Melissa - posted on 02/21/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
Usually I dont bring boyfriends around my daughter, who is 4 about to be 5. But last November I was dating a guy who was coming around alot to see me at night, no big deal. He saw her occasionally and they got along. Then in February I got really sick and had to move states he was basically living with me then, he was basically living with me anyway, he was basically living with me helping me get to college classes and take care of daughter. So when I had to move he really wanted to come. Now a year later to the day I went in the hospital I broke up with him. Once I was over being sick. He didnt give any effort to start trying to get to know me again, or communicate with me like people should in a relationship. It had all become a routine. Well when he left to go to a school for the air force things got worse and I suspected him of cheating and I found records and evidence of a realtionship with a woman I didnt know about. So I broke it off. Now he is still down there. Problem is in the time I was sick and the time that we were in our routine my little girl, who he paid as much attention to as I now see that he felt he had to keep me satisfied, is in love with him. She thought we were going to get married, and never having a dad wanted him to be her dad. My heart breaks for her. I just dont know what to do, or what to tell her when the time is right.