Dating

Jessica - posted on 06/26/2010

I'm glad I scrolled through the posts: I was going to ask this question. I guess I'll read the answers. ;-D
Best wishes, Karmen!

Ramelle - posted on 06/24/2010

Being a single mom for 11 years it is hard to step out and date. We do deserve adult conversation and companionship;although I rarely date when I do I wait until I am serious about the guy before he meets my son.

EB - posted on 06/24/2010

Adult conversation and companionship is something we all need. Dating is between you and the person you are with, and the details aren't for your kids. Until it is someone special and worthy of meeting your kids, then it is just a friend and limited access might be best. It also helps is the relationship doesn't go futher. Kids get hurt easy.
If you decide to take things further, then you can introduce your friend and do things with your children as friends. Limit the PDA the first few times so your children get to know him; then they'll have a chance to like him for who he is and not fight for / against because mom does. Just make sure that when you're ready that the guy is worth introducing to your kids before you do it.

Stacey - posted on 06/24/2010

Dating is what it is. Seeing if a personality fits your personality. Remember, your child is not always gonna like who you are dating. But, dating is good for you. You need adult time. Trust me!

Angelica - posted on 06/23/2010

Well its not good to take her around guys all the time but when you meet someone that you think could possibly work for you then there is no harm in taking him to meet your daughter. She may or may not like him but youll never find out unless you try.

Sharon - posted on 06/23/2010

Although it is healthy to have some nervousness about dating, I feel the best thing for children to know is just that you are socializing with friends. I would wait to introduce a date in the first weeks to any child, and start introducing a potential long term relationship to adult family members and friends first. Really get to know someone before they meet your children or come by your home, do a background check if you can to be really sure of this person. When you are on a date, try to feel good about it and have fun since feeling guilty will only make it tough on you. You deserve to socialize!!

Emily - posted on 06/22/2010

I'm with Rebecca. I don't plan to introduce any guys to my baby other than once or twice to see how they get along until I am pretty serious about him. This is good for all of you... I used to be a stepmom, and I married the wrong guy partly because I was so in love with his kid. If you wait until you know you are compatible with a guy, you can cut down the risk of heartbreak, and you won't be bringing lots of people around.
We single moms need to give ourselves permission to get out here and there and do something just for our own happiness. Happy you helps make for happy baby!

Rebecca - posted on 06/21/2010

there's nothing wrong with starting to date again. you deserve to be happy and move on wit your life.
get a babysitter and just tell your little one that you are going out with a friend and that you will be home soon. what you might want to do is instead of having the guy come over and pick you up is go meet him at the location and dont bring him back to your place or spend the night at his.
if you and the guy are serious and think that the relationship will be going somewhere then start to bring him around your child. take it slow and dont promise your child anything.