf left me 6wks before our baby was born...n all the way through the pregnancy he was plannin the future, choosin name the baby after his grandma...n then just said he has changed his mid n dont wanna have anythin to do with me n the baby, even questioned the paternity!!!...i could sue him for the paternity n get a good money from him, he has a well paid job, but i dont wanna...i will not choose money over my baby, puttin in risk he will change his mind n will want to split the custody or his family will push him to get the grandchild for them...you are the winner, you got beautiful healthy kid, u r not alone n u r going through a wonderful experience...he is alone n he has no idea what is he loosin..n if one day he will realize, he will never get the opportunity to go back n be there for his kid, to see the first smile, hear the first word etc...n you should have always on your mind better no daddy than bad daddy...when the right time will come, you will meet a man who deserves to be your partner n daddy to your child

MeeShell - posted on 02/24/2010

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well as of right now he dont want nothing to do with the baby. ive sent him pics and he throw them away...says he dont care. i just dont think its fair to our kid. he did nothing to prevent me from gettin preg ..so now i am he thinks he gonna get off scott free.

Barbora Milena - posted on 02/24/2010

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legit reason for what?still got to pay but u can ask for full custody n no visitation rights for him as he never cared bout the child

Barbora Milena - posted on 02/24/2010

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no he cant sign away...or better said he can, but you can still demand him to fullfill his duties, as well as the social welfare worker has do it in the name of your child. Your child has the right to be supported by 2 parents, but if he pays you need to expect he will want to be involved in the life of your child.

Deb - posted on 02/24/2010

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I believe he can sign off all rights and if he does, he does not have to pay child support. Sorry.

Gabrielle - posted on 02/24/2010

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It depends on the place where you live some states won't let a father give up thier rights because a child has the right to support from both parents

Anita - posted on 02/24/2010

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my lawyer had told me there is no way a judge would allow a father to sign away rights unless there is a legitimate reason..

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