Do I give my soon to be new baby my ex husbands last name or my maiden name??

Patricia - posted on 11/26/2012

i wish i would have given my kids my last all 10 of them i have been married twice

Carynn - posted on 10/06/2012

I gave my daughter my name!

Ashley - posted on 10/03/2012

Do your gut tells you. Do you ever plan on going back to your maiden name? If so, use that. If not, then I would go with the one your keeping unless you plan on getting remarried. When I was pregnant with my now almost 2 year old, his sperm donor denied him so I gave him my last name. When he git the dba rezults he wantrd it changed and I agreed as lobg as he was going to be there for him. Almost 2 years later, he has proved not to be any kind of father to him. Im now back with my ex, who I have 2 oldet boys with, and he is the only daddy my baby has known. He treats him like the others and is a grwat dad to all my kids. We are getting married and he is goibg to adopt my baby and were changing his last name to his, which is the last name my other 2 have. Do what you feek is best.

Christina - posted on 06/06/2010

i think you should do your maiden name or the babies father last name. i do believe you are able to name the baby any name you want too even if he isn't on the birth certificate.

Liz - posted on 06/06/2010

My baby has my maiden name even though I still use my married name. I ended up hyphenating my name. So I use my married name when calling dr's or schools about my older 2 and my maiden name when calling about the baby. As for my older kids, they're almost 9 and 6, and they understand that Michael has a different daddy so he has a different name. They also understand that his father is not involved and that is why he has my maiden name. I think older kids are far more intune to what is going on then we give them credit. I had debated on using my ex-h's last name for Michael but it didn't feel right.

Sharmon - posted on 06/05/2010

You have a tough situation, but I think that it would be best for you all to have the same last name. It will give all your kids a sense of security and belonging. If one is different than the other two without the father being in the picture that child will have questions and issues later on. Kids have enough to deal with without wondering why their last names are different than the rest of the family. Pray about it though and do what feels best to you.

JESSICA - posted on 06/04/2010

ask ur kids what they want and go with that

JESSICA - posted on 06/04/2010

i'm in the same boat. i've decided to give the baby the same last name as my 2 other children so none of them have to explain anything more than they want to. my son is 6yr and he picked his 3yr sisters name same goes for this one. he said to use same last name cuz its his and its his brother!

Kellie - posted on 06/04/2010

I agree w/ Rebecca, your maided name is a good choice.

Brittney - posted on 06/03/2010

Definately give the baby your name. I made the mistake of giving my daughter her fathers name and in the end it came back to bite me. That gives them rights that any man who walks out on a child should not be entitled to!

Aneel - posted on 06/03/2010

I would go with using both last names hyphenated. This way, the child has the same last name as its siblings along with your last name for legal reasons.

Jennifer - posted on 06/03/2010

i would do yours because it will be much easier to travel internationally (ie get passport) or really any thing if have same last name

Jessi - posted on 06/03/2010

actually he can't force the name change if anyone has objections (i.e. mom). my brother got his name changed to our dad's name but he had to put a listing in the paper & in that listing the court put a posting that if anyone objected to the matter they needed to contact the court house.

Eva - posted on 06/03/2010

If your ex will be involved give the child his name. In IL, once paternity is set, he can force the name change. You loose that choice if he is paying child support and has rights.

Serene - posted on 06/03/2010

Give your baby your last name. why should your child deserve to have its absent parents last name? I'm 38 weeks pregnant and my daughter is going to have my last name and the father, well he isn't going to be in the picture either, so the birth certificate is going to be blank when it askes about the father. She will have my last name. The father has been so absent with this pregnancy he doesn't even know where i am delivering or naming her....

Cecilia - posted on 06/03/2010

Hi Kimberly, my first child has my maiden name, the father isn't really in his life and we weren't married so I didn't feel that it was right he have his surname. I am now pregnant to another man with a very much unplanned pregnancy, at this point the father wants to try make things work but I can't see it happening, however we are compromising or trying to on the both surnames being used separated with a hyphen between both, you could have his surname and yours, which kind of gives your surname, or because of your cirucumstances maybe best just your surname.

Michelle - posted on 06/02/2010

ok here is the deal, kids want to feel like they belong and if this baby is the only one with a different last name they aren't going to feel like part of the family....my son has both mine and my ex husbands last name because he couldn't understand why my brothers kids got to have the same last name as me and he didn't. It is one thing to give baby your maiden name if that is the name you are using but if you and the other two children are using the married name then I would go with the same name or a hyphenated name for the new baby

Kimberly - posted on 06/02/2010

thx for the helpfully comments..ive been divorced for 4 yrs and never took my name back bc i hv 2 kids w my ex husband now i find myself pregnant and hv no idea where the father took off to..no matter what there going to give the baby my married name at the hospital unless i change it otherwise on the birth certificate..my other kids dnt understand why the new baby would hv a different last name and my ex husband, along with a bunch of other ppl, keep asking me what last name im going to give it..if i give the new baby my maiden name how do i explain it to my kids???

JuLeah - posted on 06/02/2010

For school records and such, it is easier if the child has your last name. MHO

Jessi - posted on 06/02/2010

if he's not gonna be there then give the baby your name especially if you are changing your name back.

Sabrina - posted on 06/02/2010

well i think it maybe a good thing to give ur maiden name.cuz u never know the father could change his mind and be there for u both. and even if he doesn't the baby is ur.i hope thing work out for u

Rebecca - posted on 06/02/2010

i would give the baby your maiden name.
you never know what will happen in your future. if you change your last name back to your maiden name or if you get remarried.
why give the father the privelage of the baby having his name if he wants nothing to do with the child.