Child Support how can we get these dead beat dad to pay

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Sandy - posted on 09/11/2013

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I'm just about at the end of my rope. Dead beat dad owes over 8,000 in back child support. Kids need dental work and have healthcare issue. I can't do this. He may or not pay the monthly 200 dollars child support. He suppose to help with health copay but don't. Quit working so he wouldn't have to pay more. I work, bust my tail and just can't see day light. What do I do

Jenny - posted on 07/14/2011

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Those deadbeats will never pay. Choose your baby's father carefully. Get married and stay together, no matter what. NO MATTER WHAT. You count on the state to take another person's money and that is wrong. No custody = no child support, no matter what the law says. Don't be a slut. Go out and get a job. Your children will thank you.

Micheal - posted on 12/27/2013

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In response to Jenny, stay with the father no matter what? Even if you are being abused and your children are also being abused and maybe your husband is bringing home something he caught from a real slut and gives you a gift that keeps giving you should stay with him for the children. You children will one day thank you for keeping them in a horrible situation and allowing their father to destroy their childhood, awesome advice Jenny!! You should be a counselor for battered women. Both parents are responsible for raising their child if they divorce, financially and emotionally. If one decides they want to run out on their children then they should be forced to take care of them financially, it takes a real low life to abandon their children. As for people like Jenny, get a clue and show a little more compassion.

Joanne - posted on 04/29/2012

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One advise tho, never ever bad mouth your child's father in front of your child; for the sake of his emotional well-being.

Catrina - posted on 04/23/2010

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basically i started receiving child support sometime last year. what i did was i never included the money i got from him in my budget. so that way if he stopped paying i wouldnt get screwed. which was a good thing. cause he hasnt paid me child support since october of last year. he owes me over 3 grand was threatened with going to jail and still hasnt paid me anything

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Maryann - posted on 01/28/2014

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Funny story after contacting the support unit today they reassured me that they sooner or later get the arrears like when they file for social security or disability. So we either have to wait for them to b old or disabled lol who needs it when I'm 70 yrs old now that's a joke to even have the ghoul to say such a thing is ridiculous

Maryann - posted on 01/28/2014

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If the enforcement bureau would help mayb the system could work but they enable them to be the deadbeats that they are it is disgusting that there are so many out there nd no help. Us as parents do the right thing work nd provide with no assistance so tired of watching my ex live shop nd eat while I struggle to keep a roof over our heads. Constantly opening bank accts w thousands in other ppl names. How to get CSEB to b more helpful nd not so nasty would b a great start!!!

Erica - posted on 01/11/2014

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Yes you can. I currently have a court order on my sons father in Ca. He is $64,000 behind and doesn't pay a dime. And they do nothing. He modified his support to $163 a month and $37 a month for arrears. And can't even pay that. And just recently took me back to court for custody of our son in the hopes of getting his child support dropped. He lost of course and made himself look really stupid!! This man is a joke. I hate to say this but get used to doing it on your own!! You can do it. I left California and moved back home to Louisiana. I live on my own. It's hard but I keep on trying.

Monique - posted on 11/26/2013

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I'm so frustrated with my daughter's father. He is courted ordered to pay child support. But he keeps quitting his jobs. And then pays only like $100 each month. But then he all of a sudden he has money to take his girlfriend out on dates. And on top of that he lives at home with his parents, doesn't have any type of "REAL" bills to pay. Truthfully, I could really raise on my own without his help, I would a total of almost 80hrs every two weeks. And I do this so my daughter can be happy....I don't know what to do... I just wish the the courts would see what he is doing lock him up. Just to show that he can't just up a quit jobs, he has responsibilities.

Smith - posted on 09/17/2013

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I THINK WE ALL HAVE TO BAN TOGETHER AND GET ON THE GOVT. MINE WORKS UNDER THE TABLE COLLECTS WELFARE AND NOTHING IS BEING DONE ABOUT IT HE HAS BEEN REPORTED FOR WELFARE FRAUD AND NOTHING. HE ALSO DECLARED A FALSE BANKRUPTCY STILL NOTHING. WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR OUR CHILDREN TO GET WHATS COMING TO THEM. HE DRIVES AROUND PARTS OF ONTARIO,SPENDS HIS MONEY ON BOOZE AND SAYS HE HAS NONE. HE IS A FLORIST AND THEY GO ALONG WITH HIM.

Karla Marie - posted on 09/15/2013

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Hello Mommy's
Im a mom of a 1 Year old girl! she a beautiful calm and smart girl ♥
However im currently on a thin line with her Father we have been friends since i was 7 and im currently 21(long long time i know) we met through my brother they were bfs and when i got older(19) we started looking at each other in a dating sorta way. The father is 29 he has a lot of emotional problems with his family and a bit of a temper i could tell you all his stress but i probably would get kicked off the website for exceeding the typing limit lol. He can be a great guy but he hasn't worked for a year and he left us to live with my family since we had to move back in with my family since he quit his job as of dec 2 2012 and my company i was permanently shut down that same week! my daughter was only a couple months old i was financially stressed out my whole pregnancy he was always fighting with my putting me through hell and drinking and smoking i couldn't believe this was my life. The only safe haven was knowing i would have someone else with me soon my little girl.She kept me going that is also what led me to sticking around with her father because now one wants divorced parent lets face it NO ONES PARENTS ARE TOGETHER ANYMORE. But we aren't i still have faith but im not going to be the one who get hurt and i have to worry about my daughter so im going to try and receive child support in the state of CA and i dont know how to start there are the Gov websites but i wanted to hear it from all you mommys! Please my main Q is. Can i still receive child support if my baby daddy isn't working.

Thank you love you momma lets all stay strong for eachother ♥

Triona - posted on 08/01/2013

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My goodness Jenny May... what an awful person you are. Many of us did choose our husbands/wives/so's carefully... we did fall in love, get married/engaged... and cheated on... abandoned... and left to raise children on our own without the help of deadbeat dads/moms. We are painfully aware of the fact that they will most likely never pay the child support owed. Most of us are employed and support our children 100%. We have to, there is no choice when these men/women choose to shirk social and personal responsibility. They hide like criminals, working under the table, hiding assets and behaving in an all around "shady" manner. If a custodial parent were to cease caring for a child, this would be deemed neglect and is a punishable offense. Deadbeat parents neglect their children, it should be a punishable offense. You state that we should "get married and stay together no matter what"... wow, that's a line of hooey. Number one, many of us fought for our families, and they still left. Some of us were abused, and treated terribly... cheated on, in my case he literally didn't come home one weekend. I was calling hospitals and the police. He showed up two weeks later and after a "vacation" with another woman. He left me. He then physically and illegally removed us from our home. Does he pay any of the court ordered $970/mo in child support that he owes (and can more than afford). Nope. (My daughter is 5 1/2 and he owes over 50k in back support. It would be 60k... but it took them almost a year to track him down). Do I have custody, yes. Have I gone to court repeatedly, yes. Does it do a darn bit of good... no. I work and am a full time student. I don't sleep a great deal. But, my daughter is well cared for, she is well-dressed, has everything and more than she needs, I'm very lucky to have an amazing little girl. Bottom line, we are not sluts, we are mothers. We are not lazy, we are mothers. Most of us have jobs... to support out children. Our children who not only thank us, but love us.

"Those deadbeats will never pay. Choose your baby's father carefully. Get married and stay together, no matter what. NO MATTER WHAT. You count on the state to take another person's money and that is wrong. No custody = no child support, no matter what the law says. Don't be a slut. Go out and get a job. Your children will thank you."

Faye - posted on 07/30/2013

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One of the other moms made comment about not including the Child Support in your monthly budget. That is what I did. As soon as I received the first payment, I had the money direct deposited into the savings account, that way I never see it and IF he quit paying then I would not ever know until I looked at that account.

How to solve the dead beats from paying, I have no idea. I think it is US federal law now that if the amount owed the children is over so much money, then not only is the DL taken but hunting and fishing licenses are also not allowed to be purchased. I do know that a passport will not be issued if there is a back balance owed of more than $2500.

But my question is: if the non paying parent is tossed in jail for nonpayment of support, then how are they supposed to keep a job to pay that support? I have yet to have a judge explain that one to me.

Another question I have is which states require the nonpaying parent to get a job? I can tell you KS does not require that. Which I think is sad. They can make a felon get a job to pay his debts back to society but not a parent in need of paying support.

Jonathan - posted on 07/20/2013

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Hi Mommies,

I am a Daddy and I joined this since I am the custodial parent.

The children's mother was convicted of assault and battery to myself and one my two children. She broke the restraining order more than a dozen times and was convicted on 6 of them. She also allowed a boyfriend of hers to beat my son while I was at work and there is a investigation on this and sexual molestation to him as well. He has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD. She is not allowed to see my son since there are emotional triggors that he has and the court is seeking therapeutic or supervised visitation. My daughter has to see her mother monthly on a unsupervised visit in a public setting. This is just the quick details and yes I had worked with CPS since they contacted when my son was an infant. I pressed charges against her at my breaking point.. NO, I never hit her.

We are not finally divorced yet.

Their mother is asking for spousal support and attorney fees in California. She will not get this since she attacked me. The law states victims do not pay spousal support in California.

The uncharted waters that I am having a problem with is that she wants the majority of the assets and equity and does not want to work. I am paying for medical, orthodontics, clothes, optometrists, food, entertainment, etc... for the children. I have no issue with that and I do it without hesitation. However, I think that she should pay child support and if she does not want to work she should surrender some portion of her share of the assets. This has been going on for three years, now.

Does anyone have any experience with a DEAD BEAT DAD this bad? If so, please give some navigation techniques, tactics and strategies.

Thanks In Advance

Jonathan

Jane - posted on 06/11/2013

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My dad owes 20000+, supposed to pay 200 every other week, but pays 200 a year. Been going on since I was 1-2 now am almost 16 and broke.

Lori - posted on 07/23/2012

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Any advice for collecting from an interstate child support case when the ex is a self employed contractor, has several houses hidden under his wives names? Looking how to uncover those assets and collect CS from 1200 miles away. 40k in arrears CS case open, not enforced well and no license suspensions, jail time, etc. EVER.??????

Ginger - posted on 04/21/2012

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Umm, mine would rather go to jail for a short time then pay. He knows how to bounce around from job to job. By the time they pull up his social on payroll, he is long gone. They finally served his butt. There isn't much you can do. As long as there are orders for him to pay and he has a legit job the court will take the money out his check. If you arn't sure if they are looking for his money call child support and ask.

Jypsye - posted on 04/21/2012

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We have to change the laws. I am owed $70,000.00. The courts look at these Family Law cases as a Civil case. The fact that after a certain about is owed the courts, based on law should consider it a Criminal case.

Eugenie - posted on 05/22/2010

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Hi Sherron, I really don't have an answer to this, but I encourage you to stay strong and keep doing the best that you can with the resources you have. Dead beat dads are just that - 'dead' Try to focus on what you can do to enhance you and your child/children's lifestyle. Trying to get child support from a dead beat will drain you physically, emotionally and otherwise. If you believe in prayer, pray about it - you may not get the result when you want it but you will get results - prayer does work! All the best Sherron! I really do pray everything works out in your favor.

Bethany - posted on 05/22/2010

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TO BE HONEST YOU WOMEN ARE MORE LUCKY THAN ME & MY DAUGHTER… WE LIVE ON A INDIAN RESERVATION IN NORTH DAKOTA… SO THE TRIBAL COURTS DONT DO NOTHING! I FILED FOR CHILD SUPPORT ONE MONTH AFTER MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN… IT WASN'T TIL A YEAR LATER WE GOT A COURT DATE SET UP… HE'S SUPPOSE TO PAY A PETTY CHECK OF $50 A MONTH! LIKE WHAT THE HECK AM I GOING TO BUY HER WITH THAT?… IT'S BEEN 4 YEARS NOW & HE STILL HASN'T PAID A DIME… I TRIED TO GET HELP FROM THE STATE COURTS, BUT THEY CAN'T HELP ME BECAUSE HE LIVES ON A INDIAN RESERVATION, BUT THEY COULD HELP IF HE MOVED OFF… BUT IMAGINE THE DAY THAT WILL HAPPEN… IT'S REALLY HARD BEING A SINGLE PARENT AND TRYING TO PAY FOR COLLEGE AS WELL…

Michelle - posted on 05/21/2010

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my daughters father will send some support when he is trying to impress someone. He sent money when his mom was in town or he had a new girlfriend. He has never sent it on a regular basis. He does not see his daughter often. I just choose to let it go because I do not need the hassle in my life or my daughters. He lies to all his friends and family. He claims he pays his support and tries to see her all the time but I will not let him. I have never kept her from him. He moved to another state and that makes it more difficult to enforce. So instead of spending my time and money hunting him down I choose to lavish my daughter with all that I can. You have to decide what is best for you. Because you truly you can not force him to take on that responsibility.

Shawni - posted on 05/21/2010

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yeah my sons dads only 17 but he still needs to pay for his son! he wont get a job but when he turns 18 hes getting 10000 quid inheritence money and i think he should give me some of that for his son! hes got no responsibilitys at all im doing all the work and hes just sitting back doing nothing! its ridiculous!!

AURORA - posted on 05/20/2010

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i wish i knew my bd doesnt pay hell pay for a few months and then quit his job. i swear in 09 he hadabout 5 or 6 jobs. if you find out anythin let me know im tired of it and it sux bcuz he still gets to see him and he doesnt help me wit anythin!

Mary - posted on 04/22/2010

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This is all fine and dandy if your ex boyfriend has a job and everything, but like i said in another post, you can`t draw blood from a stone, if the money isn`t there, and he doesn`t have a job, or he keeps quitting his job or whatever, then its very unlikely that you`re goign to be seeing ANYTHING soon ladies.

Kristin - posted on 04/22/2010

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I agree....you have to become your own lawyer. Sometimes it's like a 2nd job but isn't your child worth it? Isn't all the hard work and long hours you put into being a good parent worth it? In California, you can have his wages garnished and if he doesn't work, then go after personal property....liens on cars, houses, and even bank accounts. There are private collection companies that will go after him also. They take a cut of what you are getting but they are much more efficient than the state agencies who are over run with cases. File orders of contempt.....the court can suspend his license or even put him in jail. As I told my son's father.....you can either handle your obligations or you can be forced to. It's tough and yes it is war, but I feel there should be consequences for those that don't take care of their children and it's worth the effort it takes.

RAQUEL - posted on 04/21/2010

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it's april and my child dead beat dad get paid twice this month ,didn't send his girl not one red cent.she don't get anything from him on holidays anymore,but he is drive to florida and only lives about an couple hour from his middle child,but i have a good mind to talk with the man behind the big desk and listen to what he has to say,because$200.00 a month just isn't cutting anymore for a growing child,because you know sometimes i the money and sometimes i don't it's an excuse(christmas it's always a excuse but never again)he has alway been first at everything even his kids.I will let the big man tell him what to do because i will never call him on the phone never again ,because i've getting to the point that it has made me tired of being used by this dead beat mf dad and you something i'm going to feel good after this all over and i don't care who tells him more power to ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Marisol - posted on 10/01/2009

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I was just scrolling thru all of the communities and I saw this subject. There are ways to get these dads to pay. I know of a few ladies that have used this company. They do not get paid unless you get paid. If you have a judgment with back child support due to you they have private investigators that stay on top of the case and get what ever the deadbeat dad has. Making them sell vehicles, personal property... you name it. They are nationwide but I am not sure if I could post that info in the community

Gillian - posted on 09/30/2009

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i dont know where you live but i live in california. and here as long as your baby daddy has a job you can get your money as long as you file for child support. if he does not give it up willingly then they will garnish his checks so no matter what you will get your money.

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2009

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Focus on you your families happiness. If you are spending so much time trying to get money from him that you are losing focus as a mother it's not worth it. You don't want your children to see you put happiness aside for money.

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2009

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Quoting Maleunta:

you haveis to become your own lawyer..1st the court is only good of the info you provide on the deadbeat dad..he was your man..get off your azz search him down do not send the info to mom when he lives with his lady..pull out digital camera..if he sweep sidewalks..provide this info..take out contempt of court orders if he does not obey..if he has no job..have him lock up..he will get tired..he has programs he can join..in the meantime do your homework cont me and i will take you thur the step..i get mine..i suggest you do the same..this is a war.for our kids fight honey..fight..



This is completely true. I lost my son for 4 years & just got him back in August this year.  I lost him b/c I was in an abusive relationship.  My parents helped me hire an attorney & I did a butt load of foot work.  I found information that every professional in the court was like "I have never been in a custody case were this kind of info was brought out".  I did it.  I got his exgirlfriend to testify against him & his wife.  I got his living history, & background.  Im very proud.  I'm not getting child support yet though.  He quit his job the weekend I got my son back.  But, I totally agree, fight your butt off you'll get it eventually

Billie - posted on 09/27/2009

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You know...you can do all the chasing and private investigating in the world to get them to pay. But frankly when you get to a point where you putting more energy into chasing that sorry joker for child support, than you are in enjoying your life...what's the point? Yeah he owes it to his kids, no it's not fair for him to get off free, but in the end he isn't. I filed for mine and went through the process. It worked for a while, now he's out of a job. The judge can order him to look for a job, he can be arrested. That's costing me a lot of time and energy to chase him for pennies a week. So I budget carefully, make extra money where I can, and with the help and support of family (both his and mine), my son gets what he needs and I get to enjoy my time with him without a thought of Sir Deadbeat over there. Maybe one day someone will make a way to make a man's penis stop working if he doesn't pay his child support. Bet they'd pay then and on time too!

Maleunta - posted on 09/27/2009

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you haveis to become your own lawyer..1st the court is only good of the info you provide on the deadbeat dad..he was your man..get off your azz search him down do not send the info to mom when he lives with his lady..pull out digital camera..if he sweep sidewalks..provide this info..take out contempt of court orders if he does not obey..if he has no job..have him lock up..he will get tired..he has programs he can join..in the meantime do your homework cont me and i will take you thur the step..i get mine..i suggest you do the same..this is a war.for our kids fight honey..fight..

Vanessa - posted on 09/27/2009

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I just sent the papers off last week! and i so dont know where to go from there!

Lanice - posted on 09/26/2009

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Well as horrible as it may sound we knew this before we got pregnant. CS will only work if they work... My twins dad been on CS since they were two and has not paid a dime and is more than $40,000 in the rears! I got an attorney, but without hom havign a job, I can not get no CS! But I guess it wont hurt to try.... Good luck.....

Sally - posted on 09/26/2009

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My babies dad got put in jail and now he finally has job because they made him. He is on a job release program haven't received anything yet but it usually takes about a month. My ex doesnt have a license to get taken away either.

Candice - posted on 09/26/2009

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sure, court makes them pay, after the guy delays court as long as possible, after the guy gets so far behind they can take his licence, if the court can find them, if the guy keeps his "legit job", if he files his tax returns. If i ever see a dime it will be a freakin miracle.

Vicki - posted on 09/25/2009

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Court makes them pay.



My son is nine months old now and the case is finally active with the Family Maintenance Enforcement Program, meaning, SOON hopefully, my son will have some money.

Heidi - posted on 09/25/2009

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Have you been to the DCSE? What state are you in, that makes a big diffrence. I know in VA they take so many cases to court on certain days of the month (once a week I think) those cases are those who have not made any payments and then if there is room they take those who make small payments....

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