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Do ever feel that folks think you are complaining about being a single mommy when you are just tryning to say " I need a brake!"

Angelic - posted on 06/09/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Sometimes people burn me up when they laugh or joke about me needing a brake from "mommyhood" as I call it. Hard to express to married people or others in general that I love my two sons but If I don't get mommy time, I think I will go nuts! Granted, they are mine, I made whatever mistakes that lead me to be a single mother but it doesn't mean that we don't deserve a time to hear our own thoughts and do what we like. I went on leave from my everyday Army job for about 3 weeks. Great to be away from work, but I had my kids with me from start to end, from this state to the next and back to mine. People as me, how was my leave and I say it was okay or nice...I like being with my boys, but I like being able to miss them too. I was dying for some alone time while i was on leave and really didn't get any. When I expressed on facebook how i needed time and a sitter, not many of my friend replied to that and I felt that 2 were mocking me. I just want to vent to someone that understands the love of a mother, but yet her personal wants and needs that we hardly ever ahere to. Tomorrow is a training holiday for us Army folk but daycare is still open(thank God), so I will be dropping off my boys and my plan is to get that much desired alone time! Hope it goes as planned..the last time I had a real fun evening or day to myself was in feb, work and TDY missions to other countries do not count...time away but its still all military stuff and thier rules...I know I can't possibly be wrong for feeling like this....

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Jurnee - posted on 06/09/2011

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You are not alone! I have been a single mother forever it feels like, my kids are 26,23,17 and 8. Surprisingly the one who understands the most is my married daughter with 2 babies of her own. She saw me struggle the most and is always willing to help with my youngest. I was talking to a friend the other day and I was complaining about the day to day stress of the kids, just venting I guess. His response was he love spending time with his kids, well of course he does, they live with their mom most of the time, he gets the fun stuff. I have also had people tell me "well then maybe you shouldnt have had kids", really, I love my kids, raised them all alone mostly but everyone needs me time. The funny thing is that when married women say the same thing, people tend to agree with them. I am lucky though that I do have some close friends and family that are usually willing to help,and are understanding. Motherhood is hard work, and being in the military must be really hard. Dont let other people get to you, find the time you need, you and the kids will be better for it. Because seriously, I know my kids dont like to be around cranky mommy,lol.

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