Child Support how can we get these dead beat dad to pay

Lori - posted on 07/23/2012

Any advice for collecting from an interstate child support case when the ex is a self employed contractor, has several houses hidden under his wives names? Looking how to uncover those assets and collect CS from 1200 miles away. 40k in arrears CS case open, not enforced well and no license suspensions, jail time, etc. EVER.??????

Joanne - posted on 04/29/2012

One advise tho, never ever bad mouth your child's father in front of your child; for the sake of his emotional well-being.

Ginger - posted on 04/21/2012

Umm, mine would rather go to jail for a short time then pay. He knows how to bounce around from job to job. By the time they pull up his social on payroll, he is long gone. They finally served his butt. There isn't much you can do. As long as there are orders for him to pay and he has a legit job the court will take the money out his check. If you arn't sure if they are looking for his money call child support and ask.

Kenettra - posted on 04/21/2012

Go file for child support

Jypsye - posted on 04/21/2012

We have to change the laws. I am owed $70,000.00. The courts look at these Family Law cases as a Civil case. The fact that after a certain about is owed the courts, based on law should consider it a Criminal case.

Jenny - posted on 07/14/2011

Those deadbeats will never pay. Choose your baby's father carefully. Get married and stay together, no matter what. NO MATTER WHAT. You count on the state to take another person's money and that is wrong. No custody = no child support, no matter what the law says. Don't be a slut. Go out and get a job. Your children will thank you.

Eugenie - posted on 05/22/2010

Hi Sherron, I really don't have an answer to this, but I encourage you to stay strong and keep doing the best that you can with the resources you have. Dead beat dads are just that - 'dead' Try to focus on what you can do to enhance you and your child/children's lifestyle. Trying to get child support from a dead beat will drain you physically, emotionally and otherwise. If you believe in prayer, pray about it - you may not get the result when you want it but you will get results - prayer does work! All the best Sherron! I really do pray everything works out in your favor.

Two-b - posted on 05/22/2010

AGREE

Bethany - posted on 05/22/2010

TO BE HONEST YOU WOMEN ARE MORE LUCKY THAN ME & MY DAUGHTER… WE LIVE ON A INDIAN RESERVATION IN NORTH DAKOTA… SO THE TRIBAL COURTS DONT DO NOTHING! I FILED FOR CHILD SUPPORT ONE MONTH AFTER MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN… IT WASN'T TIL A YEAR LATER WE GOT A COURT DATE SET UP… HE'S SUPPOSE TO PAY A PETTY CHECK OF $50 A MONTH! LIKE WHAT THE HECK AM I GOING TO BUY HER WITH THAT?… IT'S BEEN 4 YEARS NOW & HE STILL HASN'T PAID A DIME… I TRIED TO GET HELP FROM THE STATE COURTS, BUT THEY CAN'T HELP ME BECAUSE HE LIVES ON A INDIAN RESERVATION, BUT THEY COULD HELP IF HE MOVED OFF… BUT IMAGINE THE DAY THAT WILL HAPPEN… IT'S REALLY HARD BEING A SINGLE PARENT AND TRYING TO PAY FOR COLLEGE AS WELL…

Michelle - posted on 05/21/2010

my daughters father will send some support when he is trying to impress someone. He sent money when his mom was in town or he had a new girlfriend. He has never sent it on a regular basis. He does not see his daughter often. I just choose to let it go because I do not need the hassle in my life or my daughters. He lies to all his friends and family. He claims he pays his support and tries to see her all the time but I will not let him. I have never kept her from him. He moved to another state and that makes it more difficult to enforce. So instead of spending my time and money hunting him down I choose to lavish my daughter with all that I can. You have to decide what is best for you. Because you truly you can not force him to take on that responsibility.

Shawni - posted on 05/21/2010

yeah my sons dads only 17 but he still needs to pay for his son! he wont get a job but when he turns 18 hes getting 10000 quid inheritence money and i think he should give me some of that for his son! hes got no responsibilitys at all im doing all the work and hes just sitting back doing nothing! its ridiculous!!

AURORA - posted on 05/20/2010

i wish i knew my bd doesnt pay hell pay for a few months and then quit his job. i swear in 09 he hadabout 5 or 6 jobs. if you find out anythin let me know im tired of it and it sux bcuz he still gets to see him and he doesnt help me wit anythin!

Catrina - posted on 04/23/2010

basically i started receiving child support sometime last year. what i did was i never included the money i got from him in my budget. so that way if he stopped paying i wouldnt get screwed. which was a good thing. cause he hasnt paid me child support since october of last year. he owes me over 3 grand was threatened with going to jail and still hasnt paid me anything

Mary - posted on 04/22/2010

This is all fine and dandy if your ex boyfriend has a job and everything, but like i said in another post, you can`t draw blood from a stone, if the money isn`t there, and he doesn`t have a job, or he keeps quitting his job or whatever, then its very unlikely that you`re goign to be seeing ANYTHING soon ladies.

Kristin - posted on 04/22/2010

I agree....you have to become your own lawyer. Sometimes it's like a 2nd job but isn't your child worth it? Isn't all the hard work and long hours you put into being a good parent worth it? In California, you can have his wages garnished and if he doesn't work, then go after personal property....liens on cars, houses, and even bank accounts. There are private collection companies that will go after him also. They take a cut of what you are getting but they are much more efficient than the state agencies who are over run with cases. File orders of contempt.....the court can suspend his license or even put him in jail. As I told my son's father.....you can either handle your obligations or you can be forced to. It's tough and yes it is war, but I feel there should be consequences for those that don't take care of their children and it's worth the effort it takes.

RAQUEL - posted on 04/21/2010

it's april and my child dead beat dad get paid twice this month ,didn't send his girl not one red cent.she don't get anything from him on holidays anymore,but he is drive to florida and only lives about an couple hour from his middle child,but i have a good mind to talk with the man behind the big desk and listen to what he has to say,because$200.00 a month just isn't cutting anymore for a growing child,because you know sometimes i the money and sometimes i don't it's an excuse(christmas it's always a excuse but never again)he has alway been first at everything even his kids.I will let the big man tell him what to do because i will never call him on the phone never again ,because i've getting to the point that it has made me tired of being used by this dead beat mf dad and you something i'm going to feel good after this all over and i don't care who tells him more power to ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Marisol - posted on 10/01/2009

I was just scrolling thru all of the communities and I saw this subject. There are ways to get these dads to pay. I know of a few ladies that have used this company. They do not get paid unless you get paid. If you have a judgment with back child support due to you they have private investigators that stay on top of the case and get what ever the deadbeat dad has. Making them sell vehicles, personal property... you name it. They are nationwide but I am not sure if I could post that info in the community

Gillian - posted on 09/30/2009

i dont know where you live but i live in california. and here as long as your baby daddy has a job you can get your money as long as you file for child support. if he does not give it up willingly then they will garnish his checks so no matter what you will get your money.

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2009

Focus on you your families happiness. If you are spending so much time trying to get money from him that you are losing focus as a mother it's not worth it. You don't want your children to see you put happiness aside for money.

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2009

Quoting Maleunta:

you haveis to become your own lawyer..1st the court is only good of the info you provide on the deadbeat dad..he was your man..get off your azz search him down do not send the info to mom when he lives with his lady..pull out digital camera..if he sweep sidewalks..provide this info..take out contempt of court orders if he does not obey..if he has no job..have him lock up..he will get tired..he has programs he can join..in the meantime do your homework cont me and i will take you thur the step..i get mine..i suggest you do the same..this is a war.for our kids fight honey..fight..

This is completely true. I lost my son for 4 years & just got him back in August this year.  I lost him b/c I was in an abusive relationship.  My parents helped me hire an attorney & I did a butt load of foot work.  I found information that every professional in the court was like "I have never been in a custody case were this kind of info was brought out".  I did it.  I got his exgirlfriend to testify against him & his wife.  I got his living history, & background.  Im very proud.  I'm not getting child support yet though.  He quit his job the weekend I got my son back.  But, I totally agree, fight your butt off you'll get it eventually

Billie - posted on 09/27/2009

You know...you can do all the chasing and private investigating in the world to get them to pay. But frankly when you get to a point where you putting more energy into chasing that sorry joker for child support, than you are in enjoying your life...what's the point? Yeah he owes it to his kids, no it's not fair for him to get off free, but in the end he isn't. I filed for mine and went through the process. It worked for a while, now he's out of a job. The judge can order him to look for a job, he can be arrested. That's costing me a lot of time and energy to chase him for pennies a week. So I budget carefully, make extra money where I can, and with the help and support of family (both his and mine), my son gets what he needs and I get to enjoy my time with him without a thought of Sir Deadbeat over there. Maybe one day someone will make a way to make a man's penis stop working if he doesn't pay his child support. Bet they'd pay then and on time too!

Maleunta - posted on 09/27/2009

you haveis to become your own lawyer..1st the court is only good of the info you provide on the deadbeat dad..he was your man..get off your azz search him down do not send the info to mom when he lives with his lady..pull out digital camera..if he sweep sidewalks..provide this info..take out contempt of court orders if he does not obey..if he has no job..have him lock up..he will get tired..he has programs he can join..in the meantime do your homework cont me and i will take you thur the step..i get mine..i suggest you do the same..this is a war.for our kids fight honey..fight..

Vanessa - posted on 09/27/2009

I just sent the papers off last week! and i so dont know where to go from there!

Sally - posted on 09/26/2009

Good Luck to you to

Lanice - posted on 09/26/2009

Well as horrible as it may sound we knew this before we got pregnant. CS will only work if they work... My twins dad been on CS since they were two and has not paid a dime and is more than $40,000 in the rears! I got an attorney, but without hom havign a job, I can not get no CS! But I guess it wont hurt to try.... Good luck.....

Sally - posted on 09/26/2009

My babies dad got put in jail and now he finally has job because they made him. He is on a job release program haven't received anything yet but it usually takes about a month. My ex doesnt have a license to get taken away either.

Candice - posted on 09/26/2009

sure, court makes them pay, after the guy delays court as long as possible, after the guy gets so far behind they can take his licence, if the court can find them, if the guy keeps his "legit job", if he files his tax returns. If i ever see a dime it will be a freakin miracle.

Vicki - posted on 09/25/2009

Court makes them pay.



My son is nine months old now and the case is finally active with the Family Maintenance Enforcement Program, meaning, SOON hopefully, my son will have some money.

Heidi - posted on 09/25/2009

Have you been to the DCSE? What state are you in, that makes a big diffrence. I know in VA they take so many cases to court on certain days of the month (once a week I think) those cases are those who have not made any payments and then if there is room they take those who make small payments....

Candice - posted on 09/25/2009

i wish i knew! if you find out be sure to tell me! lol